What's the top 3 things in a session that elevate the encounter from an average to an exceptional experience for you?
I'll start the bidding
1. Attitude - as the saying goes "If your looks are a 10, but your attitude is a 5 - then you are a 5"
2. Flexibility - physical helps 
but more about reading the mood, being led or leading as the mood dictates
3. Professionalism - overlaps with the first 2, but the subtle things like clean-up, pampering, timeliness, friendliness, respect of everyone's time, discretion
As I compiled this list, I kinda surprised myself that price, age, looks, body-type, dress, appearance, mechanics, and the sweaty, nitty-gritty were not (albeit important) in my top 3. I looked at some of my reviews and found that in all of the ladies that I have seen the superficial elements are very varied, but the constant factor of "average versus exceptional" are more ethereal.
And nice list - I totally agree with your number 1. Actually all of your points but I'm not a copycat. :-p
1) Attitude - if a lady has a great attitude I'll take that over physical perfection any day. Nothing beats enthusiasm. I mean nothing. Let me know you are happy to see me and appreciate me as a client and as a person. Great customer service is the cornerstone for repeat clientele.
2) Creativity - if you can get me to experience something new or think differently then you're a keeper. Boredom and routine is a relationship killer. Even in the hobby. Invent a new position, tell me a hot dream you want to play out, or meet me in bed with a blindfold on - I don't care, it's the thought that counts.
3) A great sense of humor - the ladies I've had long relationships with have all had an excellent sense of humor. Well, they continued to see me so I suppose they had to. Being able to laugh at strange or stressful situations comes in handy. Constantly. And it shows a general well adjustedness for dealing with the real world. And crazy people. Like me.
4) I know we said only 3, but a 4th would be a really nice booty. Squeezable, spankable, soft, lovely, and ... Oh, did I get carried away again? All of my "must haves" can't be purely intellectual can they? A booty to make the angels weep. For sure
No particular order, but they seem to fall under the 'attention to detail' banner:
Food. I've had ladies who have served pie, baked fresh cookies, made appetizers if not an actual dinner. The idea of "Welcome home, baby. I made something extra special for you." is a greater turn-on. Food is an incredible "attention to detail" kinda thing where minimal efforts by the lady get maximum appreciation from me.
Keep the bathroom simple. 4 varieties of men's bathing gel in the tub remind me that I'm not the only man she's seeing, likely not even that day. Ladies who inquire about my preferences in soaps and other such seemingly small details usually end up making me feel like a million when reality says I ain't worth squat.
A neat but not immaculate incall. Serviceable furniture. No gleaning, never used stove/oven, No "just shampooed the carpets" smell. The walkways have been vacuumed, there's an errant pillow, looks lived in. Someplace that looks and feels more like a home than her actual office.
In regards to Flexibility, Caldon, I'll add the "flexibility of the appointment time" in addition to those you mentioned. I''m speaking of ladies who understand my lack of luck in ATL traffic and are willing to give me a +/- on the start time. Ladies who say "I can't make it on that day/time after all, but would you like to see me on this day/time that I don't regularly work?" (professional and flexible). Ladies who are not clock watchers (though I'm still not sure how they get My watch to speed up too).
Good thread,
ga_kos
If she kisses well. (builds intimacy)
if she is a good conversationalist ( good at an intercourse )
if she is punctual ( this is rare, I know )
They do kind of overlap in many ways, though.
Attitude is most important for me.
If she doesn't aim to please, she is not a provider.
I dont go to a provider to masturbate against her body.
That personal connection has to be established, and for that,
attitude is the single most important and basic thing.
Falls into three categories. I know there's some overlap.
Physical: Pictures are accurate, she is as clean as she expects me to be, and incall is tidy (soap and clean towels available, no bathroom mold, etc.).
Professional: Punctual, clean, wants to please and be pleased, no rush session
Psychological: We connect, she loves what she does (and I love doing it to her), sensuality.
1. Legs
2. Oral skills
3. Butt
Physical Attraction 10 - A woman should , enhance looks according to her body type using makeup, perfume, sexy clothing. Set the meeting with a smile , a hug, compliments, sexy moves, taking his hand , arm leading him , helping him to undress or help the lady disrobe what ever seems appropriate. It's easy for a 6 to become an 8 if she is enthusiastic. Its harder to change the physical, but you can enhance what you have but doubtful to make a 6 a 10.
Experienced enthusiastic lover 10- Knowing the body and what makes a man receive the most pleasure. This requires being adaptive to a mans body type and personality. I like it soft and slow with sliding low fruit (lol) , grinding type taking a long time till completion. I'm sure some men like it harder with more macho type moves to completion. Knowing various positions can enhance either outcome. Once again a 6 can become an 8 or higher just by being enthusiastic . Almost any woman can be a 9. An embrace and extended hug at completion makes for a successful meeting.
Clean and safe venue with the market determining the price.
My question is what role do you play in the thing being cool?
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For the most part, I've been accused of being a right gentleman, or right vanilla, or just plain right.
On rare occasions, I'm a right ass.
But I'm always right, even if not technically correct (the best kind of correct).
For my part, I do a bit of research. I'm not a TOFTT kinda guy - but on occasion I've been a early adopter. Through my relatively thorough research I have almost never had a situation where someone opened the door and I decided to walk away. *knocks on morning wood for luck*
So my part is mostly in my selection process.
I rarely get declined an appt, and feel no malice when it happens as rejection is another part of life. Life goes on.
Hope your having Happy Hump Day,
ga_kos
I largely agree with kosh in his "the customer is always right" philosophy. The ladies are in a service industry and to get repeat clientele they have to make an outstanding first impression. And second. And third... Their service must be top notch to keep those "regular" clients. It's the nature of the business.
That said, I also get where you are coming from bballs.
Do we guys have a responsibility to our ladies? Absolutely - to be on time, have good hygiene, to respect personal and sexual boundaries, and generally try not to be a creepazoid. You know, the whole "upscale gentleman" thing. And personally (with regard to your question) I try to make sure my attitude is top notch too. I think going in with the vibe of "I'm going to have a great time no matter what happens" helps immensely. I think on this point you should meet the lady at least half way. Or at least if you want to have a great time. Which presumably you do. Otherwise you are about to waste a whole bunch of money.
I used to frequent comedy clubs when I was young and even tried some material at some open mics. I was always fascinated by the comic/crowd interaction. You got to see folks in the audience that have their arms crossed with a scowl on their face that you know are thinking "you better make me laugh funny man." Then there are others that are drinking and laughing, having a nice time, and open to being entertained. And it helped me when I was in the audience to try to be open to enjoyment. And yes, sometimes it just doesn't come... but being in that mindset always helped me to have a good time. Not to mention I am very empathetic now to anyone trying hard but bombing miserably.
The hobby is kind of like comedy. Well, some days more than others, lol. When I was a younger hobbiest I sometimes went in with my arms crossed (ok, figuratively speaking) thinking "this girl better impress me." But when I began to realize 1) sex is a team sport and 2) you'll have a much better time if you're both having fun - then things changed. My positive energy became contagious and I almost always I had a great time.
That's not to say you shouldn't have your standards and high expectations, but (to bballs comment) I think we should also carry in a positive attitude along with that donation envelope
There have been a very few times for me where the chemistry didn't quite click, but I've never had a bad or even poor experience with a lady. It's all about attitude and the little things.
I love the lady who says: " I would love to rock your world. Let's make this time even better than the last!
