When I start working on a girl, I tell her I'm going to keep at it until she gets off, I also to tell them that I don't want any faking. Them I make sure to ask for help if I don't seem to be getting anywhere. One girl moved me around, told what direction to move, how much pressure to apply, and how fast to go and told me not to look at her because she has to concentrate to get off. It took about 40 minutes, but she got there and she thanked me for taking the time. I don't claim to be good enough to get any girl to orgasm, so I'm just honest with them. I tell every girl that if it's not going to happen, then so be it. I would rather have a girl ask me to stop then to fake an orgasm. All of them have complied, and with their help I have given some great orgasms to a lot of girls. So just talk to your dates and they will help you get them there. If not, no biggie.
I've been reading a lot of the discussions on TER and I'm frankly feeling a bit inadequate. Are providers really having orgasms with their clients? I'm relatively new to the hobby (i've had three encounters in several months) but i've never had a provider orgasm but I sure would love for it to happen.
I don't believe half of what I read. When I see a review, where a hobbyist boasts about giving a provider multiple orgasms, a couple things come to mind. 1) He's full of shit 2)She's a very good actress 3) He actually did
remember, practice makes perfect, so practice, practice, practice.
Some women orgasm fairly infrequently. It wouldn't hurt to ask the lady you're with to show you how to help her along with the task.
When I start working on a girl, I tell her I'm going to keep at it until she gets off, I also to tell them that I don't want any faking. Them I make sure to ask for help if I don't seem to be getting anywhere. One girl moved me around, told what direction to move, how much pressure to apply, and how fast to go and told me not to look at her because she has to concentrate to get off. It took about 40 minutes, but she got there and she thanked me for taking the time. I don't claim to be good enough to get any girl to orgasm, so I'm just honest with them. I tell every girl that if it's not going to happen, then so be it. I would rather have a girl ask me to stop then to fake an orgasm. All of them have complied, and with their help I have given some great orgasms to a lot of girls. So just talk to your dates and they will help you get them there. If not, no biggie.
I've always worked on theory "what good is having a party if not everyone cums!!!"
Asking her if what you are doing is working for her, and "what can I do better" is always a good thing!!! The guidance you might receive is unbelievable.
if a client announces to me that he's not going to stop till I come, then it puts an awful lot of pressure on me to "get there" quickly. (After all, very few hobbyists, even those who claim they LOVE DATY, etc, really want to be there for 30 minutes out of their hour.) The more I think about it, the harder it is to forget myself and just enjoy the sensations.
For me, it happens much more easily and naturally if it's just part of the flow-- not a "command performance." I'm having a great time pleasing you, whether or not I actually have an orgasm!
and into the "enjoying" mode, the happier and more orgasmic both partners will be.
I suggest a lot of foreplay, especially massage, as a good way to to begin the process.
Some of us do love DATY. Women are just so tasty! I agree though orgasm needs to be just part of the natural flow. Sex by the numbers isn't much fun (for me anyway). BTW, the nicest way I was asked to stop DATY was by a playmate who said, "Come up here sweetheart so I can kiss you." Who could refuse a request like that? I got the point that she thought it was time to move on to other activities and I got kissed too!
I don't say it quite like that. Essentially I just let them know that I enjoy pleasing her and that I will stay there as long as it takes, or until she wants me to stop, but that I would rather her tell me to stop than to fake it. That's basically what I tell her. If she doesn't cum it doesn't matter. I also agree that the act and the number doesn't matter and that it's better when it's natural, but I think a lot of the ladies I've met have appreciated my effort. One girl thanked me as she hadn't actually gotten off in a while. More than one girl has mentioned that it's nice since most guys stop way before I did. It works because I really honestly do enjoy pleasing my dates. Perhaps the sexiest thing I can see is a beautiful girl shaking in pleasure at what I am doing to her. So it is a natural act in my sessions. It is never forced and I appreciate their honesty in either truly cumming or asking me to stop.
The vast majority of provider experienced orgasms that I have contributed to have been during oral.
That may be reason in part for your experience.
Also women don't reach their climax as quickly as men, so you may get there before she does.
If you're not currently booking two hour dates, you might want to try. your second.. could lead to her first!
~Bella
If you had a good experience with a provider you might want to consider going back a few times. First-time appointments can be nervous encounters for both sides, so a repeat visit might help you both loosen up and relax which will help her orgasm easier...just a thought...
Thanks for all the great advice! I definitely agree that patience, communication and persistence make all the difference. And probably DATY is the best way to go. (although my TMJ-temporomandibular joint-kills me the next day. But it's worth it
Regarding my latest experience the provider seemed genuinely 'turned-on' so I asked her if there was any way to get her to orgasm. Her response was a melodic and cryptic "Surprise!" And yet she offered no more direction. I still don't know what that meant.
Hmmm. Do you think she already came? Some women's reaction to orgasm is pretty subdued. Perhaps sadly she can't come, or won't come with a client (I have met providers who made this committment to their SO).
Reminds me of an old joke...
I guy walks into a whore house, says he wants a woman and drops his pants, revealing the smallest penis the madam had ever seen. She asked him, "Who do you think you're going to please with that?"
He replied, "Me."