And most girls don't want to take the time to chat. I'd be happy to do it because I love to chat and charm.
I never see a gentleman without first hearing their voice. First I screen, then I like to chat. I can tell so much from hearing someone's voice, after all these years. If you cannot connect with me on the phone, I guarantee we will not connect when we hang out. It is a given. Plus, it makes me relax meeting new gentlemen, sight unseen.
My question is why do a lot of men balk at this form of communication? Any one can write an email or a text. A phone call is a small introduction before we hang. Just curious! Thanks
and not sure why some guys would choose not to. We can get just as much of a "compatibility clue" from a quick phone chat as you can!
Then again, a lot of providers would probably shudder at the thought of that phone chat as well, so I guess the reluctance works both ways.
Maybe people just get a bit overwrought at the thought that it might be a form of "time-wasting"
I just don't think its a necessity for me.. I will talk if she wants to talk.. God knows I love to talk..
I sometimes just talk to myself. Hearing my own voice is very soothing to my ears.. 
I've found a lot of ladies funnel guys to emails and texts in my experience it's been the exception to the rule to have someone request a phone chat. I don't mind when we don't chat first as I a much better idea of who I am meeting than the woman I contact does. But I not only enjoy a brief hello to make sure we're going to connect, but I enjoy knowing that a woman likes that too. Nice question.
And most girls don't want to take the time to chat. I'd be happy to do it because I love to chat and charm.
I am game for a little conversation.
It depends on the guy really, if they want to have an connection with you they are more inclined to chat but if they just want to bust and leave then it's better if they remain anonymous as possible. I don't think its common to phone call before a date though, so it might weird some guys out.
I find talking on the phone to be irritating, and much prefer email and text messages, mostly because I'm hardly ever in a position to have a private conversation during the day.
The calls worked so well I might make it a requirement on my end from now on! Ha! Serious. I scheduled the calls during my 30 to 40 minute commute home and both times had to bring the conversation to a close before hitting the driveway. Both were very pleasant experiences. One lady I saw last week and it added "something" to the run-up to the date. The other lady I see next week. Both calls convinced me I was making a good decision to see a new friend. Take care of you, Beautiful.
But now, I just prefer to meet, as I think I come off much better in person.
On the phone, you don't get all the non-verbal communication: smiles, expressions, a direct look in the eyes.
If it's just a quick one minute conversation I may stumble over my words a bit more and thus not give the true representation of what I'm like.
I do the phone intro when absolutely necessary, but I avoid it when I can because I don't always come off well on the phone. The phone feels a bit impersonal to me. I know that's backwards for most people, but that's me.
And if you think the lady is using the conversation not just to verify you but to decide if she wants to see you (which is understandable), that's a bit of added pressure.
I don't mind talking to the lady whom I've never met to schedule an appointment, to get direction, etc. Chatting, and up to the point of flirting, comes across as fake to me.
I don't have a problem with it, but my guess is its intimidating. Yes, sounds funny, but maybe harkens back to the day you had to actually talk to a girl to ask her out on a date.
I was thinking how can you tell by a person's voice what they are like, but then thought about it and you're absolutely right. You can tell a LOT by voice, tone, accent, etc.
Both parties are wise to talk before the appointment. I declined not see a provider once because she had a raspy weird sounding voice.
Hope you don't mind talking about Football, Wine, Restaurants, weird sexual positions, Hawaii, Investing, Noodling or Spearfishing, Weightlifting, JiuJitsu, Republicans, Democrats, Argentina (my next vacation destination) and Redheads with freckles.
On a (less) serious note, I can see how this can be a problem if a guy is married or involved with someone. He just may not have the time or privacy to communicate freely.
take an hour or two out of his schedule to see providers, he can take 10-15 mins to talk to the gal. He can just get into his car and escape to do an errand or two... That's enough time to talk..
If you are looking for the best response, get the guy in the parking lot and have him call for the room number. That would be a final check and by that time the little head is doing all the thinking not the big head and if he has any fears/worries that will still be there, but his need for relief will be far greater than any worries IMHO
That may work for some ladies, but I do not give out my location via text or email. I have found that for safety reasons, it is best to give it verbally and leave no trail. Not just from LE but for wives and SO's. Some gentlemen are simply careless with info. But thank you for your input
You would give him the hotel name, once he arrives then you would call to give the room number. I don't see the problem in giving an address, that happens to be a hotel.
It's not a dealbreaker, I'm just not terribly fond of it. There are awkward pauses on the phone, people are talking over each other, and you can't read the persons body language. I just find that I make a better impression in person, but that's just me and my preference.
Additionally, it's hard for me to get away during the day for a private phone conversation and nights are completely out of the question for me to chat by phone. I don't even like texts until the day of the date. I keep my hobby phone under lock and key at the office so I don't even have access to it at home.
Some people can and do talk on the phone all day and that's fine... I'm just a little more introverted when it comes to the phone. Email is just better for me for the most part and that's how I like to roll.
Maybe it's because my ears are shot from playing in too many loud-ass rock bands, but talking on the phone is my least favorite mode of communication. With text/email, I can think before I "speak," and in person, then you have body language to supplement your words. But I have never balked at such a request. I'd be suspicious of that.
At what point in the process are you looking to chat? The only times I've done so were while on the way to the appointment.
be able to talk to you for just three minutes!! I'd probably be talking too much..Lol maybe that's what some guys fear. I think sometimes age has something to do with it, older guys would be more likely to talk on the phone whereas younger guys would be happier with texting. Anyway I can't imagine anyone not wanting to talk with YOU!!! I love your photos, Thank you for posting them.
My question is why do a lot of men balk at this form of communication? Any one can write an email or a text. A phone call is a small introduction before we hang. Just curious! Thanks
I agree with you on the phone call. I have changed my mind about meeting a provider when I speak to her and feel like she's not into it. So keep up the call screening.
I think a phone conversation before the appointment is a nice touch and a classy move. I wish more ladies would do that. I agree you can tell a lot about a person from their voice and demeanor on the phone. I once got a compliment for giving good phone.
but, that was when I lived with my spouse. I would have been worried about a lady calling me while I was with my wife and my not handling it well.
But, now that I live alone, I agree that it is a great idea for the reasons you described.
My first encounter with an escort was while I was on vacation by myself in Las Vegas and we spoke on the telephone before we met in person. That was a big help in calming my nerves.
I understand the need for discretion and would never violate your space. All I ask is you call for a moment when you get a chance! No one is that busy that you can't make a 2 minute call to say hello.
I love to chat - to flirt as well :p just so long as there's no drama I'm good
Why do some providers provide an e-mail address with no phone number? Some prefer initial contact by e-mail, and will accept or reject us based on this alone.
They don't want to talk. They want to read the credentials first to see if they like what is on the page. So the client is either in or out without even one phone conversation.