I always put whether I'm available or visiting a city. If my calendar is blank that usually mean that I'm home (DC) and available.
I'm actually surprise to read this because a lot of men do not read. Even when my calendar is updated I have guys asking about y whereabouts. So now that I now that there are still a few who take the time to read I will continue to update my calendar. Good question by the way.For now mine would be what's up with not updating your calendars.
Just wondering?
For now mine would be what's up with not updating your calendars.
So..Question # 9834... Why do you promise to be in town on certain date, make the guy book appointment and never send out any update on whether you arrived, got eaten by a dinosaur, or just abruptly decided to drop from the business...?
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If you have that many questions.....You are spending way too much time and energy "hobbying"!
Traveling expenses exceed the projected financial gain. Not enough interest was given to their proposed trip and the costs of transportation, i.e. plane, train, automobile, etc., cost of hotels and food during their stay.
However, they should notify you of their cancellations! Respect of a persons time and interests should be mutual.
Sincerely,
Syd
What if the person is regular visitor..
How about this? Someone else booked more time than me and I was bumped off w/o any notification. I was just a placeholder to begin with.
Or the person is just plain unorganized and can't keep a straight schedule..
Possibilities are endless and has happened several times with different individuals.
I think that many of the men do the same thing though. I have had a few guys, over the years, book my time and then cancel last minute. Those that have done it repeatedly, I've asked not to contact me again. Quite honestly, I don't put up with other people's cr*p. I go through great pains to arrange my schedule to suit others, and I expect some respect by them honoring their commitment to me. It doesn't always happen that way though.
Some guys will book appointments with multiple ladies, and then decide at the last minutes who they prefer to see....I imagine that it depends on their frame of mind. Sort of like having a menu at hand and ordering whatever you are in the mood for at the last minute.
It is disrespectful, either way.
I will give that I have not been able to make my commitments on occasion. Mostly due to Mother Nature being fickle, and I will not see someone during my "week off". I have had just a couple of other problems in the past, but I pride myself on honoring my commitments. I have been late on occasion though, usually due to my regular job, traffic, and at times weather.
Regards,
Syd
BTW: You asked a question. I didn't expect a debate
I have no reason to ask such a newbie question..So any debate and exchange of ideas great...
Its worse when the guys do that, and I am fully aware that lot of guys are more than capable of doing that shit. We can at least slam our dicks on the bathroom walls and take care of immediate needs. Unless you are some super high profile doctor or lawyer you probably didn't lose your livelihood..
Well, I've wasted enough bandwidth for one day.
È una bella giornata!
Syd
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Shame, I love those idol hands and other body parts of yours 
LOL so what's question #1???
Lets start with Question 0 first.. (I start my counting at 0...)
Question # 0.. Is that you (universal tense) in the pics, or you have a 20 yr old teenage daughter.. - Best asked to those whose age never goes up on profile or website no matter how long they been here..
Question #1.. Do you understand why we started with Question # 0
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they have an era.
Question # 0.. Is that you (universal tense) in the pics, or you have a 20 yr old teenage daughter.. - Best asked to those whose age never goes up on profile or website no matter how long they been here..
Question #1.. Do you understand why we started with Question # 0
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LOL that I can not answer but I do agree with the other ladies response. Real women don't have an age and Betty White is HOTT LLS.
Also, black don't crack. Just saying.
“Can we do this without faking? We’ll both get more out of it if you let me discover what works for you. (And what doesn’t work.)”
When I meet a lady who considers her pleasure off limits or me wanting to please her an intrusion, I’m done. If it’s only about my pleasure and my ego, it’s just another form of masturbation. That’s cool, but I mastered the art of pleasing myself -for free- a long time ago, pun fully intended
Most of the guys who hobby are looking for an ego boost. The ladies in question are just giving the responses they feel are expected.
As to me.... *grins* I like to make a man work for it!
Sincerely,
Syd
Gotta bow to your wisdom, Syd, ladies being experts on the fragile male ego and all.
Still, that "did she really... or did she just... " can't be an ego boost. I don't mind working for "it" if I know that "it" is welcome.
Most men looking for the ego boost, really don't care if she did or didn't.
As for the scripting on the ladies part. The louder and more constant the moaning usually gets the man to finish faster.
It works for both parties in these cases.
JMHO,
Syd
Still, that "did she really... or did she just... " can't be an ego boost. I don't mind working for "it" if I know that "it" is welcome.
Unless you are a traveling provider and are just in this business, it can be a real pain to keep up with.
Nothing more frustrating than taking the time to write out a detailed email with date, time, references, etc. and then not get a response. I usually wait 3 days for a response which should be more than enough time and them move on.
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I can relate to that. I respond to emails the same day so a lot of the time I'm the one waiting for a response. My thing is if I responded and basically confirmed the date why not inform me that you got the message.
I always put whether I'm available or visiting a city. If my calendar is blank that usually mean that I'm home (DC) and available.
I'm actually surprise to read this because a lot of men do not read. Even when my calendar is updated I have guys asking about y whereabouts. So now that I now that there are still a few who take the time to read I will continue to update my calendar.
Good question by the way.
For now mine would be what's up with not updating your calendars.
I've always assumed big bills are preferred ($100s) in the donation envelope, are they?
Yes
at least by me they are
Why post on the ad boards if you're not going to bother responding to booking requests? Self validation?
I've not responded to people because they don't have any tact or manners, or they boast about their prowess....it's very unappealing.
JMHO,
Syd
I could ask you the same.
Sometimes the art on the wall.
Or a magazine. Okay, I am just kidding about the magazine.
. . . does the grocery list go through your mind?
What really goes through my mind is "could I 'break' him like this?" I worry about accidentally breaking someone. It seems like it could happen. Maybe that never happens. I always say "are you okay?" and they look at me like I'm crazy.
Does it ever hurt, seriously? Can it be done in a wrong way?
It happened to me twice in one session the other night. I'm a bit on the smaller side so it tends to slip out often when the girl is going at it hard/fast. It hurts like HELL! I want to put it up there with being kicked in the nuts, as far as pain goes.
Duchess,
If we want you to stop we'll ask you. I think I speak for most men here when I say, "Ride it as hard as you can, Cowgirl, break me!
. . . your client is some hunk while he's on top. Who would that be?
It never occurred to me to do that but I have thought of a boyfriend a couple of times -- not often but once or twice when it wasn't the best of sessions. But most of the time I focus on the guy and I'm not thinking of anyone else. Men are so intriguing, and different. It's more fun to be in the moment and try to figure out what they like.
LOL Who are you....IRS?
you do this? Or, is reason #1 the only truly relevant reason?
Are any of these relevant:
Excitement in doing something tabu
The rush of being the object of desire of so many men
Fulfillment of a fantasy
Enjoy meeting different people
Love sex, might as well get paid for it
I'm damn good at it, just my way to share my talent with the world
(of course, there could be other more psychological reasons for why you got into this, but I wasn't really looking for those, as they would be of a more personal nature).
Just throwing these out there off the top of my head, maybe NONE of these apply...
Other reasons?
Since I'm interested in people, I'd be curious to know the TRUE answers to this (even if it IS that is just about the $$$ for most). Also, I fully realize that a marketing answer is likely very different from the real answer for most ladies, and that many would never want to truthfully answer this question here....
However, this would be the question I'd like to know the TRUE answer to, as I'm naturally curious (though of course I'd never ask a lady this while on a date, just as she would never ask me why I am doing this).
And I was scared to death at first. My client was very kind to me. And then I wasn't scared anymore.
After that, it was about meeting emotional and physical needs I have that I cannot get met otherwise. I wish I was better with men in real life. But this is gloriously uncomplicated. It's been good for me.
The money really does help. I don't make much. I can't do this too much or it messes with my head. I learned that early on. I use it to do things that I wouldn't ordinarily do, like take my child on a trip, or get the car fixed. One time I got a really big tip close to Christmas and I went to target and bought these great comforters and flannel sheets. We were cosy all winter. That was a huge deal for me. I grew up VERY poor. When I can take that $ and buy my kid some Levis and new shoes -- things I didn't have, it makes me feel like an amazing mom. He doesn't know what I do, of course. He just never, ever has to feel like I did. I feel like everytime I take an appointment, it's out of love. It's out of love for him. It's out of love for myself, because I need to feel good. And it's out of love for the client, because for one hour, I let myself "love" him, and then I turn it off. I learned how to do that. It makes a big difference in my quality of life.
Weirdly, and this is probably not a good reason, I'm kind of maternal? i like taking care of people. Sometimes I can tell a guy is hurting, and my heart just goes out to him. We all need to feel that connection -- to feel touched, cared for. I feel sometimes like I am doing some good, even for a short while. But not always, it's not always like that. Lots of guys are just fine. This is just something they do for them, like I would get a pedicure.
So that's the truth. I probably will never get another appointment now but that is the truth about why I do it
You think you're not going to get another appointment from that post? Just wait and see. Hopefully you won't attract guys that want too much from you. Which leads me to this question (which also ties into the original post), what would you do if you found you couldn't turn it off? What if you felt something for a guy that lasted beyond the session - would you stop seeing him?
I know that's one way to handle it if the guy felt too much, but what if the complication was on your end?
He used to see me once a week. I denied it to myself but after a while, I couldn't help it. The sessions were amazing. My heart used to beat so fast I couldn't figure out precisely why, but he struck a chord in me, and I could tell I was falling for him. I knew it was just going to hurt. He liked me but I don't think he felt that way. Before I got in too deep, I told him that I was developing feelings for him and that I was sorry but I oouldn't see him again. I never heard from him again -- and good thing, too. I mean, I don't know his back story at all. He never told me. And it was none of my business. It was just -- it's not like we had anything in common. He saw all kinds of other providers. I wasn't the only one. I will never really understand why he got under my skin, but oh boy. I still think about him sometimes, but I know I did the right thing for him...and me.
That's it, I can't ask you anything else. If I did, I'd just be abusing the privilege. All I can say is wow, thank you, and it's amazing how some people just seem to have a free pass through our defenses. Chemistry...
I'd be shocked if you weren't booked for the next month! Enjoyed reading your honest response, thanks.
That post far exceeded what I thought anyone would be willing to share here.
You are the real deal lady!!
Thank you for your honesty - in this world of illusion and pretend, this very real, very human glimpse you've provided into yourself is rare. And I think you are right, we all DO need to feel connection - and many of those who read your post will definitely feel a connection to you now.
I tip my hat to you...