If she has asked you to meet her in the bar it is so she can get to know you a bit in a public place. I would be hesitant to show ID and I definitely wouldn't be handing her an envelope in the lobby. In fact, my gut tells me that any lady who would insist on getting cash from you in the hotel bar is probably not one you want to see for any number if reasons.
When meeting a provider for the first time in say the lobby bar for a few drinks first, is the expectation that a subtle ID check and gift exchange occurs here or once back up in the suite? I know what common sense tells me(which always serves me well) but am curious on accepted protocol for this scenario.
-still a newbie
i'm pretty sure you definitely wouldn't want to handle the "business" aspect in a lobby or bar of a hotel.
not 100% sure tho.
Like Jake said, probably not a good idea. However, if you are in a secluded booth, a discrete passing of envelope and/or ID might be done.
This is something that probably should be discussed with provider before doing anything. If you have not determined this beforehand, as you are chatting over the drink, ask her how she would prefer to handle it.
By the way, the only silly question is the one you were afraid to ask. If you don't ask, you will never find out.
Swim
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...pass the envelope and/or ID until I was up in the room. Furthermore, I'd play it cool and at least ACT like I'd done this before while enjoying drinks, without discussing it one iota! Honestly, this isn't that big of a deal. More often than not, I don't produce payment until the end of a session (even first time encounters). And when I do, it's usually because I've got it enclosed in a greeting card that I want them to enjoy in my company. Bottom line: no transaction OF ANY KIND out in public, nor any discussion of it in public. And if she wants it in public or discusses it, I'd consider it at best to be poor taste on her part and I'd leave!
If she has asked you to meet her in the bar it is so she can get to know you a bit in a public place. I would be hesitant to show ID and I definitely wouldn't be handing her an envelope in the lobby. In fact, my gut tells me that any lady who would insist on getting cash from you in the hotel bar is probably not one you want to see for any number if reasons.
Wait until you get to the room for both ID and envelope. Discretion needs to be a priority for both of you. Do not attract attention to yourself or your date.