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JoeBaloney 3340 reads
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hi there..

I went thru this with a provider I'd wanted to see for a long time.  As this has been posted and commented about before, I'll skip the gory details.

But we'd emailed back and forth a few times, and when we got close to setting up a time to meet, she wanted a description of ME to make sure I was her 'type'.  She even briefly mentioned what her type was, and it clearly wasn't me.  I didn't bother responding, as I didn't see the need to be 'rejected' by someone I was going to pay to be with IF I'd met her standards.  It sorta felt like HS revisited.  

Certainly, everyone is entitled to their type, but to be asked to describe yourself just was weird. It was the only time that ever happened.

Obviously, women are entitled to do such intimate acts with people they want to actually be with.  And while most ladies don't care what a client looks like, some have preferences.  And if we don't meet those preferences, we have no choice but to move on.

I'm also pretty big, but retired football player big, not huge beer belly big. And I could probably pick up most providers with one arm.  But not everyone is interested in guys who don't fit into GQ size 34 pants.!  

And why is it that Costco sells XL and XXL shirts but don't sell pants that fit us bigger guys? Most pants stop at 40/42! If ya sell shirts for 44/46 men, why not sell the damn pants? ;)  And there must be a lot of us big guys out there because the larger sizes seem to always be the shirts they run of of first!

--jb

earldog042209 reads

Ok.  I am a big guy.  Lets get that out of the way.  I have had many great expereinces in the DC area.  But I had a long standing date, that got cancelled when the provider saw me.  I have been told by many providers that my DATY skills are above average, my johnson is average, I am very clean cut just a big teddy bear, I always play by the rules and most of the time either tip or bring a gift.  Was this a unique experience or could this be a trend?  Ladies and big guys help me here.

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EWADS2653 reads

Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there. I'm over 6' and I've weighed between 220 and 260 at various times during my participation in the hobby. Ht/Wt have never been an issue. No worries, just move on, dude.

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Vanica2174 reads

I have never heard of a provider cancelling a session once she saw a guy...That's very unsavory. I know some girls don't like bigger guys and tend to shy away from seeing them. While other providers shy away from very endowed gentlemen. Every person has his/her preference. You will just have to find providers who don't mind or even like your larger size. Believe me they are out there and would really appreciate a great guy like yourself.

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Ponzone2248 reads

Vanica, you don't have to answer this of course.  However if you would be so kind.  Do YOU personally have any strong preferences (pro or con) in any of these areas?

-- Modified on 5/31/2005 11:09:29 AM

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Vanica2877 reads

I really don't have any preferences other than a guy being respectful of me and my time, clean and honest. One thing I do appreciate is if a guy trims a little down there. It is kinda hard to focus in on johnson with hairs in your mouth. LOL

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mrthang2421 reads

But I've only been hobbying for six months, so I guess it might eventually. I'm sure the rejection sucks but it is better than wassting your money on a half hearted or worse performance.

btw, Vanica treated me very well.

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yasminegreek2621 reads

If she was that shallow than your better off. But take in mind that not ALL of us are like that. We are human, we all have imperfections.
Truly her loss. Was she a younger provider? I think its kinda stupid to do that, its like the providers who only see white clients(but at least some will let you know upfront).....Go figure..........
Just dont let 1 situation deter you from trying again.
Yasmine
BTW...How good are those DATY skills???? hmmmmm

Related Link: Luv's to cuddle..............

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Ponzone2671 reads

Hey Yasmine, don't just put the providers on the spot.  While you're talking about "stupid", how about HOBBYISTS that won't see BLACK providers?  Four of MY favorites (and two of my ATF's) are black (or dark skinned).  I just couldn't IMAGINE what my hobbying experience would have been like without them.  Each of them are among the sweetest gals I have EVER known (not only in the business, but just plain PERIOD).  As Queen Latifah said: "Once you go BLACK, you NEVER go BACK"!  Lucky for me I found that out four decades ago.

 One thing I WILL say, though.  Those hobbyists can STAY "stupid" if they want to.  It just leaves more availability for ME.

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JoeBaloney3341 reads

hi there..

I went thru this with a provider I'd wanted to see for a long time.  As this has been posted and commented about before, I'll skip the gory details.

But we'd emailed back and forth a few times, and when we got close to setting up a time to meet, she wanted a description of ME to make sure I was her 'type'.  She even briefly mentioned what her type was, and it clearly wasn't me.  I didn't bother responding, as I didn't see the need to be 'rejected' by someone I was going to pay to be with IF I'd met her standards.  It sorta felt like HS revisited.  

Certainly, everyone is entitled to their type, but to be asked to describe yourself just was weird. It was the only time that ever happened.

Obviously, women are entitled to do such intimate acts with people they want to actually be with.  And while most ladies don't care what a client looks like, some have preferences.  And if we don't meet those preferences, we have no choice but to move on.

I'm also pretty big, but retired football player big, not huge beer belly big. And I could probably pick up most providers with one arm.  But not everyone is interested in guys who don't fit into GQ size 34 pants.!  

And why is it that Costco sells XL and XXL shirts but don't sell pants that fit us bigger guys? Most pants stop at 40/42! If ya sell shirts for 44/46 men, why not sell the damn pants? ;)  And there must be a lot of us big guys out there because the larger sizes seem to always be the shirts they run of of first!

--jb

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Ponzone1795 reads

Of course there are plenty of us, JB.  What the HELL do you think Leno keeps harping about practically every night?  I'm scared to death to even think about booking a flight on Southwest.  I (and my wallet) just wouldn't need the humiliation of being charged for a second seat.

 I agree with you on the pants part, too.  If you DO manage to find anything, it rarely is anything you would want to be "caught dead in".  That's the nice thing about good providers.  You don't HAVE to be in ANYTHING.  In fact, it is preferred that you are NOT.

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Sidney Starr1961 reads

Hon, seriously...she just missed out on a good thing....and you say you are awesome at DATY???...HELLOOOOO...bring it on over here baby!!  I sure  wont turn you away...you hunka,hunka burning love...:)

 Seriously though I think its pathetic and disgusting that you were turned away for your size.  Shame on her...you were just too much man for her..:) I hope you didnt let it get to you or bother you in any way....I am sure she wasnt perfect.  I just find it extremely rude that she was so obvious about it, thats what bothers me, when people have no class about it, and are so obvious, and they dont care who''s feelings they hurt.
 I can almost promise it wont happen again, it is not the start to a trend, because most of our DC ladies are too much smarter, classier and much more kinder and sensible. Take care sweetie....

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Ponzone1918 reads

Sid, although you actually replied to my post, I hate to destroy the fantasy.  However, it was JB who had the bad experience to which you alluded, so perhaps you may want to kiss HIM and make it feel better.  Not that I would mind such "treatment" MYSELF, you understand.

 Fortunately, I have NOT had such an experience. The gals who I have visited have had far more class.  Just so you know, my DATY skills aren't so bad, either.  You may want to read my pending review of a May session for more "details".

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BIGPOPPA212202234 reads

I feel ya dawg! Im a big guy also, 6' 240, size 36 pants (I kind of found the size 34 GQ pants thing funny, I'M ONLY TWO AWAY!!! YIIPPPIIIEEE!!!!!! LOL), but I have had a few ladies ask what I looked like to "Make sure we click" and while I've never been turned away, It does always seem a little wierd like you said. Ive even had a couple request pictures, which I have no problem sending out my mug shots, but once again seems wierd to say they want to see pictures before hand to make sure Im their type.

B-Pop

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thebadgoat2316 reads

I am very short, and I often warn providers who seem picky before we meet, in case that's a problem for them.  But I try to avoid them anyway--as Joe B says, who needs to repeat HS?

Oh, Joe B., the reason they run out of the largest size shirts first is because all the 5'0-5'4 90-115 lb. women in America bought three of them--one for their unemployed brothers, who DO have great big beer bellies, one for their teenage sons, and one to use as a nightgown.  The Goat

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earldog042049 reads

Thanks for the feedback.  It won't deter me and I know there are many ladies that appreciate all a man has to offer.  To those ladies, I will be calling soon!

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