I haven't been hugely active in the hobby, but I've always been looking for a provider who is genuinely GFE, which to me means DFK and a more laid back atmosphere at the least. What is the best way to ask if this is provided? It's always been my understanding that when making contact not to discuss any details whatsoever. If that's the case, it's kind of hard to find out anything.
If she doesn't have anything about what she likes/allows on her P411 or reviews or that info on her site .... don't.
Thank you for your responses. What you guys have said makes absolute sense, but it's predicated on two factors: 1) Provider has legitimate reviews that can be easily found, and 2) A paid subscription to the website like TER, which IMHO costs a little more than it should.
I used to agree with the idea of only seeing reviewed providers, but it seems that at least in my area, maybe 75% or more have no reviews at all. There are also fake reviews (I can't remember the name of the website where I found every single review ridiculously perfect). Over time I've become aware of certain "red flags" in listings that can indicate something isn't kosher. Pictures that look like they're from magazines, pictures and/or text formatting from other listings, rates that seem too good to be true, etc. I was wondering if you ladies might have some some additional insight into how to read between the lines of a listing.
There is no certain way to ask anyone. Unless you want to be ignored and scare off certain providers. The only thing you can do is read her reviews, or TOFT and ask her in person. I certainly wouldn't risk asking her beforehand though.
be prepared to be ignored. Sorry to be so blunt but
ladies who do what we do know that is a huge risk
when those 3 letters, any other acronyms, and
donations are mentioned.
Recently I had a gent ask me that and I politely
responded to him that I could not see him. Other
ladies will just ignore.
On the flip side, I strongly suggest you read the
website and reviews of the ladies.
Hopefully you will get the answer you need to determine
to see the lady or not
Simply asking if you're and/or provide GFE level services is not offensive, suggestive, or outside of Hobby protocol in any manner, IMHO.
To ask if you do CIM, BBJ, etc. I would agree IS out-of-bounds.
Hell, many ladies advertise that they are GFE and for you to feel and/or respond in an offensive manner because a gentlemen simply asks is "special" for this industry. But to each her/his own.
As I mentioned in the message I politely told the gent I could not see him. I have
never "ignored" emails even if I feel they are suggestive in any way. Many ladies will
ignore emails...even one liners. I have not and would NEVER respond in an
offensive manner to an gent.
You are right some girls advertise it and some don't. Sometimes I put it in my ads sometimes I
don't. But to me and many other girls who take their safety seriously know better than
to answer certain questions. Unfortunately, the GFE term is used against us when in the wrong hands..I am sure you know what I mean.
And if you look at others folks postings to this thread some agree and some disagree not to ask. I just personally believe to read the reviews to make things simple.
And you are right to each his own and appreciate your response...even if it is an alias.
Hope you have a great rest of your day and again I appreciate your opinion.
To ask if you do CIM, BBJ, etc. I would agree IS out-of-bounds.
Hell, many ladies advertise that they are GFE and for you to feel and/or respond in an offensive manner because a gentlemen simply asks is "special" for this industry. But to each her/his own.
TER boards can get "catty" like that and I don't need the drama/back-and-forth. With that said, thank you for your polite and measured response.
However, do know that I am almost a 20 year vet of the hobby game. Hmmmm, I gotta plan a 20 year vet party for myself.
Good luck to you!!
just read her profile to see if the services you are looking for and read a few recent reviews to see how they are being delivered (or not).
DFK is one of the service metrics in the review system....
as far as attitude, for that you need to read some recent reviews....
on the other hand,
if you're looking for someone to snuggle with and tell you you're handsome and great in bed and she wishes you weren't married or whatever, a lot of gals will do that for you - and chuckle all the way to the bank :p
have fun either way -
Thanks for asking this, I'm also new this in the States and not sure how to ask.
im GFE
back in Saigon in the 60s and early 70s, "girlfriend experience" meant - no condom!
today - what the hell does GFE mean? nothing concrete -
go by the reviews to see what services are offered and what the attitude is....
I've seen girls offering only CBJ for example calling themselves GFE -
GFE was once "understood" as meaning DFK and BBBJ and CFS - but you can't rely on this....
read the reviews!
. . . I didn't get kicked out of door and my stuff didn't get thrown out the window.
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Is was there then too, and I never once heard the term "GFE." Also, I never used a condom and never had a problem. Maybe I was just lucky, but I also was reasonably careful about whom I was with and stayed away from places with a large military presence. In some ways, things were better then, but overall it's much better now, with the internet, range of choices, and much greater skill levels of our friends.
Ask after you have been verified, alot of ladies are not comfortable disucssing details until you have been verified..
but alot of ladies advertise that as well and their reviews should back up their service 
~Mel xoxo