I'm curious as to those providers that have family and friends that don't know what they do, if they have ever been accidentally discovered by a family friend, relative etc that discovered the hobby, TER etc and if so how did that go for you?
.......than do providers, so I would like to know what happened and how they handled it.
Also, what can providers do to help prevent a spouse from finding out!
Forgive me if you've heard this before:
GF is disabled, thanks to an auto accident years during our relationship in that time where GFs become possible fiance/wife. She was driving alone when an illegal alien drunk driver T-boned her Camaro and fled the scene of the accident. Anyrate, I have no legal ties to her, but I've stayed with her to take care of her as best I can. Mentally and emotionally she's still my best friend. However, there is no sex. Sex is medically impractical to impossible on her part, and I have to physically treat her like a paper doll as it is. Sure, a smarter or better man would have dumped her and moved on... but, emotions have never made me smart.
She knows. We haven't already split because other than the physical, we do ok. She has mixed emotions about the Hobby. She knows I get enjoyment out of my one-day stands, but that's all they are. She knows I'm having sex with someone, but no one I might actually fall for and leave her for. She knows I dabble as finances allow (her medical bills are horrendous). She even helps set aside a few bucks from time to time when she sees I really need the release, She forgives my trespasses because for years I've been there for her, and because of my life with her I'll never have children. She knows what I've given up for her.
Her interest in the Hobby when she realized what I was doing was that she viewed the ad of an agency girl I saw - she approved of my choice. She's even hinted that she'd like to join in to watch but I doubt that. I think the fantasy versus the reality of seeing your man fuck another woman because 'I'm not woman enough to be fucked anymore' would be too much for her to bear. She also has tried to pick other companions for me, usually starting with Meena since GF likes long hair, but I've seen others she's chosen over the years.
So, we equate it to me dining out alone. I'm only allowed to go out for things I can't get at home.
Has your SO ever find out, HONDA? If so, what happened in your case?
Harry
Your a real man for staying and should not be criticized for dating. I'm a widower myself having never been unfaithful. Good luck and Merry Christmas. A lot of the people here are because of circumstance and appreciate what the ladies give us..
I was open and honest about what I do! I felt like if i was hiding it from them it meant i was ashamed of myself. I LOVE what I do, though! I feel like anybody that loves you unconditionally will accept YOU for the person that YOU are...not the decisions you make.
At the end of the day the real people will stay and the fake ones leave.
Good Luck!
....it didn't go well. She held onto that she snooped around my email (read emails are greyed and I knew they weren't ones I'd read yet) and tried to blast me in an argument around a family member. They didn't believe her (I have a great poker face) when she called herself outing me. As far as I know no one else but the nosey jealous bitch sister knows.
Took me years to tell my family but they are very supportive of my decisions 
Hugs and kisses
TL