I have found, through careful research, that ladies at TER and P411 DO like the activities you describe. (Now, I have not wanted to snuggle in bed watching a movie, I must confess.)

I have NOT found that ladies avoid having a personal connection. Quite the contrary, in fact. A personal connection is hard to avoid. And, really, who would want to avoid the personal connection?

In my opinion and experience, the personal connection heightens the time spent being with a classy and elegant lady (who loves to "get down" of course...lol)

Now, if I were searching for a "robot" or a "live blow-up doll" then perhaps my experience would be much different. But, I don't.

Good luck

You can certainly find that!

We are of similar age and, at least for some of the time, similar expectations. I have been fortunate, through semi-much trial and error, to find a few ladies that I have that kind of chemistry with. However, as is obvious, you cannot glean chemistry through reading website bios and performance reviews. Chemistry has to be discovered. I have been sorely disappointed with several "dates" where the chemistry expectation was high, and I have been greatly surprised by awesome chemistry (repeated fair fly often) when the expectation was low. I tend to book longer appointments and can't possibly "do cardio" for 4 to 6 hours straight. So the down time is spent in more intimate pursuits which is just fine by me.  

Good luck. I completely understand where you are coming from and where you want to go!!
-kk-

You can find that kind of intimacy here, but I don’t think that you can expect to get super intimate with a lady the first time you see her. You will need to ready to find someone you like and be willing to see her on a consistent basis. Each time you see her, the intimacy level will most likely increase, if she’s the right one. You may or may not find the right one, right away, but it’s a big market so she is most likely out there.

I am not saying that 20 something’s can’t give you intimacy, but you’re probably going to more easily find what you’re looking for from the 30 or even 40 something ladies. There is a wealth of information here, that should be able to help you narrow down your search. If you narrow down your search to a few ladies, you can always ask for recommendations

with a bit of energizer bad bunny in me tee hee hee
kissing, caressing, touching, nibbling, laughing, whispering, etc... all those yummy things and then som

I love those dates!

There's nothing like some romantic vibes, snuggling, perhaps sharing some fruit and cheese, and just generally enjoying each others company aside from the "usual" reason a gent is there. Some of my favorite dates have consisted of laying in each others arms, sharing light stories, perhaps romantic bath with candles... that kind of thing. There's a lot to be said for true intimacy!

I am not a provider, but I can't imagine that a woman would prefer to be "pounded" for two hours rather than simply share a bit of intimacy for the very same amount of money.

While I am here for the sex, not the companionship, and what works for you might not be my "ideal" date. I think what you are looking for is a lot more common than one might think and as long as you don't actually "fall in love" you probably have the makings of becoming an ATF for some lucky DC provider.

BTW I am well known as one of the board "Assholes" and even I can't fault you for what you are looking for. Unless you start whining about it of course, then I will call you a mangina. lol  but unless and until you start making "I have fallen for a provider, and can't get up" type posts. I completely respect what you are looking for from your sessions, and I am confident you can find what you are looking for right here on TER.

The type of companionship you're seeking is not only welcomed but highly preferred.

Having just hit the 1/2 century mark myself I find that the "usual" activities are much more satisfying when you have some intimacy and chemistry as well.  Still don't get how some enjoy the typical BP 1/2 hour non GFE appointments. Those do nothing for me.
Good luck in your search

JD

This outpouring of encouragement is--well--encouraging!  I came in search of a companion and, perhaps, found a community.  I did not expect that.

My sincere thanks to you all.

I think your OP hit upon it.  In the past several years, I have never had a bad experience -- due diligence is important! -- but it's also rare to have such a ringingly affectionate experience that it transcends the wonderful sex.  The situation works against achieving these experiences for both parties, for obvious reasons -- jobs, families (sometimes on both sides).  The frustration is that both parties know there's something deeper going on than the physical connection, but how to pursue it?  Sorry folks, I have no answer -- just try to control it, enjoy it while it lasts, don't let the yearning destroy your lives, and be prepared for tearful goodbyes, or no goodbyes at all, when it ends, as it must almost always.  Of course there are exceptions, and bachelors have an advantage, but often they are less likely to want emotional connections than devoted family guys whose marriages have throttled down.  Just a thought.

what you are looking for perfectly.

This has been a truly remarkable discussion, and I agree with all of the posts. It is possible to have an intimate, friendly, and dare I say "loving" relationship (always keeping in mind the reality limits) that can be deeply rewarding to both parties. As others have posted, it doesn't happen on the first date, but if the chemistry is there and you persist, the relationship you seek can blossom. To get a sense of what's possible, you should take up BeautywithBrains' offer. She is mature, smart, funny, kind, and (of course) sexy. She can give you an idea of how a date (longer formats are best) can be much more than just a romp.

I haven't been able to visit DC in quite some time...

but your post here is just wonderful! I hope you can read PMs!

You've reminded me of why I've missed DC so much. I absolutely love these kind of dates.

Steph xoxo

It will only drive you crazy if you are looking for that level of personal connection in this hobby. Yes you can certainly find those things you described in your post with a session with some of the wonderful ladies here but as soon as the session is over and you step outside the room, when you start to think about it, reality will start to sink in and you will start to feel empty and depressed. You will start to think if it was a genuine thing from her and your conscience will tell you no way but because you want it so bad  and it's like the one thing you were in it for, it will start to drive you crazy. The best ladies are usually the best actresses.

And, as you can tell from several posts, you have some kindred spirits.  Plus, you’ve gotten some sage advice from both sides.  This was a great thread, my friend.  Thanks for starting it.  

I’m fairly new to this world, too, seeing my first provider a little over three months ago.  I’m about your same age, and was also missing the intimate company of a woman.  I thought I knew what I was looking for, but I had no idea what to expect.  I just took a chance, and dove into the deep end of the pool.

All I can say is, “come on in, man, the waters fine!”  You sound like you truly enjoy women, and see them as equal partners.  If it’s true that you pretty much get out of this what you put into it, you’ll find what you’re looking for.  And, maybe then some!!  

After you’ve held her hand, looked in her eyes, snuggled with her, and felt that old feeling . . . the time will come when her eyes get a gleam in them, and she presses her body close to whisper a suggestion in your ear.  You just go with it, and she’ll take you places you never even dreamed of!

By the way, I see you’ve wisely chosen the perfect handle just in case things don’t work out.  Not-John-Smith.  That way, no one can ever write you a Dear John letter.  

Cheers