Interesting read, Spin. Honestly I've never tried to correlate the "ticklishness" of a lady with what kind of orgasms she likes/wants/needs. I know that many women don't seem to be able to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone (the number quoted often is around 75%, but I don't know how they reached those conclusions). Nevertheless, I've always assumed it's just the way women are "wired".
Just like us guys - some of us really enjoy receiving oral (well most of us), some are all about vaginal sex, some like greek (some are obsessed with it lol), some of us like our balls massaged, some of us like nipple play, some of us like prostate stimulation, some of us like dirty talk, etc. So we are a mixed bag, too. I assume some of it is physiological and some of it is learned/conditioned behavior. My advice (yes, even to myself) has been - with women, assume that you know nothing. It's always a good place to start. Because even if you can play one woman like a Stradivarius, it doesn't mean you'll be able to do it again tomorrow. Or that anything you learned applies to any other woman on the face of the planet. The best things in our tool(heh)kit is - communicate with your woman, ask her what she likes and doesn't, practice those techniques with her guidance, and learn how to read her body language. If you do those things - your odds for giving her a big O just went way up. Now ticklishness, I honestly have no idea how that works. And I have spent countless hours with women on all points of the tickle spectrum. But being an intrepid (and thorough) explorer of the female form I spend lots of time in many different (and sensitive) areas. I usually ask women I'm with to not wear perfume, deodorant, or makeup. I am sensitive to many perfumes, but I also don't want to cover up a lady's pheromones. I also happen to think it's sexy to suck on a woman's toes, or lick a woman's armpits. Admittedly, I do get a lot of "yeah - that's not going to happen" or "you want to do what now?". Or the ones that let me try and break out in the giggles. Whether it tickles or is just plain silly, I'm not sure. But the girls that are not too ticklish and are really into it - they super hot and worth the effort. Women - good grief. Why did God have to make them so complicated?-- Modified on 11/22/2015 10:09:39 PM
Over my years with ladies I've experienced a broad range of tactile responses from them, especially related to non-genital areas. I tend to be a bit of a lover and enjoy exploring to see where I get responses. There are a number of places that highly tactile ladies rev up to, I've found. For example, the little pocket formed where the neck, shoulder and collar bone meet. Also, the underside of the breast where it meets the abdomen. Never done toes and feet though, something for the bucket list, I guess.
Full disclosure: I'm very tactile also, so that forms my perspective. Had a lady suck my nipples a few weeks ago and it was really hot. Still remember a girl in Cophehagen years ago who worked her way down my body doing tongue swirling French kissing on my skin. By the time she got to my dick a cat couldn't scratch it. So, I guess it's not all just about dick and balls for guys either.
But I digress. I've always debated whether the tactile responses are more a function of the chemistry between us or the way the ladies are wired. I've found there seem to be three broad categories of tactile response: Highly Tactile, That Tickles, and Minimal Response:
1. The highly tactile ones sometimes are as responsive these areas as to clit play. One lovely lady (born in Vladivostok, briefly in Atlanta and now in Chicago) had a huge O from just such a place before I touched her genitals at all. Have known several who could approach/do that. It also seems that the highly tactile ladies often enjoy some anal play, whether or not they actually do greek. I love these gals – always produces a flashback to teenage discovery sessions in backseats.
2. The "that tickles" group seems to be wired about the same as No. 1, but translate many of their erogenous points into a tickle reflex. Some places get an Ooooh and some get a giggle. I’ve found this more in civvie life than in the hobby, but not exclusively. Have found some specific ticklish spots with several providers. In those teenage backseats, I also concluded that some girls used it as a boundary device. Recently had a delightful time with a young lady who was very highly tactile, and giggled when she finished an O.
3. Minimal tactile response ladies I’ve known seem to be much less sensitive to tactile stimulation and very responsive to penetration – orally, vaginally and (usually) anally. Dated a girl years ago whose breasts and nipples seemed to be detached from her erotic wiring (this was before the enhancement surgery era, btw.) These girls love to French kiss sucking tongues, deep bj’s, and the litany of Fix’s and Tix’s. And of course, “harder” and “deeper” dick penetration. The point, I guess, is that they still get really turned on, just way less so tactilely.
Of course, I recognize that there are infinite combinations and variations. And the hobby presents an extraordinary number who combine the best aspects of Highly Tactile with the penetration response of Number 3. And this ole guy has been blessed to know many of you.
It’s a quiet Sunday morning, so I thought I’d toss this out to see if it triggered any interesting discussion.
-- Modified on 11/22/2015 10:13:17 AM
to the tactile taxonomist: we all salute you.
Interesting read, Spin. Honestly I've never tried to correlate the "ticklishness" of a lady with what kind of orgasms she likes/wants/needs. I know that many women don't seem to be able to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone (the number quoted often is around 75%, but I don't know how they reached those conclusions). Nevertheless, I've always assumed it's just the way women are "wired".
Just like us guys - some of us really enjoy receiving oral (well most of us), some are all about vaginal sex, some like greek (some are obsessed with it lol), some of us like our balls massaged, some of us like nipple play, some of us like prostate stimulation, some of us like dirty talk, etc. So we are a mixed bag, too. I assume some of it is physiological and some of it is learned/conditioned behavior.
My advice (yes, even to myself) has been - with women, assume that you know nothing. It's always a good place to start. Because even if you can play one woman like a Stradivarius, it doesn't mean you'll be able to do it again tomorrow. Or that anything you learned applies to any other woman on the face of the planet.
The best things in our tool(heh)kit is - communicate with your woman, ask her what she likes and doesn't, practice those techniques with her guidance, and learn how to read her body language. If you do those things - your odds for giving her a big O just went way up.
Now ticklishness, I honestly have no idea how that works. And I have spent countless hours with women on all points of the tickle spectrum. But being an intrepid (and thorough) explorer of the female form I spend lots of time in many different (and sensitive) areas. I usually ask women I'm with to not wear perfume, deodorant, or makeup. I am sensitive to many perfumes, but I also don't want to cover up a lady's pheromones. I also happen to think it's sexy to suck on a woman's toes, or lick a woman's armpits. Admittedly, I do get a lot of "yeah - that's not going to happen" or "you want to do what now?". Or the ones that let me try and break out in the giggles. Whether it tickles or is just plain silly, I'm not sure. But the girls that are not too ticklish and are really into it - they super hot and worth the effort.
Women - good grief. Why did God have to make them so complicated?
-- Modified on 11/22/2015 10:09:39 PM
Woman to woman and day to day. A wonderful and fascinating spectrum of responses and responsiveness. I'm an analytical type and tend to put benchmarks on spectrum things - that's where the three came from. I think the most important thing is communication with the lady - vocally and physically. To me, that's what makes 69 so much fun - it is a feedback loop. My only problem is that I get too distracted - LOL.