She can market herself any way she pleases. It's not just because she's on BP, but look at her ads and tell me how many professional suits would be enticed by them. It's clearly obvious that the wording of her ads are attracting the low life bottom of the barrel "mongers".
How about if you read my initial post and put a little thought into it? Come on. I have faith in you. You can do it!I have found it incredibly difficult to cope with many of the not-so-gentle men who contact me from ANYWHERE.
I'm not going to pretend that I am comfortable with being spoken to in vulgar language.
I won't respond to your message if you say something rude or insulting.
If something is done during a session that I cannot handle, I will ask you to leave.
I've NEVER refused to give someone the fee back. I would rather that money be gone than to risk being murdered or beaten.
I don't see clients I am uncomfortable with because I immediately assume that anyone who acts in such a way would be 100% unaffected by hurting me.
Additionally,
I have a life. I'm 24 years old, trying to go to college, never had a stable home life, just now am driving and buying a car...
And I don't spend all the money I earn as soon as I get it. I can afford to take a month or two off and not worry.
I'm a responsible person.
Because I've been unable to relate to any of the other ladies in this industry, I haven't made any friends or retained any lasting affiliations.
I don't work with Mia. I don't work with Ms. Jones.
They are much nicer and accommodating women than I am. At the end of the day, I do not want to hate myself or dislike what I do.
More specifically,
Don't take whatever you've dealt with and shove it onto the next person who comes along; The people who ruined your day deserve your anger, not me.
All of us who involve ourselves in this industry are individuals. We all have our stresses, our dreams, our vices, our quirks..
If every provider who experienced that "rude" caller and posted here the volume would probably blow up TER servers.
She made her point just fine. Don't like it, don't read it.
and stop referring to yourself as Big bOOty white girl, you may attract a better class of callers. When you portray yourself as a piece of meat, you will get the low class hooker seekers and surely the vast majority of scum bags are calling from your BP ads and not TER, DC or P411.
Wait, what? Because a girl is on BP I get to shit-talk her over the phone? Tight.
Seriously, who are you to judge what she wants to market herself as?
She can market herself any way she pleases. It's not just because she's on BP, but look at her ads and tell me how many professional suits would be enticed by them. It's clearly obvious that the wording of her ads are attracting the low life bottom of the barrel "mongers".
How about if you read my initial post and put a little thought into it? Come on. I have faith in you. You can do it!
Sorry, but I don't see anything in her ad that would compel me to write an email and ask her if she'd put her tongue up my ass, but maybe I somehow missed the part about how she wanted her face turned into a glazed doughnut - I'll reread. Does the term "big booty white girl" offend the sensibilities of the over 50 crowd or something? Structure and diction might matter to persnickety tricks, but I ain't exactly hiring them for their analytical abilities and linguistic talents.
I can really appreciate the way you have went out of your way to show me that you are not so retarded after all. You have passed the test.
To address your points, what makes you think that I am over 50 or offended? I merely pointed out to her that she is getting the low life scum because of the place she is advertising and because of her wording in her ads. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out.
True too that I don't hire a provider for her intelligence either, but at the same time I will not hire a provider that words her ads that way or flips out when a hobbyist ignores her PM solicitation.
She's all yours.
that I might be attracting clients from a certain level that I may not want to be attracting. I would like to review and compare adverts you feel attract a higher class clientele, but if you decide against providing an example, I would understand.
I hope you're willing, but
Good day.
She just happens to have an ad on the board today and is a good example of something short, sweet and to the point.
I would consider getting rid of all the ghetto slang and mixing of caps when you write. You can be more creative if that suits you. Just check out the well reviewed provider profiles and you can get more ideas and perhaps even find a provider mentor to assist you. 
is your ethnicity. Your pictures do a good job at letting us know.
I hope you're willing, but
Good day.
because she was white, there has always been another selling point.
I have booked with black women and latinas, based solely on race.
Amber is a true genuine provider. Not sure what went wrong or why this discussion started but I am not getting into an argument about this.
All I can say is that she is one of the nicest, cutest, smartest and classiest ladies. One of the best
in this case, he is actually 100% correct. As another poster said, ghettoness attracts ghettoness, and "Big bOOty white girl" SCREAMS ghetto.
BP is fine to advertise on, but act like you have some class, and you will attract men who like classy ladies
Because I have talked with you over email, I have a better perspective than some other guys who many be responding from the position of being distant observer to your post.
Hate begets hate. Love begets love. By same logic, "Ghettoness" begets "Ghettoness".
If you are portraying yourself a white trash ghetto girl from the hood, you are going to get the same kind of jackasses respond to you. Now, I am not saying that you are wittingly portraying yourself like that. Perhaps you think its cool, or as you kids call it HIP. But it really comes across as a lower class and crass.
When I contacted you, the response I got left me wondering a few things.. Perhaps your email was infiltrated by someone.. And God knows LE does that all the time. or perhaps something entirely. I wouldn't get into the nitty gritty of the email, as that would not be appropriate.
If communication is not your forté, you might want to learn how to communicate effectively and until then hire a screener who can do so for you.
Just my two cents. Written from impartial perspective, with NO intention of booking appointment with you or currying any favors (unlike some other people)
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If you dont like the industry, there are other ways to make a living. If you come from a dysfunctional family, well too bad. I know very few people who grew up in a loving, well to do, healthy family. They dont bring it up to manipulate pitty from who is willing to listen.
If you have been misstreated I suggest you listen to a previous post about your advertising methods. Then again it may be you who gravitates to that type of low level client.
You know brother you are an idiot!!!!!
Don't take whatever you've dealt with and shove it onto the next person who comes along; The people who ruined your day deserve your anger, not me.
All of us who involve ourselves in this industry are individuals. We all have our stresses, our dreams, our vices, our quirks...
Keep up the good work, do your thing & don't care or worry about others, others seem to get unhappy when another does well for themselves, I myself can relate to your comment about "unrelating to others in this biz". (There are a handful of ladies that I really respect & take advices from but other then that I keep to myself)
Just be you!! That's what really matters!!!
Be safe & make millions!!!
👏👏👏👏
G
To the OP -- my sympathies, it sounds like alot of crap has come your way.
I think we could all benefit from recognizing that being in the hobby -- fun as it is for us, and lucrative as it is for providers -- can take a toll on our brains. Hence, the frustrated OP. Hence, the hostile responses. We -- guys -- like to think it is all just fun and games for us, but there is a deeper price that I think we all pay, regardless of whether we care to acknowledge it or not. This thread, to me, just highlights how significant those issues are.
Well said. On point.
there is a deeper price we pay mentally for engaging ourselves in this hobby & culture.
I've read a few of your other posts, including your brief foray onto the P&R board where you also tried to alternately play the victim card and crow about your "personal growth" at the same time all the time being quite combative with anyone who disagreed with you.
This business is not for everybody, and maybe it's not for you. If business is great and no one likes you, you can chalk it up to jealousy, but if your phone is not ringing, or the wrong people are calling, maybe a look inward is in order. You've been offered some very good advice in this thread. I would suggest listening to some of it.
these A-holes act or speak this way to them?
We know these men are self loathing misogynists. I wonder if they would act like this with ALL providers or just some? Has every provider had this experience? I mean something more than a vulgar comment.
Besides being sympathetic to your recent experience, the only thing I can think of is to be MORE strict with your screening. From your post you already don't put up with bad behavior so being even more diligent should weed out the dregs.
Good Luck
They can hear this at home
I'm not going to pretend that I am comfortable with being spoken to in vulgar language.
I won't respond to your message if you say something rude or insulting.
If something is done during a session that I cannot handle, I will ask you to leave.
I've NEVER refused to give someone the fee back. I would rather that money be gone than to risk being murdered or beaten.
I don't see clients I am uncomfortable with because I immediately assume that anyone who acts in such a way would be 100% unaffected by hurting me.
Additionally,
I have a life. I'm 24 years old, trying to go to college, never had a stable home life, just now am driving and buying a car...
And I don't spend all the money I earn as soon as I get it. I can afford to take a month or two off and not worry.
I'm a responsible person.
Because I've been unable to relate to any of the other ladies in this industry, I haven't made any friends or retained any lasting affiliations.
I don't work with Mia. I don't work with Ms. Jones.
They are much nicer and accommodating women than I am. At the end of the day, I do not want to hate myself or dislike what I do.
I get that you're upset, but I am not going to pretend that I know what all this is all about.
I would just say -- do not burn your bridges with providers. You claim you can't relate to any other ladies in the industry. And why is that? This is a big industry with a lot of variety. Are you so unique that you don't face the same challenges and receive the same rewards? Has no one helped you along the way?
You don't have to have friendships you don't feel and you don't have to make us your bridesmaids, but you know -- we all rely on each other. Respect the girl code! Hos before bros!
Sorry, I could not resist that, LOL!
Take a breath, girl! It ain't all that bad!
So let them know that all that hard earned cash they have is one thing, and what you have to offer is another. Set the terms and the conditions, and if they try to talk you to drop safety standards, discretionary boundaries, or the monetary return for your time and attention, dump the chumps.
If they whine about their "rights" unabashedly whine back at them about your dignity.
As DA would say, before any of us had any rights we all had our dignity.
I'm not going to pretend that I am comfortable with being spoken to in vulgar language.
I won't respond to your message if you say something rude or insulting.
If something is done during a session that I cannot handle, I will ask you to leave.
I've NEVER refused to give someone the fee back. I would rather that money be gone than to risk being murdered or beaten.
I don't see clients I am uncomfortable with because I immediately assume that anyone who acts in such a way would be 100% unaffected by hurting me.
Additionally,
I have a life. I'm 24 years old, trying to go to college, never had a stable home life, just now am driving and buying a car...
And I don't spend all the money I earn as soon as I get it. I can afford to take a month or two off and not worry.
I'm a responsible person.
Because I've been unable to relate to any of the other ladies in this industry, I haven't made any friends or retained any lasting affiliations.
I don't work with Mia. I don't work with Ms. Jones.
They are much nicer and accommodating women than I am. At the end of the day, I do not want to hate myself or dislike what I do.