If I had a time machine I'd totally sex up Benjamin Franklin and Alexander Hamilton, I bet we'd get on like gangbusters. Perhaps even on the same occasion 
This is a great question Electr0nsrealm, and one I think is important to many providers and clients. I spend a lot of time on my site talking about my personality, interests, and outlook because I want to attract men who value spending time with a lady who is intelligent and compassionate. I truly think what I do goes beyond physical gratification and love when I can brighten someone's day and provide a safe emotional as well as physical outlet. So I prefer to see clients who want more than just a purely physical encounter. I'm a very sexual person, but am definitely sapiosexual: intelligence is the common denominator in terms of people I'm attracted to. Now of course there are many kinds of intellect and one of the things I love most about my work is the different kinds of people I get to meet and have interesting and intense experiences with. My worldview is constantly growing and evolving due to the wonderful men I've met.
On the flipside, I realize my personality is not for everyone, I've been told (as a compliment) my introverted, idealistic nature is a bit unusual for an escort. I think that's probably true, though I've been thrilled to discover many types of personalities represented among the wonderful ladies here. If anyone is familiar with the MBTI personality type system, I'm as INFP as they come. But if a potential client is expecting a super gregarious, dominant, PSE provider we would both be better off if they looked elsewhere. I think I have a responsibility to portray my personality as accurately as I portray my body, you can never fully predict chemistry but the men who have enjoyed spending time with me the most are those who were as attracted by my words as my pictures. I wouldn't have it any other way.
I would have accepted "horny". 
But Miss Raleigh you deserve extra credit. I'm sensing a bit of an overachiever in there. Well done.
In your extremely insightful response you bring up a bit of a related question. Do providers (or should providers) show/market their actual personalities? And as clients can we (or should we) know your "real" personalities?
I suppose in this business there is a double standard. We gents want to know all about the "real" you. But only if it's good. Real girls never have bad days, right? They are always witty, charming, horny, and sexy.
Speaking of - something I look for in a partner is intelligence combined with curiousity. I find that extremely sexy. Because often when a girl is curious about the world it equates to a certain adventuresome nature in the bedroom. At least that has been my experience.
PS: I've got my eye on you young lady. Actually both of them. LOL
Posted By: AvaRaleigh
If I had a time machine I'd totally sex up Benjamin Franklin and Alexander Hamilton, I bet we'd get on like gangbusters. Perhaps even on the same occasion
This is a great question Electr0nsrealm, and one I think is important to many providers and clients. I spend a lot of time on my site talking about my personality, interests, and outlook because I want to attract men who value spending time with a lady who is intelligent and compassionate. I truly think what I do goes beyond physical gratification and love when I can brighten someone's day and provide a safe emotional as well as physical outlet. So I prefer to see clients who want more than just a purely physical encounter. I'm a very sexual person, but am definitely sapiosexual: intelligence is the common denominator in terms of people I'm attracted to. Now of course there are many kinds of intellect and one of the things I love most about my work is the different kinds of people I get to meet and have interesting and intense experiences with. My worldview is constantly growing and evolving due to the wonderful men I've met.
On the flipside, I realize my personality is not for everyone, I've been told (as a compliment) my introverted, idealistic nature is a bit unusual for an escort. I think that's probably true, though I've been thrilled to discover many types of personalities represented among the wonderful ladies here. If anyone is familiar with the MBTI personality type system, I'm as INFP as they come. But if a potential client is expecting a super gregarious, dominant, PSE provider we would both be better off if they looked elsewhere. I think I have a responsibility to portray my personality as accurately as I portray my body, you can never fully predict chemistry but the men who have enjoyed spending time with me the most are those who were as attracted by my words as my pictures. I wouldn't have it any other way.
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You've got me, I was a total teacher's pet in school. It's really not intentional, I just like putting effort into things that interest me.
I imagine it varies from provider to provider, but I would postulate that most commonly you get the real her, but the "first date" version of her. Think about it: on a first date are you going to talk about your cool trip to Peru, the fact you're trilingual, and your love of Neil Degrasse Tyson or are you going to mention your bad divorce, credit card debit, and that it takes you three weeks to wash dishes in your sink? I, like everyone else, have bad days. I have habits many of my clients would find less than endearing if we were in a traditional relationship. My actual apartment is not nearly as tidy as my incall. I usually wear my glasses instead of contacts. I sometimes get hurt, angry, or upset (not usually due to clients) and vent about it to people I love. If I don't have an appointment and someone contacts me for a last minute request, I'm not sitting at my incall in lingerie filing my nails and humming "Someday My Prince Will Come." Usually I'm in yoga pants or pjs at home reading or watching Netflix. It takes me a minimum of 2 hours to get date ready and get over to my incall usually.
However, I enjoy being my "first date self." It's fun to get ready, dress up a little, and meet someone new or known to you who very much wants to be in your company. If I'm having a meh day or week a nice time with a client really perks me up. If I'm having a really bad day or week, which has happened on occasion, I simply don't see anyone until I feel my other stuff won't negatively impact my time with clients. I love that this job gives me that option.
I often find that intellectually curiosity and carnal passion go hand in hand. I like partners who have the same mindset.
P.S. Well thank you, should you ever want to do more than look please feel free to send me a note. We have a couple of mutual friends who think highly of you, screening would be a breeze 
Ok, let me get the mental picture here...
Me - playing the role of teacher. You (a lovely young woman) - trying to earn favor with said teacher. Attempting to be my "pet" as it were?
Hmmm... Yes, I think I can work with that. I'm really inexperienced to this whole role play thing but I'm pretty sure I can connect those dots.
What would you do to earn a gold star?
Never mind, we can talk about that later...
I am completely fine with a girl being her real self, especially if we are regulars. But when we're "on the clock" I do expect her to put her game face on and make it all about me. There's no crying in baseball. Or in the hobby. At least not on the clock.
Hey, I'm a gentleman but I never said I was altruistic. At least not in hobby sense anyway. LOL. I seek a companion to relieve stress, not to create it.
I strive for minimum drama and maximum pleasure. Not the other way around.
Posted By: AvaRaleigh
You've got me, I was a total teacher's pet in school. It's really not intentional, I just like putting effort into things that interest me.
I imagine it varies from provider to provider, but I would postulate that most commonly you get the real her, but the "first date" version of her. Think about it: on a first date are you going to talk about your cool trip to Peru, the fact you're trilingual, and your love of Neil Degrasse Tyson or are you going to mention your bad divorce, credit card debit, and that it takes you three weeks to wash dishes in your sink? I, like everyone else, have bad days. I have habits many of my clients would find less than endearing if we were in a traditional relationship. My actual apartment is not nearly as tidy as my incall. I usually wear my glasses instead of contacts. I sometimes get hurt, angry, or upset (not usually due to clients) and vent about it to people I love. If I don't have an appointment and someone contacts me for a last minute request, I'm not sitting at my incall in lingerie filing my nails and humming "Someday My Prince Will Come." Usually I'm in yoga pants or pjs at home reading or watching Netflix. It takes me a minimum of 2 hours to get date ready and get over to my incall usually.
However, I enjoy being my "first date self." It's fun to get ready, dress up a little, and meet someone new or known to you who very much wants to be in your company. If I'm having a meh day or week a nice time with a client really perks me up. If I'm having a really bad day or week, which has happened on occasion, I simply don't see anyone until I feel my other stuff won't negatively impact my time with clients. I love that this job gives me that option.
I often find that intellectually curiosity and carnal passion go hand in hand. I like partners who have the same mindset.
P.S. Well thank you, should you ever want to do more than look please feel free to send me a note. We have a couple of mutual friends who think highly of you, screening would be a breeze
Oh, TL's checklist - let me see how I rate...
Confidence - Yeah, I'm confident. Well, probably. Most likely. Some of the time. Let's give it the benefit of the doubt and say "check!".
Sexual energy - hmmm. She must mean horniness - oh, that's a definite check.
Humor - that means funny. I wonder if funny looking counts? Oh, I'm sure that works. Either way she'll be laughing, right? That's a big checkeroonie.
Dominant - I'll take a pee and leave the toilet seat up. You can't get much more dominant than that. Check.
Wow - looks like I pass the test. Sweet.
BTW - I tend to like a woman that is slightly submissive and will follow my lead. Unless of course I'm looking for a domme experience. Then she can use me like her personal sex toy for her own amusement and I'll love every minute of it.
Come to think of it, I'll love every minute of that no matter what kind of session it is. LOL
Posted By: terrilynn
A certain vibe that exudes confidence, humor and good sexual energy
a man being slightly dominate is a plus
Yes, you definitely pass sounds like you and I could take turns flipping the roles of dom/sub and both leave with a huge smile
Hugs and kisses
TL
Good sexual energy? Who can't have sexual energy when in your presence TL? Trying to work out so that I can keep my stamina up for you Babe. Been too long.
You are next on my list. Frolicking has its values, but need some of your energy. And thank you for the wonderful referrals.
I figured it would be rude to not include my own answer to my question. So - if I had to build my perfect companion here are the personality traits they would have:
Intelligence - because it's nice to be able to carry on an interesting conversation. Having the ability to talk about a wide variety of topics and grasp new concepts and adapt to various situations is important.
Creativity - being inventive in life, and especially in the bedroom is critical to keeping your partner's long term attention. And it's a good prerequisite for a role play partner.
Curiousity - wondering how something works or how it feels is important. Wanting to explore new sensations and situations is a wonderful bedroom trait to have. What would happen if I put this ice cube in my mouth and then sucked on her nipple?... See - curiousity gets you into all kinds of interesting situations. Many of them pleasurable.
Confidence - important for a number of reasons. First, it implies that you have the required skill set to please your partner - so you've done your homework so to speak. Second, it implies a good mental state - that you know yourself well and are generally happy with the person you have become. Third, confident people are less likely to be needy - they typically won't go seeking validation in someone else (emotionally needy folks make poor long term partners for obvious reasons).
Good sense of humor - it's the glue that holds life together. Being able to laugh at yourself and others (in the right situations) is perhaps the most quietly important trait anyone could have. Humor can defuse tense situations and it is the salve that helps us heal. And it makes you pretty popular at parties too.
Adventurous spirit - you only go around once (well that's the popular opinion anyway) so why not try a wide variety of experiences? Don't you want to spend your time with an adventurous partner (in and out of the bedroom)? One of my great loves really enjoyed role play, imagination, and just playing mind games (in the good way... well, usually lol). She would start her improv's by saying "Follow my lead...". That's important in life - someone who can take you on that safari of the mind. Getting away from reality every once in a while relaxes us and helps us to focus when we come back to the real world. I want a girl that's going to look at me with a gleam in her eye, give me a mischievous smile, say "Follow my lead", and take me on an adventure.
Politeness - because nobody wants to hang with an asshole.
Compassion - or perhaps "empathy" as Ginger calls it. Having the ability to connect with your partner to know what they are feeling is vitally important. Compassionate/empathetic folks are the closest thing we have to mind readers in this world. It can also be called "having a heart of gold". You always know where you stand with these folks. And that is extremely comforting.
There. That's not too much to ask for in a companion, is it?
