If her demeanor is that I'm doing her a favor by seeing her, and that I should feel humbled and honored, then I need to look elsewhere. I don't expect her to roll out the red carpet, or throw rose petals on the ground in front of me, but it would be nice if she just acted like she was looking forward to seeing me.
GREAT answer! Oftentimes, I hear it being said that some providers don't even TRY to act amused. That has to suck handing over or placing that envelope down after a "blah" of a greeting. =/
"I will beg for pussy; I will pay for pussy - I will NOT beg to pay for pussy..." Pretty much says it all....
I have little reason to entertain the company of ANY who are rude, impolite or exhibit a total lack of grace whether they are a Client, another Shopper in the Mall or a Member of Family. Life is too short and complicated to be subject to those who are totally insensitive to others. I enjoy witty repartee bordering on sarcasm but have no time for those who have little thought or care for what they say or do. I always attempt to be gracious and careful in thought and action though I am direct and to some maybe blunt but NEVER insensitive. Admittedly sometimes some of us just may not click and it often becomes obvious right away in first conversation or contact so my philosophy is to just dust it off and go on rather than continue a potentially uncomfortable contact for either of us. Not just Clients by any means but it could just as easily be the appliance repairman and he could just as easily feel the same unease with me. C'est la vie. Suzee xoxo
I absolutely agree with sailor66. It's a fantasy, ladies, please at least seem interested in us gents. We want to be the center of your attention for the short time we are together.
I would add if the lady has three pages of rules/regulations/disclaimers on her website that she wants me to read before we meet, that's an indication we aren't a good match. If she has a no-review, cancellation, security deposit, etc. policy then that's a warning sign for me. Too much rigidity, scripted behavior, or control freakness (heh) is a turnoff for me.
Also if her communications are short, impolite, or excessively delayed then we probably won't hit it off well either. As I am a sucker for a funny or flirtatious message.
I find it interesting that you were advised to participate in the boards. I think that could be a whole discussion in itself... why, how, when, and where you should contribute. There are those that say any publicity is good publicity, but I'm not one of them. Ladies that are thoughtful, funny, kind, and helpful always catch my attention. Saying something interesting can start a series of pm's that can lead to a date that might not have occurred if you are a shy wallflower.
Social media, board presence, and online persona are all tools that have a very interesting dynamic. They are powerful - and can be a great help to your business if used in a positive way.
I couldn't agree more about your points regarding communication.
I've passed over seeing quite a few ladies lately just because they didn't reply to my appointment request within 48 hrs.
I know you ladies have personal lives and all but so do we gents. Due to my job, I have to plan appointments a few days in advance and if I don't hear back from a lady after 24 hrs, I usually have to move on and find someone else.
I also agree that cold and business-like emails are a turn off. Ladies, men have fragile egos and want to feel wanted. If a lady is sweet and shows genuine interest in meeting me, that's a major plus.
Another turn off for me is a lack of punctuality. Again, due to my job, my whole day is pretty jam packed so if a lady is 15-20 minutes late for our appointment, that can really fuck up my day. I know life happens and being late sometimes cannot be avoided but there are some providers who are consistently late for no good reason.
I find myself returning frequently to the ladies who are great communicators and are also respectful of my time!
Attitude is important. I've introduced a couple of friends to our wonderful world of P4P and felt I couldn't possibly stress enough how important it is to be NICE. Try not to behave as though you believe men should kiss the ground you walk on, because with that princess attitude, they'll quickly realize there are many more hot chicks to get laid by other than one who's got an attitude problem. Plus, I go into sessions with high hopes for orgasms, and I'm not sure that would happen as easily if I felt like I was simply tolerating you and gracing just by my presence. Be friendly, be fun.
I do, however, disagree on one point, and that is a cancellation policy. If I've turned down other clients so that I can entertain you, and you cancel last minute, I'm now out a significant chunk of change. I think that's a standard practice and it makes sense from a business standpoint.
I'm surprised no one has said anything about a lady being on her phone. I feel like that has to be one of the biggest mood killers. Occasionally, there may be a situation where you have to check it, but I feel the same about my dates. His time, his dime, but hearing a phone going off excessively when I'm mid-blowjob really throws me off. Turn that shit on silent.
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Hey, great msg. & I did have a discussion with the client that suggested. I'm merely trying to gain POSITIVE internet presence. Not shy at all, just a bit new here and still getting adjusted. =)
Thank you, and welcome to the board Miss Moore. I think it is great that you are introducing yourself and getting some board presence here. It's a good way for us guys and gals to get to know you a bit. Thoughtful, interesting, and funny posts are always welcome around here. Lord knows we need all we can get. 
Just try not to be too self promoting or the threAD police may pull you over. LOL. But I have seen some of the true artists pull a really great threAD off without any repercussions. It's a beautiful thing.
Asking questions and advice is interesting, informative, and can be a valuable marketing tool if done properly. I wish you the very best.
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Hey, great msg. & I did have a discussion with the client that suggested. I'm merely trying to gain POSITIVE internet presence. Not shy at all, just a bit new here and still getting adjusted. =)
if she is overly wordy in ads or convo I probs won't book.
You'll see a lot more of me, promise. =)
If a guy is extremely rude, I don't want to see him. Even if screenings come back right. I just don't deal well with people who have no common courtesy in general. Even more so when it's a potential client.
They really are everything 
I've declined meetings because I detected rudeness or neediness.
Rudeness is pretty easy to detect.. emails contain no pleasantries, they are not friendly during phone chats, they use profanity etc. That's all off putting for me, and I assume they have an aggressive personality that I just won't enjoy.
Neediness can be more challenging to detect, sometimes it just seems friendly. Excessively wordy emails are a bit of a red flag for me, particularly if the majority of the email is about me, lots of compliments about my photos, websites, board posts etc. Those guys are usually seeking a similarly long, complimentary email in return.
Lots of emails and texts in a short period of time.. they're usually just friendly "hello's" but a lack of a prompt reply from me seems to cause angst. I generally assume that I won't enjoy myself with someone who expects more of my time, than the time we are actually together.
I think the best introduction is friendly and informative yet concise.
Great post!
A few things with apologies beforehand 'cause some of my answers may irritate.
1. CBJ
2. Attitude...read sailors post, he nailed it.
3. She has different rates listed on 4 or 5 different sites.
4. Her schedule shows she is available in Atlanta, Miami, NYC, Las Vegas, LA, Chicago, and Boise...all on the same date! Terrific...I'm gonna try and schedule a date with a lightning bolt!
5. And the obvious (smart ass) answer.....she ignores my request! Dang...
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I have turned down a few guys lately for this reason. They want to mention some bullshit they "HEARD" Yes I have marched a few right out my front door lately too! Honestly I am pretty fed up with what people HEAR. Good grief! Get to actually KNOW someone and for fucksake I really don't care what people have HEARD about me LOL!
I just want to meet and fuck and be friends minus all the BS. If I had a dime for every time someone has said, cussed me or even met me just to see if things were true or not, based on what someone HEARD, Id be a rich MFer now lol!
Other than that, other reasons for not seeing a gentleman... being rude, smelling awful (if they refuse to shower, Here is your $ back and good luck on your search) and requesting BBFS. I have Female condoms and I am not offering BBFS. Also being a haggler will get a guy turned down too.
This is a really good post and hopefully it will help some understand why they got turned down
Hugs and kisses
TL
