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Re: You guys are really bringing me down
antares 806 reads
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Thank you electr0nrealm for your good advice. I sincerely appreciate it. I think you  tried to understand me. 

I am not a bad guy. My post seems as if I am denigrating the ladies.  No, I am not. I just asked a question. I believed that all the ladies are hard working people who are just trying to make it just like myself. Well, my disappointment come from finding out that not all of them are as I believed. My disappointment came from discovering that I work hard, she works hard but there is someone who is sitting all day long on the couch. And this someone gets all the rewards of my hard work and her hard work. I discovered this just last night...

I am not  saying that all of them are like that. This a single case in my experience. And believe me,  I don't resent her, I just try to understand her...
Posted By: electr0nsrealm
Ah - crash and burn, I get it now.  
   
 As is often the case I agree with Gambler's comments.  And in our defense we did try to warn you.  Or at least shed some reality on the situation.  But the problem with warning someone about falling in love is - it never stops them.  If anything, it usually adds fuel to the fire.  But like I said earlier about these boards - free reality checks are always given here.  So stop by often.  If you can handle it.  ;-)  
   
 To the OP - buck up, she's just a girl.  Last as I recall there are a couple more of those on this planet somewhere (you'll have to find them yourself).  And some of them will be appreciative of your time, money, and attention.  Not necessarily in that order though.  LOL.  
   
 Keep your head up and try to shake it off.  Plenty of fish in the sea and all that.  Just remember what I said about the difference between a provider's persona (fantasy) and who she is in real life (reality).  You may not have even known her true self.  
   
 Love is wonderful, but it's often complicated.  And even when (if?) you do find it you can never be sure how long it will last.  So enjoy it every moment...  
   
 My advice to you is go have some nice flings with some of the top notch pro talent around this town, but don't get too attached.  Often seeing a few ladies in a roundabout fashion will give you the feeling of being a regular but should help prevent you from getting too attached to any particular one.  And I can assure you there are many amazing ladies in this town whose very job is to make you forget all about your troubles.  :-)  
   
 Good luck.

antares1582 reads

The hard working men to the lazies guys who fuck them for free

No disrespect

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Exactly....I'm guessing his ATF that he is infatuated with decided to go a little vacation without him....alcohol, sex, and message boards...Makes for some excellent entertainment.

GaGambler816 reads

One day a guy is in love spouting poetry, not caring that others are sharing "his" woman because he is in love, the next day the same guy finds out she is spending "his" money on the guy she truly cares for and starts down the road of bitterness and resentment. Yep that reality shit can be a bitch, can't it?

We did warn him about unrequited love in the hobby though, he can never say we didn't.

antares777 reads

If you take out "bitterness" and "resentment", then you are absolutely right

GaGambler757 reads

and almost always happens to guys who fall in love with hookers who don't fall for them in return.

Maybe you will be the exception, we'll see.

antares657 reads

is the last of my concerns. lol

Posted By: bballs
No disrespect

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cashorcredit707 reads

Just enjoy your hr and don't envy the guy fucking her for free

Ah - crash and burn, I get it now.

As is often the case I agree with Gambler's comments.  And in our defense we did try to warn you.  Or at least shed some reality on the situation.  But the problem with warning someone about falling in love is - it never stops them.  If anything, it usually adds fuel to the fire.  But like I said earlier about these boards - free reality checks are always given here.  So stop by often.  If you can handle it.  ;-)

To the OP - buck up, she's just a girl.  Last as I recall there are a couple more of those on this planet somewhere (you'll have to find them yourself).  And some of them will be appreciative of your time, money, and attention.  Not necessarily in that order though.  LOL.

Keep your head up and try to shake it off.  Plenty of fish in the sea and all that.  Just remember what I said about the difference between a provider's persona (fantasy) and who she is in real life (reality).  You may not have even known her true self.  

Love is wonderful, but it's often complicated.  And even when (if?) you do find it you can never be sure how long it will last.  So enjoy it every moment...

My advice to you is go have some nice flings with some of the top notch pro talent around this town, but don't get too attached.  Often seeing a few ladies in a roundabout fashion will give you the feeling of being a regular but should help prevent you from getting too attached to any particular one.  And I can assure you there are many amazing ladies in this town whose very job is to make you forget all about your troubles.  :-)

Good luck.

antares807 reads

Thank you electr0nrealm for your good advice. I sincerely appreciate it. I think you  tried to understand me. 

I am not a bad guy. My post seems as if I am denigrating the ladies.  No, I am not. I just asked a question. I believed that all the ladies are hard working people who are just trying to make it just like myself. Well, my disappointment come from finding out that not all of them are as I believed. My disappointment came from discovering that I work hard, she works hard but there is someone who is sitting all day long on the couch. And this someone gets all the rewards of my hard work and her hard work. I discovered this just last night...

I am not  saying that all of them are like that. This a single case in my experience. And believe me,  I don't resent her, I just try to understand her...

Posted By: electr0nsrealm
Ah - crash and burn, I get it now.  
   
 As is often the case I agree with Gambler's comments.  And in our defense we did try to warn you.  Or at least shed some reality on the situation.  But the problem with warning someone about falling in love is - it never stops them.  If anything, it usually adds fuel to the fire.  But like I said earlier about these boards - free reality checks are always given here.  So stop by often.  If you can handle it.  ;-)  
   
 To the OP - buck up, she's just a girl.  Last as I recall there are a couple more of those on this planet somewhere (you'll have to find them yourself).  And some of them will be appreciative of your time, money, and attention.  Not necessarily in that order though.  LOL.  
   
 Keep your head up and try to shake it off.  Plenty of fish in the sea and all that.  Just remember what I said about the difference between a provider's persona (fantasy) and who she is in real life (reality).  You may not have even known her true self.  
   
 Love is wonderful, but it's often complicated.  And even when (if?) you do find it you can never be sure how long it will last.  So enjoy it every moment...  
   
 My advice to you is go have some nice flings with some of the top notch pro talent around this town, but don't get too attached.  Often seeing a few ladies in a roundabout fashion will give you the feeling of being a regular but should help prevent you from getting too attached to any particular one.  And I can assure you there are many amazing ladies in this town whose very job is to make you forget all about your troubles.  :-)  
   
 Good luck.

Providers are people just like anyone else.  There are good ones and bad ones.  And remember even the good ones can have bad days from time to time.  Don't judge all ladies in the biz by the actions of one.

Just like I sincerely hope providers don't judge all clients by the action of one bad apple.

Posted By: antares
Thank you electr0nrealm for your good advice. I sincerely appreciate it. I think you  tried to understand me.   
   
 I am not a bad guy. My post seems as if I am denigrating the ladies.  No, I am not. I just asked a question. I believed that all the ladies are hard working people who are just trying to make it just like myself. Well, my disappointment come from finding out that not all of them are as I believed. My disappointment came from discovering that I work hard, she works hard but there is someone who is sitting all day long on the couch. And this someone gets all the rewards of my hard work and her hard work. I discovered this just last night...  
   
 I am not  saying that all of them are like that. This a single case in my experience. And believe me,  I don't resent her, I just try to understand her...

It's such a cliche, you can't even be surprised!  You should expect it.

Everybody is trying to get something different out of the hobby, but TRUE companionship and relationship should not be that thing.  She's a GFE, not a GF.  If you follow rule #7: "Never see the same girl twice in a row.", then it should be easier to keep feelings out of it.  There is a neuro-science theory, that just like your mind set can influence your body, that your body can influence your mind.  For example, try to put on a big smile while slumping over in your chair: feels wrong, even difficult to do.  I suspect that all this makes it difficult for some hobbyists.  You are, for a short time, pretending to be a couple (lots of smiles, small talk and fucking), now your body AND mind are suggesting something you know is not true, that she means something to you as a permanent part of your life, and you mentally want to take possession of her.  

Now, your brain knows that is not the case, but it's still in there.  And I think it gets worse if you are a regular, and repeating without a second or third woman in between visits.  See, if you were visiting others before repeating, you would be less likely to process this as a relationship (and more as a transaction), and you would become more aware of the fact that you are meeting your needs and she is meeting her needs. Once that is established, not only will you expect the PlayStation Pimp, you also won't care in the slightest.  Which is great, because then there is no chance that he can ruin your experience!

GaGambler613 reads

She is a GFE to the OP and a GF to somebody else.

and who knows if the BF is really some lazy fucker who lies around on the couch all day? I've been "that guy" who fucks the hooker for free that other  guys have to pay for, but I am hardly mooching off of any woman I get involved with.  

Who knows what the truth is, all we have is what some hooker told the OP in response to his declaration of "undying love" For all we know she might have just made the BF up to get rid of a customer who was pushing boundaries.

Good observation.  There's always (at least) two sides to every story isn't there?
Hmmm...  I feel another PSA coming on.  ;-)

Posted By: GaGambler
She is a GFE to the OP and a GF to somebody else.  
   
 and who knows if the BF is really some lazy fucker who lies around on the couch all day? I've been "that guy" who fucks the hooker for free that other  guys have to pay for, but I am hardly mooching off of any woman I get involved with.  
   
 Who knows what the truth is, all we have is what some hooker told the OP in response to his declaration of "undying love" For all we know she might have just made the BF up to get rid of a customer who was pushing boundaries.

Cheer up man. You met your first provider crush and realized that she isn't into you as you figure. Gagambler, electr0nsrealm and others had warned you about the outcome of this. You will meet plenty more who will give you that same feeling. The key is not sulk in this experience and learn to improve upon it. Like the saying goes: "what doesn't kill you will make you stronger".  

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and move on.  Lots of wise advice has been given on this lesson.  Learn from it, and your future enjoyment in this hobby will be much better.  Also, if this helps, don't feel like the lone ranger; it's not just your money she's taking home to the guy who is the object of her true feelings...it's also everyone else's who spent time with her too.

But sometimes the guy doesn't get a cut. He could be there because she is lonely at night or she needs protection for some reason or he fucks good and make her laugh.  

If she is telling you about her lazy boyfriend who is sucking up her dough she is just talking drama shit. If she tells the boyfriend to go and she brings you into her private life then that is something else.  

Good luck and whatever happens do not bring it to the board because whatever happens will be your fault. Believe me on this.

You got the bad news early ... later it would have been a deeper cut. Damage on the money is nothing compared to the damages to the emotions.  

Please protect yourself from your emotions. Everyone has their own protection strategies ... but easier (to execute) ones are external - see more girls, fish more .. lol! Internally, though one needs to create their own defense mechanisms - albeit very difficult to execute - such things as impassionate involvement, detached attachment, only temporal expectation - these self-conflicting ideas will set your 'conflict' free; and these are easy to write and impossible to implement. (Trust me you are not alone in this and I am speaking from my own earlier experiences)

The truth is most of us (including myself) cannot handle the truth ... (stealing from Jack Nicholson here :) )

If it helps to bring a bit of peace: Ginger's astute point is to be considered seriously ... pussy is never free ... lol! this guy is not fucking her 'free' ... imo, the costs you were paying before 'falling in love' was really the least of it.

Finally, I am a bit curious - how did you come to know? A lot can be understood from that. Did she reveal this on her own or did you 'find' out? For example, if she told you this - if true, she may might have done this to do you a favor; if untrue, she might be causing drama with other objectives ...  

Also, do not worry about whether it is your fault or not - you have much more to worry about - your emotions. So do share your experience - we all can learn from it.

 

Posted By: antares
The hard working men to the lazies guys who fuck them for free?  
 

antares750 reads

I was drunk when I posted...

I left the office early on Friday with a coworker. We  had a few drinks and dinner together and end up later at a  strip club. After a few more drinks and some lap dances, we decided to leave. 

On my way home, I remembered a text message I received a few weeks ago from a girl I use to see regularly. She told me that she was back in town and that she wanted to see me. I haven't seen her in more than a year...

So I texted her, "Hey Baby, are you still in town?". Positive response.

About an hour later, I knocked on her door. I was a little late for the appointment though; but I did warn her before coming, she replied "no worries Baby". Once there, we talked a little, then we proceeded to the main menu as I have scheduled just thirty mn...

As, I was on top of her, someone knocked a few times on the door, then suddenly burst in and said " Man, your time is up" . I was naked, really naked, completely naked...I was humiliated...

I quickly covered myself and reach out to my clothes. The girl tried to say something, but the guy said " shut up". Then, he sat on the couch, his legs crossed up, he turned off the TV and started to play with his smartphone.

After, I had my suit on, I took a serious look at the guy on the couch. I couldn't help but ask myself why would a guy like this humiliated me like this? On my out, the girl said " I am sorry" . That's the only time she spoke since the guy ask her to shut up. I looked at her and a few seconds and left...

On my way home, I stopped by the local gas station and got a twelve pack. I spent all the night and the early morning drinking.  I decided to never see any other lady  again even if...and to never come back on Ter again. But here I am again....

PS. She is a cute, kind girl.

One more thing, if any, my post is supposed to hurt the ladies. They didn't respond but they  didn' t reach  a quick conclusion either. I say thank you. The only one who responded was gracefull. Thank you Madame!

Thank you GentleGuy1020

 
 

Posted By: gentleguy1020
You got the bad news early ... later it would have been a deeper cut. Damage on the money is nothing compared to the damages to the emotions.  
   
 Please protect yourself from your emotions. Everyone has their own protection strategies ... but easier (to execute) ones are external - see more girls, fish more .. lol! Internally, though one needs to create their own defense mechanisms - albeit very difficult to execute - such things as impassionate involvement, detached attachment, only temporal expectation - these self-conflicting ideas will set your 'conflict' free; and these are easy to write and impossible to implement. (Trust me you are not alone in this and I am speaking from my own earlier experiences)  
   
 The truth is most of us (including myself) cannot handle the truth ... (stealing from Jack Nicholson here :) )  
   
 If it helps to bring a bit of peace: Ginger's astute point is to be considered seriously ... pussy is never free ... lol! this guy is not fucking her 'free' ... imo, the costs you were paying before 'falling in love' was really the least of it.  
   
 Finally, I am a bit curious - how did you come to know? A lot can be understood from that. Did she reveal this on her own or did you 'find' out? For example, if she told you this - if true, she may might have done this to do you a favor; if untrue, she might be causing drama with other objectives ...  
   
 Also, do not worry about whether it is your fault or not - you have much more to worry about - your emotions. So do share your experience - we all can learn from it.  
   
   
   
Posted By: antares
The hard working men to the lazies guys who fuck them for free?  
 

GaGambler843 reads

I think you should maybe take up stamp collecting.

We aren't really laughing at you, we are laughing with you.

Ok, that's a lie. we are actually laughing at you, you are so far past pathetic I won't be able to stop laughing at your dumb ass for a week

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Posted By: GaGambler
I think you should maybe take up stamp collecting.  
   
 We aren't really laughing at you, we are laughing with you.  
   
 Ok, that's a lie. we are actually laughing at you, you are so far past pathetic I won't be able to stop laughing at your dumb ass for a week.  
   
 

1.  That is a good way to get shot.

2. If you are too drunk to post you are defs to drunk to drive.
    Next time take uber instead of consuming mass quantities and driving.

3.  Post the girls link, please!  lol

antares576 reads

I will survive and I will pass on your advices.

Thanks again!

Posted By: antares
I will survive and I will pass on your advices.  
   
 Thanks again!

antares598 reads

But, thank you so much!  I will remember!

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Posted By: antares
I will survive and I will pass on your advices.  
     
  Thanks again!

...because she realized she had a Stage 5 Clinger?  

Just like you made up this story to try to throw her off AFTER she confronted you about who you really are?

Woosah!

xoxo
Caylee

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