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I'm not a lady, but I'll tell you what a lady I was very fond of did:  without telling me she was moving on, she suggested we have dinner at an upscale place and then picked up the check.  At our final (I didn't realize it was the final but suspected something was brewing) meeting a few days later, she was even more playful and affectionate, but when I called later for another appt, she was gone.  At first I was annoyed, then a bit hurt, then felt it was really a class act on her part, and what she did was to say, in effect, "thanks for everything, no regrets, time to move on."  After waiting a couple of months I sent her a quick email, not expecting an answer, but got a warm response sent from her home country, saying she had moved on, had fond memories, had started a legit business and was happy.  My reaction:  that was the way to go.

Ladies, I aam always ose to the vest, less is more guy. But ladies, help me out. I'd ask my 4 sisters but they'd be aghast what I've been up to:). Although certainly bumps, even very big (and recent) ones, a lady in the biz and I, well, got too close given the need, to paraphrase her, maintain familial and other relationships.    Maybe more later, but I want (and she does too)  to close it out in the best way possible, after 2 plus years of weekly (several hour) meetings and multiple overnights in different cities (if at all possible under the circumstances)  Won't go into details here, on her or I for now but here's question from a biz and personal standpoint:

Do you walk away and let it go without further word including by not responding to text, calls, and email and/or simply say "take care" "bye" no more us as friends/lovers? Or do you celebrate what you had in one final hurrah and let it go?  I know my utr friend well enough to know she will shake her head at my post and  not be "persuaded by it":), but I am curious about how others see it, even if I, like her, too, might dissent:) fom the view of the masses

Because...afterall, 2 years of intimacy and friendship, especially the NSA type with no drama, etc, is still worth celebrating... and this journey is so long and interesting, that you never know the need/want/desire to connect again may come up...

IMHO

I'm kind of on a retirement tour trajectory myself and want to remember the few who are very special very well.

noagenosage316 reads

I'm not a lady, but I'll tell you what a lady I was very fond of did:  without telling me she was moving on, she suggested we have dinner at an upscale place and then picked up the check.  At our final (I didn't realize it was the final but suspected something was brewing) meeting a few days later, she was even more playful and affectionate, but when I called later for another appt, she was gone.  At first I was annoyed, then a bit hurt, then felt it was really a class act on her part, and what she did was to say, in effect, "thanks for everything, no regrets, time to move on."  After waiting a couple of months I sent her a quick email, not expecting an answer, but got a warm response sent from her home country, saying she had moved on, had fond memories, had started a legit business and was happy.  My reaction:  that was the way to go.

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