I didn't mean to insinuate that you weren't properly groomed, but only that a lady may not want to commit to certain things until seeing that you are 
Years ago I was introduced to rimming at an Asian massage parlor. Not having asked for this service I was shocked at first, then I was shocked at how pleasurable it was.
I'm looking for a referral for a lady that provides this service in the northern new England area. I've searched reviews and there's very few reviewed providers in the area that perform rimjobs. Thanks
Of course I could never claim to speak for every lady on here, but I've spoken to a few who share my sentiments about the concept of "menu items" such as this.
Some ladies like to do certain things, such as greek, or rimjobs, or whatever have you, in certain circumstances or with certain partners, but may not want to broadcast them as openly available to the entirety of the internet. If you've watched the boards with any interest and seen the various complaints about clients' cleanliness, clumsiness, and attitudes of entitlement (i.e. "I read her 25 reviews and one said she rimmed a guy, why wouldn't she do it to me? What a ripoff!") then you might understand why we feel that way.
Still, I understand that this puts a man such as yourself in a difficult position, as you're unsure who to ask. Some ladies do have hard limits against rimming, and more probably aren't open to discussing it until after thorough screening at least, or seeing you and making sure that you care for yourself as a gentleman should.
Hopefully the backchannels here prove useful for you. However, you may want to reach out to a few ladies that would be otherwise interesting to you, and ask if rimming is something they have ever done, or would be open to doing again with the right partner (please notice my impersonal tone here). I'm sure there are many more options than the review search filter will find for you.
~Mme X~
... who happens to be in Northern New England
Your response to the OP was thoughtful and very well stated. I agree with your assessment completely. Well done.
TYVM for the thoughtful reply. Im very hygienic and well groomed so that's not an issue. Honestly I just don't know how some providers would react to my request. I'd assume the more accommodating a provider is, the more likely she would be willing to do this. I guess I just gotta ask once things get going...
I didn't mean to insinuate that you weren't properly groomed, but only that a lady may not want to commit to certain things until seeing that you are
~Mme X~
I'll be in Hartford CT/Springfield MA in about a month.
Portland ME in September.