She hit me w a flurry of texted nudes, I got the message....didn't cancel though

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This is a fun question Khori, I'm pretty curious too

I've never thought to offer a session to the guy when I'm used as a reference. I think I'd feel a little icky if he cancelled with her to schedule with me honestly, but I'd be pretty impressed if he decided to schedule with the both of us and make it a threesome lol.

If I understood the question.  Why would I cancel my session with the first lady?  I consider myself a gentleman and honestly I would feel bad about doing something like that.

This hasn't ever happened to me, but I did have a girl tell me to keep my money when I asked her if she'd provide a reference for me (and told her who I wanted to see).  LOL.  I suppose that's as close as I've ever come.  Two things - 1) yes, it was as awkward as it sounded, and 2) it just made me want to see the new lady even more.

Just as a thought experiment here's the way I see it playing out...

I contact a new provider I want to see, set a prospective date and send her my info and references.
(At this point I've already decided I want to see her and with the exception of rude/unresponsive behavior I will see her.)
One of my references contacts me and says something like "Hey babe, I was just thinking about you and I wanted to see you again."
It wouldn't change my plans (why would it?).  She's just offering to see me at her regular rate?  Isn't that available anytime?

Ok, maybe she says "I just wanted to offer you a special deal because I miss you (you're a good client, whatever, etc.)...".  Which is definitely more interesting - depending on what the offer is.  I might take her up on it, but I would still keep my appointment with the new lady.

I can't really see a scenario where I'd cancel with the new provider altogether (short of her jerking me around).

I suppose I wouldn't mind a lady contacting me with an offer, but the timing of the offer would be transparently obvious in that scenario.  But all's fair in love, war, and business...


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And if the hobbyist cancels on the first lady...IMHO that's bad form. Don't dump someone just because another opportunity has arisen if you've already made a commitment.

Are we in high school? i.e. I am jealous because you're seeing so and so? Let's keep it real people.

My .02

your reference, gets the call from the chick you are getting screened for and she gives or doesn't give the reference then she calls her hobbyist and says, "Baby, why you want to see that bitch?  I got what you need right here."

or  

Do you mean does the reference giver's antennae go up to potential business being lost?

Most of the time, I never hear from the ladies I use as a reference (unless they mention it the next time I see them in person).  They may say something like (fill in the blank) contacted me about you and I told her yadda, yadda, yadda.

Now, I did have THIS happen one time.  One of my references reached out to me after being contacted by a new lady I was trying to see.  The reference was someone I had seen multiple times and had great chemistry with.  The reference said - "so, you are cheating on me?"  I knew she was playing around and actually thought it was cute.  I responded back saying - "well, that worked.  can I come see you tomorrow?"  

Now, back to your question.  If a reference did reach out to me after being contacted by a new lady I was trying to see, I would NOT cancel the appointment with the new lady just based on this alone.  By the time, I've sent an introductory email with references, I have my mind made up that I want to meet this new lady.

Cannot add anything more than what's been said so far.  Well coveted guys.

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Khori did this happen to you? Mind=blown

While I might take the offered session - it will depend on my schedule and urges.   I would estimate that the likelihood is 50% if the offer is made in a professional manner - but probably not that month.    Any hint of what I think is BSC or possessiveness, however, and, you'll never hear from me again.

After all, one of the benefits of paying for a session is getting new pussy.... and new menu options....  And sometimes seeing previous friends is a good thing too...

I could not cancel. I don't think it would be right.  Just my disposition.

As far as a reference reaching out to me? Marketing contacts leave me cold. Genuine, personal expressions of interest move me.  

I stay in somewhat regular touch with a very few friends I've met in this world. I've never been asked to "book" again, or had such offered. Those ladies... I will see repeatedly until the day I eventually leave this playground. Those contacts matter.  

Not sure if that answered your question, but it's the best I've got at the moment

yes!! it has happened more times than I can count AND ALSO....

The ladies telling guys "if you go see so n so myself nor my friends will see you, you will be cut off from our group"  
it amazes me that ladies that CLAIM they don't do this absolutely do, do this! It's fucking stupid because most guys will go see that lady anyway.  Funny thing is, they almost always tell me of this. Do the ladies really think the guys won't say anything?  Lol!! Yea right!   Really makes no sense but hey it obviously does work for some ladies.  
Good post Khori ! This stuff is something that needs to be addressed here.
Love
TL

At the same time if possible.  
Most likely, I'd keep the planned visit with New Lady, but I'd be sure to see Other lady ASAP.

Harry

Both ladies are so sweet, real and so honest!!!
I really mean it...