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Re: no longer meet older guys above 70?red_smile
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HAPPY!!! So I will contact you asap I arrive in FtL.. It still is about 6 month to wait ...
Looking forward then to meet!! Seneca

Posted By: SensualShai
In my civilian life I love older men. Just adore them! All of my lovers outside of this business have been 54 and above and it's been like that since my 30's. I just find them much more different than younger men. I knew of one lady that said she likes older men because she doesn't have to have sex with them. They just like being with a woman. Well that ain't the case for me! I have a daddy and brothers so I have enough men that I love without sexing! No way would I get involved with a guy if he can't make love to me or f*ck me! I was put off by how this particular guy reacted! I never ever pressured him to take me out. I don't smoke or drink alcohol and never did so there was never any club dates. We went out socially to the grocery store, to see shows and walking in the park. Hell, I was perfectly fine with a Netflix movie and some pizza! I am not a high maintenance woman. Do I like the salon? Yes! I am feminine and love being a woman and I love shoes but I never suggested he paid for it nor was I after him for money. He would give me gas money and would stock his fridge with some of my favorite goodies but he was retired on a pension! If I wanted a sugar daddy I surely was barking up the wrong tree with this one! I was hurt by his response and his actions. I hated that he could not accept that I wanted someone to spend time with and just do things with. I am not a hooker 24/7. We have feelings and desire companionship as well. It just irked me. I told him no dice. Nope. Not going back. He sounded hurt but it is well.  
   
   
 I did try to get involved with younger guys. Again no dice lol. I am now friends with a 63 year old lol and a few more older men. You know sometimes we just cannot help ourselves lol.

My 74 year old "boyfriend" has contacted me again and wants to get together again smh. Honestly I missed him but I am just not in the mood anymore. I put up with his strange moods and there was one day where I called and texted him all day as we had plans to go out that weekend and I heard from him that night! I was so worried and concerned and he his reason was not feeling well. Whatever. Anyway in his mail to me today, he says it was because he was just taken aback that a younger woman like myself (to him anyway) was interested in him and it was overwhelming. He wants to start over this time slowly. I have lost interest so I have a question for you all and a comment. First, how should I tell him no thanks? I don't want to be mean even though I actually used to think that if he did contact me I would yell and tell him off pretty bad but now I want to be gentler with him. What I wanted to say: Guys, if you find a younger woman interested in you and it's not for ulterior motives, just accept it ok? Realize some younger women have a true interest in old guys. Don't act weird or let it overwhelm you. Roll with it. It could be a good thing. :)

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and that goes for hookers, sugar babies and civvies alike. I honestly can't remember the last time I was with a woman who wasn't at least 20 years younger than me.

as for your "old guy" nothing wrong with the truth "Sorry old man, you had your chance, but your insecurities blew it for you and the moment has passed"

Lies-

you have another boyfriend.

the older boyfriend experiment didn’t work.

you’re trying to develop a relationship with your atf client.  

you’ll take him back, but there’s an hourly fee.

your new experiment is with a 21 year old who doesn’t need viagra.

you’ve started dating your doubles partner.

all those orgasms were faked for his ego.  

Truth-
 
the lack of response to your texts freaked you out, and you don’t wish to do that anymore.

you’re madder than hell about how he left you.  

you miss him, but he only had one chance.  

the age thing was never going to be long term.

if you have to tell a little white lie. "While I enjoyed our time together, I am currently seeing a new SB. I would be happy to give you a good reference if you need one. Take care."  

I like this idea. Why burn bridges. Other than with enemies I never saw the reason to tell someone off.

Posted By: keystonekid
if you have to tell a little white lie. "While I enjoyed our time together, I am currently seeing a new SB. I would be happy to give you a good reference if you need one. Take care."  

Age is only a barrier when someone makes it an issue. It sounds like he has made it an issue. Sometimes some genuine honesty with kindness works wonders. It sounds like you were invested in the relationship at one time. Telling the gentleman that you were invested and that his pulling away, wanting to return just doesn't feel good to you. While you enjoyed your time together and will miss him you think it's healthy for yourself to not have a connection any longer. Sometimes "not interested" is really masking something else. I know I would not be interested in mixed messages and the whims of moods.

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He gets a social security and a small pension. He certainly wasn't a sugar daddy! I have no idea what SB was but I was hoping we would go further. I don't drink alcohol and I don't like loud clubs. One night we stayed in and ate chips and soda while watching tv on hbo. I thought it was lots of fun! :) This wasn't a client either. I met him socially. Thank you all for the responses. I am going to be nice about it and tell him no thanks. I liked our time and I liked him but I can't deal with him doing what he did before with the behavior. Thank you all. :) xoxoxo  

 
Shai

and I constantly thank the universe that this should be so. My newest lover is 48 years younger than me. She thinks I'm amazingly kind and sensitive and insightful. And she loves how I make her cum, and cum and cum. I don't find anything the least bit awkward about the big age difference. On the contrary, I think it's hot as hell.

Posted By: SensualShai
My 74 year old "boyfriend" has contacted me again and wants to get together again smh. Honestly I missed him but I am just not in the mood anymore. I put up with his strange moods and there was one day where I called and texted him all day as we had plans to go out that weekend and I heard from him that night! I was so worried and concerned and he his reason was not feeling well. Whatever. Anyway in his mail to me today, he says it was because he was just taken aback that a younger woman like myself (to him anyway) was interested in him and it was overwhelming. He wants to start over this time slowly. I have lost interest so I have a question for you all and a comment. First, how should I tell him no thanks? I don't want to be mean even though I actually used to think that if he did contact me I would yell and tell him off pretty bad but now I want to be gentler with him. What I wanted to say: Guys, if you find a younger woman interested in you and it's not for ulterior motives, just accept it ok? Realize some younger women have a true interest in old guys. Don't act weird or let it overwhelm you. Roll with it. It could be a good thing. :)

Let him know you have moved on while he was dating. If you truly don't want him in your life,don't string him along.

From reading what you've written about this situation, I don't doubt that you will be (or have been, if you've already answered him) as honest and as kind as possible.  And of course you know it is probably going to hurt however you phrase it; but that is not something you are in control of.

Posted By: SensualShai
What I wanted to say: Guys, if you find a younger woman interested in you and it's not for ulterior motives, just accept it ok? Realize some younger women have a true interest in old guys. Don't act weird or let it overwhelm you. Roll with it. It could be a good thing. :)
This, a thousand times.  I've recently been in this situation.  It's over now, for reasons having nothing to do with our ages; and it hurts like hell, but it would hurt infinitely worse if I had to look back and say I blew it by acting weird about the age difference.

Oddly, having gradually gotten more confident in myself and comfortable with life's strange turns as I've aged, I found I was perfectly OK with a 40-year age difference, whereas ten years would probably have spooked me when I was forty.

...as I find it particularly timely and on point for me.

Last week, a few threads down, I made the comment that I've been providers that were in their 30s and 40s, that younger women just weren't on the same wavelength and that I wasn't looking for someone with a 30-40 year age gap between us. I summed up my comment by saying "Guess I just haven't found the right 25 year old."

Seems someone was listening and decided to show me what I might be missing -- yep, met a lovely woman this past weekend, we connected and talked in a social setting for 2 hours and then had a mind-blowing session Sunday morning. Yes, she's 25 and seems to be interested in something beyond the usual session-based relationship.

Aside from a 400 mile difference in our relative locations (we met while she was visiting a city that I was working in for the weekend), I was listening to that tiny voice of insecurity that was telling me "Nah, she wouldn't really be interested in an old fart."

So I'm on board with seeing where things might go; it will be interesting, at least

I love hearing this! See, some of us do really enjoy your guys. :) I am glad that you gave this a chance and will see what happens! Good luck.

and past the relationship and that won't change. Give him a couple of positive things he brought into your life and let him know that while you have moved on, those things will remain with you. Make damn sure this is what you want so there will be no "what ifs" bothering you if you don't  to try again.

Steph xoxo

-- Modified on 3/2/2017 12:52:03 PM

He hurt you by leaving you in the lurch. A BF should be there for you & always treat you with respect.  Going radio silent is really hurtful.  It IS your honest emotion & you ARE entitled to it.  Was it unforgiveable?  That's for you decide.  You certainly are within your rights to say no thankyou.  IF you decide to let him back in your life... he needs to earn it.  
You will choose your right path.
Best!  

I would just tell him the truth ( in a nice way, of course - no screaming ); that you were offended by his reticence and how he wasn't honest with you and left you hanging and you don't wish to chance a replay of that scenario. Actions, or non-actions do have consequences. He didn't seem to have the correct amount of appreciation and consideration for you the first time. I, personally, don't give second chances, especially with the other party wanting to dictate the pace ( take things slowly ). A man who loves you would talk to you about his reservations, so I would doubt his sincerity and validity.

Posted By: SensualShai
My 74 year old "boyfriend" has contacted me again and wants to get together again smh. Honestly I missed him but I am just not in the mood anymore. I put up with his strange moods and there was one day where I called and texted him all day as we had plans to go out that weekend and I heard from him that night! I was so worried and concerned and he his reason was not feeling well. Whatever. Anyway in his mail to me today, he says it was because he was just taken aback that a younger woman like myself (to him anyway) was interested in him and it was overwhelming. He wants to start over this time slowly. I have lost interest so I have a question for you all and a comment. First, how should I tell him no thanks? I don't want to be mean even though I actually used to think that if he did contact me I would yell and tell him off pretty bad but now I want to be gentler with him. What I wanted to say: Guys, if you find a younger woman interested in you and it's not for ulterior motives, just accept it ok? Realize some younger women have a true interest in old guys. Don't act weird or let it overwhelm you. Roll with it. It could be a good thing. :)

Hi Shai, I'm not quite clear what you are saying: You principally not see older guys anymore ? Or is this special one you are "put off" somehow? I am 75 now and was planning to meet you during a fall visit to FtL.. Seneca

My understanding from this and an earlier thread is, this is about one particular gentleman and it was an OTC dating situation. I think you can go ahead and plan on that visit, and enjoy!

In my civilian life I love older men. Just adore them! All of my lovers outside of this business have been 54 and above and it's been like that since my 30's. I just find them much more different than younger men. I knew of one lady that said she likes older men because she doesn't have to have sex with them. They just like being with a woman. Well that ain't the case for me! I have a daddy and brothers so I have enough men that I love without sexing! No way would I get involved with a guy if he can't make love to me or f*ck me! I was put off by how this particular guy reacted! I never ever pressured him to take me out. I don't smoke or drink alcohol and never did so there was never any club dates. We went out socially to the grocery store, to see shows and walking in the park. Hell, I was perfectly fine with a Netflix movie and some pizza! I am not a high maintenance woman. Do I like the salon? Yes! I am feminine and love being a woman and I love shoes but I never suggested he paid for it nor was I after him for money. He would give me gas money and would stock his fridge with some of my favorite goodies but he was retired on a pension! If I wanted a sugar daddy I surely was barking up the wrong tree with this one! I was hurt by his response and his actions. I hated that he could not accept that I wanted someone to spend time with and just do things with. I am not a hooker 24/7. We have feelings and desire companionship as well. It just irked me. I told him no dice. Nope. Not going back. He sounded hurt but it is well.  

 
I did try to get involved with younger guys. Again no dice lol. I am now friends with a 63 year old lol and a few more older men. You know sometimes we just cannot help ourselves lol.

HAPPY!!! So I will contact you asap I arrive in FtL.. It still is about 6 month to wait ...
Looking forward then to meet!! Seneca

Posted By: SensualShai
In my civilian life I love older men. Just adore them! All of my lovers outside of this business have been 54 and above and it's been like that since my 30's. I just find them much more different than younger men. I knew of one lady that said she likes older men because she doesn't have to have sex with them. They just like being with a woman. Well that ain't the case for me! I have a daddy and brothers so I have enough men that I love without sexing! No way would I get involved with a guy if he can't make love to me or f*ck me! I was put off by how this particular guy reacted! I never ever pressured him to take me out. I don't smoke or drink alcohol and never did so there was never any club dates. We went out socially to the grocery store, to see shows and walking in the park. Hell, I was perfectly fine with a Netflix movie and some pizza! I am not a high maintenance woman. Do I like the salon? Yes! I am feminine and love being a woman and I love shoes but I never suggested he paid for it nor was I after him for money. He would give me gas money and would stock his fridge with some of my favorite goodies but he was retired on a pension! If I wanted a sugar daddy I surely was barking up the wrong tree with this one! I was hurt by his response and his actions. I hated that he could not accept that I wanted someone to spend time with and just do things with. I am not a hooker 24/7. We have feelings and desire companionship as well. It just irked me. I told him no dice. Nope. Not going back. He sounded hurt but it is well.  
   
   
 I did try to get involved with younger guys. Again no dice lol. I am now friends with a 63 year old lol and a few more older men. You know sometimes we just cannot help ourselves lol.

I don't know the details here but from what I read, I had a sort of similar experience with a former sugar daddy. He was 30 years older than me and I didn't mind at all.  

Initially, he lied about his age pretending he was a few years younger. I told him it's fine and that I'd been with men 10 years older than him. When he wore a nice shirt or did something I particularly liked, would tell him he looked nice or that I loved spending time with him. He was always denying it and then just stopped contacting me after a trip we took. He was obviously very uncomfortable with a young woman complimenting him (despite being in an open relationship with a woman even younger than me at the time).

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