I go see here again if I can.  I am curious to the provider's response on this though.  I never know if the provider is really into me or just really good at her profession though so I don't do as much as maybe I should.  I also don't want to be crazy stalker dude.

Schedule another date to see if lightning strikes twice.  If so, you may have a new ATF.  I'm a firm believer to take advantage of the moment as true passion doesn't last forever.  I don't mean that in a pessimistic way, more like a "enjoy every moment you have as it may be your last" kind of way.

Interested to see what the ladies have to say.

A somewhat related question for the guys is how do you know that a provider really had an outstanding time with you?  And that they value time with you maybe a bit above others?  Many of them are pretty good actresses after all... (no disrespect ladies, we gents do appreciate you being good actresses).

What constitutes "special" attention?  Maybe they give you little gifts, flirty emails or texts, make you dinner, a little OTC time, or some menu items that aren't normally available (or first shot at expanded menu items at least)?  Wondering what the test of "true love" is in this hobby world...

Its amazing when you click with someone in such an amazing way! It happened the first time. I thought about it all the way home, next couple of days. Had to go back the second time(today). just as amazing. Chemistry! It puts a smile on my face!

because I not only had an amazing time... but it was with an older AA guy. I rarely see the such. He blew my mind walking in the door and kept making it all better as the time went on. I can honestly say he put almost all the other guys  to shame. He was the most respectful, considerate, handsome guy I have yet to meet. I have been around a long time, for me to say that speaks volumes.  Like a Morgan Freeman sort of guy. He better call or I will have to call, lol. Amazing in all sorts of wrappings Some bad,  some good. Keep an open mind and find out for yourself..

I don't feel ashamed that I'd take advantage of him lol. I am grateful for any good ones that cross my path and show that when we meet.

Over my years, I really look for a provider that I have a real connection with. My 2 ATFs have retired and even though I still stay in contact with one of them and we always send a anniversary wish to our 1st date in January each year for the past 15 years. However I think I am working on another one. No names.

when client really connects with provider on personal level, how can client tell if that feeling is in any way reciprocated? Easy test: start out by just continuing to have appts with her. Then start spending some time together. If she starts to give you her personal time above and beyond what would be needed to sustain continued appts, and if client maintains enough of an interest in provider to want to keep seeing her like that, the connection's there.

that you really do love what you do to let someone connect with you like that!  

Seriously "faking it" and "acting" are not letting your guard down... And developing friendships.  

And, FWB is a good thing. You have to enjoy this to do it, but what keeps you coming (pun lol) back to "work" are the clients who love to have and you consider a friend. It's a great thing!!

The worst part is having to leave and return to my civilian life.  So, naturally, I go see someone else to diversify this emotional risk-- but circle back around in several weeks to see if the magic will repeat.  If it does, we keep this dance going as long as it stays good.