Once you get past the smell......you got it licked....
Not that there's anything wrong with that. 
I think the stigma comes from two things - both can be worked around (although admittedly one issue is much easier to solve).
Physical cleanliness - excellent hygiene is key obviously. Make sure the receiver is freshly showered, maybe even invite the other party into the shower with you if they are open to that. That way you can get all the hard to reach places squeaky clean. Which really benefits both parties. That takes care of the physical part.
Mental cleanliness - we have certain taboos that things are "dirty". Even if you've taken care of the physical cleanliness part - there may still be a stigma that "nice" folks don't do those sorts of things. Well, welcome to the world of sex. Some of us really like doing the "dirty" things - it adds to the excitement. LOL. And like many things sexual - some may love it, some may hate it and some may like it only on Saturday night after a few beers - who knows? But you definitely don't know until you try it. Find a cool, patient, understanding partner, give it a shot and see what happens. It may not be your thing, or it may. Either way it goes is fine. No one is forcing your nose to the grindstone. Or hindstone. Or hindhole. LOL
If you know that it's just stigma that's holding you back, just choose a lady who you feel comfortable with who you know enjoys it, let her know you're interested but nervous, and just try to relax and try it. If you're more comfortable with either giving or receiving, try that part first. You can also take a nice sudsy bath together beforehand to relax, use your fingers to gently touch each other down there... This both activates your sensitive and pleasurable anal nerves and creates mutual piece of mind around cleanliness.
I don't know if I ever had stigma around rimming. I'm sure at some point as a teenager I might have thought the idea was gross, but I became interested in the erotic potential of playing with assholes in my late teens, so any mental blocks I may have had didn't last for long.
If you wanna try it but know stigma is holding you back, try my suggestions. If you don't want to try it, no need to force yourself! Not everyone is into everything and that's totally ok.
I had a lady who introduced me to it. She insisted that give or get an alcohol wipe was used first. The coldness actually felt pretty good and then the warmness. Seemed like a small thing. How does everybody feel about it after a wipe with alcohol? Or ladies how about if a man asked to prepare you that way?
I'm not sure swabbing mucous membranes with alcohol is a good idea.
Yes, it would kill any leftover germs but it would also dry the skin out. And drying out your mucous membranes would not be a good thing. That cool feeling is the evaporative effect of the alcohol leaving the skin. Plus it sounds a tad clinical/OCD to me.
I think just a really good soapy bath or shower would do the trick.
But I'm not a doctor. Oh, wait - yes I am a doctor... Dr. Feelgood. Am I right ladies?!!! *crickets*
No seriously, I'm not a doctor.
Posted By: SK11
I had a lady who introduced me to it. She insisted that give or get an alcohol wipe was used first. The coldness actually felt pretty good and then the warmness. Seemed like a small thing. How does everybody feel about it after a wipe with alcohol? Or ladies how about if a man asked to prepare you that way?
An alcohol swab, wet wipe or wash cloth won't cut it. If you're trying to pass off your wetwiped ass as freshly lathered, don't be surprised if you find yourself in the shower with my soapy fingers working you out. LOL
Like it or don't. It's a personal thing. I know guys who don't DATY and I've known ladies who don't give head. To each their own. I myself enjoy dining at the O. Don't much care if they reciprocate, but if they do....yay. If not, no biggie, TO ME.
My advice is this, if you like it, try it. If not, don't. If you thought you'd like it and we're right, keep doing it. If you thought you'd like it and we're wrong, stop doing it...I don't really care what "it" is.
I agree with you there. I do like giving (dato) to a lady that enjoys receiving (and has no hang ups about it obviously). I think that it can be very hot. As far as receiving - it's nice and I wouldn't turn it down if offered, I just suppose there are other things a lady can do with her mouth that I like just as much (rhymes with dddk ...).
Not to derail the rimtrain but I personally would prefer a nice prostate massage (combined with oral) over rimjob anyday. But's that's another one of those things there tends to be a stigma with as well - although I've never had a problem with it.
I'm just thinking now it's interesting we have so many rimming threads but not that many prostate massage threads. Surely there are other deviants like me out there? LOL. Somebody should get right on that. Ok, maybe I'll just go start my own thread. So there. :-p. Why is everybody looking at me funny? Am I talking to myself again? *puts down keyboard and backs away slowly*
Posted By: LSLarry
Like it or don't. It's a personal thing. I know guys who don't DATY and I've known ladies who don't give head. To each their own. I myself enjoy dining at the O. Don't much care if they reciprocate, but if they do....yay. If not, no biggie, TO ME.
My advice is this, if you like it, try it. If not, don't. If you thought you'd like it and we're right, keep doing it. If you thought you'd like it and we're wrong, stop doing it...I don't really care what "it" is.
There was a walk-in massage parlor off the main drag in Agana that was run by an American girl. She had a Swedish blonde working for her that loved to rim. Freaked me out the first time, but afterwards, I got used to it.
(Although for me it wasn't really a stigma it was more so finding the right guy that I would be comfortable enough to do it with)
I just had a guy turn me on so much that I was open enough & itching to do anything to match his willingness.
Nothing deep or complicated. He just daty'd & foreplayed very well.
Now I'm completely corrupted.
Bottoms up!
-Nina
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It just happens. You come across an experienced lady and she just does it to you without asking.
The first time I provider was giving my whole body a tongue bath, the anus was just on the way.
The next time I was in a three way, getting a standing BBBJ and the other girl just dug in. The other other girl once done blowing me actually whipped out a rimming stool . . . I shit you not (see how I did that)! She then tried to lick my stomach!
Another time China, I had a provider ask if I liked getting my nipples licked, and I said nah don't really feel it. She then asked if I had feeling in my ass. It took a minute, because I figured we had a translation error, but turns out they call it Asian for a good reason.
This shit just happens! Some girls are freakier than others.
I only rim if I'm doing DATY, and I only DATY if I'm dong the whole body. I would never lick a girl that didn't have excellent hygiene, so DATO has never been a bad experience.
Just dive in! But I recommend first you have it done to you. After all it is better to receive than give!
Posted By: bigjoe2002
I have seen people post about rimming and they enjoy it and etc... however, myself never did rimming to someone or they did to me. I kinda have a stigma about doing or getting rimming. Well my question is how did you go around the stigma or do you still have that thought process about rimmin?
