To me... I think I would say GFE is a "temporary-pretend-significant other," which requires all of a few specific actions (probably the most gray area), an actual emotional connection, as well as some decent acting skills on top of it all. Personally when I expect GFE i assume DFK, daty, bbbj, no rush/msog, cuddling, talking, all around "intamacy" so it feels less like an appointment and more like a date. There should be at least an illusion that the provider is there solely to be with you.
Of course its also important - debatably necessary - to have an emotional connection with the provider. Without one they had better be an oscar winner, or else the session will feel off or incomplete. I can say from experience that going in expecting my version of GFE and getting impersonal service sends you out the door feeling less than satisfied. Finally the acting skills I feel are just icing on the cake. Where you lack in other areas you can try to make up for with acting. Simple stuff like making the guy believe he is shattering your understanding of your own orgasm, showing interest in the client, etc. In the end though GFE will always mean different things for different people. My expectations arent necessarily the same as anyone elses (in fact im only replying because nobody has yet. As i say in like all my posts im pretty new here lol) nor should they be. No two genuine relationships are the same in every way, so no "girlfriend" is or does the same things down to a statute. Same applies to a "'girlfriend' experience." Thanks for reading.-- Modified on 4/5/2016 11:21:34 PM
The term GFE gets thrown around a lot in many reviews. However, I feel that this is a rather ambiguous term and area of great subjectivity. What one person may describe as a GFE, another may walk away with a more impersonal experience. Now excepting the YMMV variable, I wonder if there is anything like common, agreed upon characteristics that could make this phrase more meaningful. I do feel that I may raise the threshold higher than some. My definition of a GFE, and it is a work in progress, is an experience that goes beyond sex. However, speaking of sex, there needs to be a real connection with real mutual enjoyment. The provider I'm seeing definitely meets that criteria. When having missionary sex and this person is tenderly and deeply looking into your eyes and deeply kissing you, that is a connection, that is GFE. When their moans and heavy breathing are accompanied by real bodily involuntary responses, that is GFE. When they cuddle with you after sex, that is GFE. However, the area gets more grey when we go beyond sex. Do they personalize conversation by calling you by your name? Do they demonstrate interest in you that goes beyond idle chatter? Do the texts they exchange with you go beyond strictly business. These are some of the criteria for me that constitute the label GFE. Don't get me wrong, I fully acknowledge that this is a professional relationship, and as with all professional relationships, boundaries must be observed and expected, anything short of this would be delusional. I would love to here how other weigh in on this issue.
Jim
To me... I think I would say GFE is a "temporary-pretend-significant other," which requires all of a few specific actions (probably the most gray area), an actual emotional connection, as well as some decent acting skills on top of it all. Personally when I expect GFE i assume DFK, daty, bbbj, no rush/msog, cuddling, talking, all around "intamacy" so it feels less like an appointment and more like a date. There should be at least an illusion that the provider is there solely to be with you.
Of course its also important - debatably necessary - to have an emotional connection with the provider. Without one they had better be an oscar winner, or else the session will feel off or incomplete. I can say from experience that going in expecting my version of GFE and getting impersonal service sends you out the door feeling less than satisfied.
Finally the acting skills I feel are just icing on the cake. Where you lack in other areas you can try to make up for with acting. Simple stuff like making the guy believe he is shattering your understanding of your own orgasm, showing interest in the client, etc.
In the end though GFE will always mean different things for different people. My expectations arent necessarily the same as anyone elses (in fact im only replying because nobody has yet. As i say in like all my posts im pretty new here lol) nor should they be. No two genuine relationships are the same in every way, so no "girlfriend" is or does the same things down to a statute. Same applies to a "'girlfriend' experience."
Thanks for reading.
-- Modified on 4/5/2016 11:21:34 PM
Hola I tend to ask the provider what her GFE comfort level is . I believe her comfort is as important as mine In the past I'v asked ru ok with GFE only to get there and the list of no's has no G F or E on it .My minimum standard is a FK , if she is not comfortable w that , chances are we aren't a good fit . Keep in mind this is when I TOFTT otherwise I try and do my Due Diligence .
Too often we are caught up in the alphabet soup of the hobby and forget that the experience is mediated mostly by the intimacy that a gal either can or can't create with the client.
To those gals who can, I salute you - no amount of menu item can make up for that factor.