Just a general question. I see a lot of reviews or comments on forums regarding AMP's and the Table Showers. A lot of commentary is discussed about the AR (anal rimming) that takes place and whether it was good or not?
I have been to AMP's in various states and very few times have any of the providers ever done any of that. That is just fine with me! I realize that everyone needs to be clean down there, but I do not appreciate an (hopefully) attractive woman jamming her finger up and around my anus.
Do most men like this? I do not see the attraction.
I remember the first time in fact.
She was a very dom type and she was giving me an excellent hand job.
She used a lot of lube and was very skilled.
My heart really throbbed for her for a long, long time then the massage place got closed down and my poor heart got broken, again.
There aren't that many women skilled in it.
I guess it is a rarely used device.
Dear FunLover4U,
In my experience, clinical and anecdotal, sexual predilection is truly a many-splendored thing. I am always amazed at what people in general find arousing. One therapy client told me s/he liked to be "mummified" and completely bound up, barely breathing, for hours. This was totally exciting to this person. And s/he found a dominatrix who was very skilled in said practice! So I guess the two of them are happy as can be. Me, I couldn't imagine a more horrifying thing..possibly being buried alive...!
As to anal rimming, well, you've got a lot of nerve endings around and in your anus, hence many men find it absolutely fabulous. As to the finger, if you manipulate it right, you'll hit the nerves leading to prostate, which can be VERY stimulating to men. If you use your tongue, it's more a sensory, classical "rimming" experience. A soft tongue in your anus could possibly feel very exciting to males.
As to "most men," I really haven't seen any studies. But in the gay community, rimming is highly prevalent. I suppose a lot of distinctly male sexual behavior evolves in the gay world, because the female element is missing, and therefore there is a much bigger focus on the male anatomy.
In heterosexual non-professional relationships, it would be interesting to see how many "vanilla" women would like to do anal rimming to their partners. And how many "vanilla" men ask their SO's, wives and partners to do it.
It could also be generational. With the mainstreaming of porno, I think the 15-30 set are a lot more curious about it than the Boomer group. Maybe the Kinsey Institute has some data.
Bottoms up, fellas,
the Love Goddess
Well, I'm a "Boomer" male seeing a 30-something submissive female who loves to rim. At least she says she does. I got turned on to it by a gf 25 years ago and ever since it's been a requirement. It's a hugely pleasurable experience, and the prostate stimulation never fails to produce a more intense orgasm with a bigger volume of semen.
The vehemence of guys who revile it because it's "gay" is probably an indication of doubts about their own sexuality which need to be addressed.
I don't revile it because it's "gay" - it revile it because it just seriously weirds me out.
When I go in for a massage, the top thing on my list is the massage itself. Exchanges and happy endings are strictly bonuses. Ass play, AR, and whatever else it might be called - it doesn't relax me. Like I said, it just seriously weirds me out.
A masseuse started that up on me a couple months back. Not once but twice I voiced my objections. The third time she didn't stop until I moved to get off the table and towards my clothes.
It's not an issue of "gay." It's an issue of boundaries, something everyone needs to respect.