Me thinks mrfisher is a comedian?
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2007=27
I know, I know, when you meet a lady you must be a gent and dress as you would on a date.
I've read reviews, however, where the hobbyist would meet a provider at her incall and she'd be in a tee & jeans. Maybe even daisy dukes. At times even sweats, but either way she'd still look good to him.
So that got me wondering. On the opposite end, is there a level of casual that's acceptable to a provider? Is a lady okay seeing a client who's wearing jeans and sneaks, for example, so long as he is clean and his clothes are brand new from the store? Or is that a right that's only reserved for a repeat customer (since the lady knows him at that point and won't think less of him if he isn't dressed in formal or business casual attire)? Or does this vary from woman to woman?
Would be interested in hearing from providers and hobbyists alike.
I have never had trouble with simply clean slacks or even jeans and a "polo" style shirt, with the emphasis is on "clean". If a hobbying prerequisite was three piece business suits or black tie formal wear I would have given it up for steel silhouette target shooting years ago.
From conversations that I've had or overheard between providers, the biggest faux pas of all is wearing sneakers.
It would seem that barefoot would be more preferable.
As one put it: "Given all the emphasis that we (women in general) put into our selection of footwear, why do men assume that we would not be just as picky about what they wear?"
Some day I think I'll shoe up naked except for a $500 pair of wingtips and see what the reaction is. 8o)
-- Modified on 6/17/2007 6:16:46 AM
That's a heck of a point.
I think that while many, many men have a more than passing interest in pretty female feet [and DEFINITELY include me among them], I've yet to hear of a woman with that same interest in men.
It could be the case, of course that I do not get out enough and travel in the wrong circles.
Me thinks mrfisher is a comedian?
Thank You
2007=27
it only matters if you are going out to dinner
I live in a relatively small area. Most of my clients are working men who are NOT suit professionals. They come to my incall sometimes straight from work before they go home. Sometimes they aren't all together clean. That's why I have a shower. It's their attitudes that I require to be sweet. That's not to say I haven't refused a second date with someone because of how they showed up. I have. I don't like slobs. I don't date them even if their $ was just printed and sticking together.
The point is, dress in what makes you feel comfortable but it IS a date with someone. It takes me a minimum of about an hour to get ready to see someone. From head to toe I am perfectly groomed and if you come to my incall I will most likely be wearing some nice lingerie under my silk robe or, like one of my clients asked for, daisy dukes, a cowgirl hat and boots.
Just be yourself. It's not a job interview but if things go well you do want a second date right!
Alyssa
Most of my dates so far have been during the day, so I wore my suit. Believe it or not, on days that I had a date, I would try to wear one of my best suits. As LL says, it is a date. I feel it owe it to her to look my best.
On one of my dates, it would have been highly conspicuous to have worn a suit. I did wear jeans, but I wore a nice shirt, and the provider even complimented me on it. And just to be a bit dressier, I didn't wear my running shoes, but instead wore some nice casual shoes that made the jeans look just a bit nicer. Again, I wanted to look *my* best for her.
You don't have to show up looking like a you're a GQ model. This is your fantasy!!!
Of course showing up clean, wearing decent clothes, and if necessary wanting to use the available shower, is a must!
Now where are my manners. Alyssa, this is your 6th post (all very useful), and I have yet to acknowledge you. So better late than never, here is the official jazz32, Newbie Board WELCOME ABOARD! We really do appreciate the input of providers here.
I'm a new hobbyist, and I'm wondering about appropriate dress for an outcall. Should I be dressed up for her arrival, or is it ok if I'm wearing something casual?
Clean, comfortable and appropriate for the meeting you have in mind.
Clean and casual is always good!
Would shorts and a t-shirt be too casual, or would a nice pair of jeans and a polo shirt be more appropriate? Thanks for your help. I should have maybe posted this as a separate question, but it seemed related.
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I agree with Alyssa, incalls to her place I usually show up casual, but not overly so. I never wear tenny runners; a comfortable pair of loafers, sport shirt, pair of slacks, that kind of thing.
If Im meeting her a a nice hotel, I may wear a sport coat or a nice sweater if its cool, because I know she's pobably going to dress for the location.
a perp walk if I got busted by LE...I was just a LITTLE paranoid!
Now I dress casual, comfortable, and like I belong where I am going. If I know it is an upscale hotel, I dress a little nicer than if I know it is a residence, etc.
Wear what you are comfortable in and what you would want to see at your door if you were receiving a guest.
-- Modified on 6/17/2007 10:29:56 AM
Since I live in Florida my dress code is a little more casual. I prefer nice jeans,slacks, shorts, with a polo,golf type shirt. I've never had a gentleman show up in sneakers. I believe that if time allows being clean, discrete, and presentable is the best way to show up. If you can't do to work constraints just ask to shower!
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everyone seems to be down on sneakers around here...im tempted to go get all gussied up in a suit and tie and rock my chuck taylors (old converse sneakers)
I wouldn't turn you away, but I would certainly make a joke of it!
Please tell me you wouldn't really make a joke of Chuck Taylors. I mean, these ARE Chuck Taylors!!
Oh well, at least you wouldn't turn away someone wearing them....lol!
-- Modified on 6/17/2007 4:51:56 PM
Well Sir
It's YOUR dime, and if you feel comfortable in jeans, then by all means: BE COMFORTABLE
As far as for myself, if I were visiting you, I would not arrive in jeans, but more of a casual/business type look, I believe in discretion, therefore never dress too provocatively (and like Xmas, best to wrap slowly for the best goodies are inside/underneath
Jamie, Christmas is about unwrapping the presents.
I feel that perhaps younger (say, younger than 26) will be less bothered by jeans and tennis shoes than will older providors. It seems that older providors and hobbyists fall on the old school side of the line on the dates and younger providors and hobbyists play it casual. That's just my opinion. Has anyone else notcied this? I think it's a generational thing. I am 25 and my generation is much more casual than the older generation. I have worn nice jeans, nike's and a nicer t-shirt to all of my hobby encounters and have had no problems, but I have seen all girls that were 19-23 except one 26 year old. I am a very casual person and always wear jeans and a t-shirt. Now, if I were doing a longer dinner date or overnight (I have never done more than 2 hours) I would dress up a little more. I feel that 2 hours or less should be more casual dates as they are more meetings than actual dates. Does that make sense? Maybe all these girls were annoyed at my attire though and just acted nice. Who knows.
As long as you arent wearing a wife-beater shirt and thong, wear what you want!
It's a discussion board. I was bored and decided to discuss. Caring has nothing to do with it. Relax...
You raise a good point.
I posted this same thread on the DC (my hometown) board and the common theme between there and here is that attire does not seem to matter as much as one might think.
On the other hand, the most mature women who've responded so far have been in the 31-35 age group. It'd certainly be interesting to see what the 35-and-over club (as far as providers go) thinks. My sense is they probably see it the same way.....and would have made it known if they didn't.....but then again, I may be wrong.
-- Modified on 6/19/2007 7:29:29 PM
I wasn't literally attacking anyones comment on here, just trying to state 'who cares', wear what makes YOU feel comfortable when arriving to see a lady of vice versa.
If however on a dinner date, dress appropriately
Thank You, SensualJamie.
Your point is well taken, and hopefully once mafishman1 sees your post he'll also understand/appreciate your underlying intentions.
Personally speaking, I found your input helpful.....and I do thank you for it.
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