I am a big fan of ass play- rimming (giving and receiving) and greek.  Because we aren't supposed to discuss activities when calling, emailing or texting to arrange a date, I have a question for ladies and men.  I know once we've started a session, it is OK to discuss but that is too late.  This thread was prompted because I was with my current favorite recently and while fucking her ass there was feces on the condom (and the odor).  It was an instant turnoff.  She said she had prepared but obviously not well enough.  I will remind her to prepare better next time.  

How do I let a lady who openly lets us know she's into greek and rimming know that I may want that on our date?  I want to be sure she's properly prepared.  I recently PM'd a lady, who after two weeks hasn't responded.  I use a verification site so would its private messaging be acceptable?  Any advice is appreciated.

And, for those curious because I really like receiving rimming, I also prepare or don't let it happen.  I don't think an onsite shower adequately prepares.  I'd be interested in knowing the ladies' perspective on whether a shower at the date is sufficient or enemas ahead of time is the right way to go.

Thanks in advance for responding.  PM's will work also.

Z