My reasoning....if no cash changes hands then how can anyone prove a payment for sex? I understand there's a certain level of trust required but it seems like it's in both parties interest to do this.
Am I wrong? I'm no lawyer!I have noticed that some guys don't like it when a provider asks for the donation up front and/or counts it in front of them.
Personally I don't have an issue with it, if I'm seeing the provider for the first time. She doesn't know me from Adam and has no reason to trust me.
Why do girls get a demerit for doing this?
I know most of the providers who frequent this board screen heavily and probably take their donation after the service is provided/don't count it till later. However, do y'all have any input?
...me at all if she counted it in front of me. I have never had a provider count it in front of me but I wouldn't care if she did. I always place it on a table or night stand and go take a shower. I figure she counts it then. I won't say the standard is what I do but I can't recall many posts that don't support my way as being the usual (at least here on TER).
A provider should never have to ask for money up front it should be in plain view for her to see.
After a session has ended the provider should discretely count the money in the bathroom or in front of the client.
Asking for or counting money at the start of a session, not professional.
After a session has ended the provider should discretely count the money in the bathroom or in front of the client.
Asking for or counting money at the start of a session, not professional.
My yard man charges me to cut my yard, him asking for money up front before he's cut my yard is unprofessional... Who's to say he won't hop in his truck and leave if I pay him up front.
When you've been around as long as me you'll understand the term "cash and dash"
After a session has ended the provider should discretely count the money in the bathroom or in front of the client.
Asking for or counting money at the start of a session, not professional.
What makes it unprofessional? I can't think of a single service in the world that doesn't count your money in some form or fashion when goods are delivered or services rendered. Just curious.
I think it depends on the lady. If checking the cash up front makes her more comfortable, then I am okay if I have reasonable faith in her, like known agency girl or well established Indy. Totally new players, I tend to agree with you. I had a situation once where lady forgot to take cash from dresser top. We got to meet a second time that night for a drink when I gave her the envelope. It was actually kind of fun
I usually count it after....never had a problem with amount.....but, I hear stories of ladies being shorted.......or if they use the bathroom I'll count it really quick...lol...
I prefer she count it, discretly, up front especially if its a first meeting. Don't want any
misunderstandings.
My reasoning....if no cash changes hands then how can anyone prove a payment for sex? I understand there's a certain level of trust required but it seems like it's in both parties interest to do this.
Am I wrong? I'm no lawyer!
I'm not a lawyer either but I worked for more than a decade and had a hell of a lot of pillow talk with attorneys and those in the know - proving money changed hands has never been the goal, or a key part, of any sting that I know of. I strongly doubt withholding payment is going to help in any situation an unsuspecting "client" gets caught up in. Once you walk in the door - you're done.
It's irksome to hear some complain about providers counting up front. My grandmother lived on the same block as the store she shopped at for ore than 50 yrs. They can see her house from their store, have seen all her children grow up and they've always been on good terms. EVERY time she gets groceries: they count the money before they put it in the drawer and before gets to partake of the goods she's buying. Why? Because even after 50+ yrs of familiarity, accountability and trust, they know people make mistakes. I tend to think those that get actually upset or peeved at a provider counting the money upfront are more often folks with entitlement issues annoyed that they aren't in control of her actions.
Personally I don't have an issue with it, if I'm seeing the provider for the first time. She doesn't know me from Adam and has no reason to trust me.
Why do girls get a demerit for doing this?
I know most of the providers who frequent this board screen heavily and probably take their donation after the service is provided/don't count it till later. However, do y'all have any input?
I always thought money had to change hands. Otherwise it's just two consenting adults having fun. Like I said, I'm no lawyer!
Thanks for the info
Erica, that was a terrific way you explained it. I think its the providers choice and whatever she feels comfortable with. I can tell you more than once I have counted an envelope and the amount has been wrong. Now, I think it is generally a mistake. People sometimes put in the wrong amount.
People shouldn't be upset, they should just be understanding and support the decision made by the provider.
Again Erica, i think that was a terrific example. 