it's a very bad sign. This is an extremely inappropriate question. I also agree that it could be a fantasy of hers. But either way, recognize trouble when you see it and don't see her again for several weeks or months.
I'm very new to the hobby scene. During my first and only (so far) meeting with a provider, our small talks between play activities drifted at one point to a light discussion of her other clients. The provider caught me off-guard by asking not once but twice if I was jealous of them (the other clients). I remember answering 'no' but she did not seem satisfied with my answer. The question caught me by surprise in that I expect that the relationship between a provider and a client should be "at arms-length" with little emotional involvement. In both verbal and nonverbal communication, I do not believe I gave her any indication that I was jealous of her other clients. I would appreciate anyone's (male or female) feedback on this exchange between myself and the provider. How exactly should I have interpreted what she was asking?
I would intrepret this as being inappropriate and possibly a bad sign. Once, in a laughing voice, is a joke, but twice...hmmmmm. The client-provider relationship by necessity has to be emotionally "at arm's length," as you say, unless there is a mutual decision to carry it further. This has nothing to do with the provider's attention or willingness to please you. If you had been seeing her regularly for some time, there might be a basis for her to have developed a fondness for you, but the first session? I think it rather unprofessional and downright tacky to even mention the existence of other clients. What man, even if he is paying for it, wants to think he is one in a long line? There are ways for her to deflect this to other, more facetious pillow talk, and if she isn't making you feel that you are the most important and ONLY man in the world during your time together, she is lacking an important grace. Try another provider, dear heart.
Assuming that she knew of your limited experience, she may have been testing whether you were "stalker material", in case you were interested in repeat meetings. There's always a possibility that she fell madly in love with you and hoped you'd want her to quit and run off with her. She may also have a jealousy fantasy.
I've gotten into some discusions with ladies about other ladies I have seen. Things like humorous happenings or strang behaviors. Of course, no names mentioned because of the privacy issue.
That's a totally in appropriate question and I've never heard of any provider asking that before.
Is it possible she's a very insecure person and wanted to think you were jealous to make her feel better about herself?
I appreciate the above replies to my particular first experience. All of the explanations provided are possible but the issue of jealousy should simply be nonexistent between a provider and client.
The most significant additional perspective that I can provide to possibly explain her question to me may have resulted from her experiences with other clients. I researched (after my appointment) this provider's posts and references on at least one other adult board. A hobbyist in one message thread stated that she was very popular in the local community at the beginning of her career. She was so popular that - with only limited appointments available - her regulars encouraged her to raise her donations to the going market rate in order to deflect interest from new clients and thus allow more opportunities for her established clients. Short and to the point - Her regular clients were being squeezed out by all of the interest and their needs were not being satisfied. A possible theory - Her initial experience with jealous men may have prompted her to probe my feelings. Please feel free to supply any additional perspective to this message thread.
it's a very bad sign. This is an extremely inappropriate question. I also agree that it could be a fantasy of hers. But either way, recognize trouble when you see it and don't see her again for several weeks or months.