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Re: I don't consider paying for sex as cheating
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I'm not married but my best friend is my live in girlfriend. We were best friends for along time before we realized we were in love with each other. She lets me see my one and only ATF and her girls when she has some in. My girlfriend does not consider it cheating since she knows about it. She knows it's just the act and no love involved. She enjoys hearing the session details when I get home and she  sleeps good at night knowing I would never go behind her back. Works good for us but not all girls are that understanding. LOL

Posted By: JuliasLittleSecret
Although not all ladies, and maybe not even most ladies, will agree, I only consider civvie sex to be cheating and would be totally fine with someone I am seeing to pay for play.    
   
 P4P is a completely different dynamic, IMO, where (hopefully) everyone understands the boundaries.  Civvie stuff can get complicated very quickly, and I like to keep things very simple.    
   
   
Posted By: stevieisme
So the majority of guys who hobby are married, I think we can all agree. I've seen the subject discussed before, but I'm curious as to everyone's thoughts, especially the ladies:  
     
  How do providers feel about their married clients? I know, I know, they'll take the money and do the deed, but do they think lesser of them as men? I've seen providers say that they don't care, but then turn around and say if anyone cheated on them, they'd kill them. Then don't they really care, think the married guy is a bad person for cheating on his wife? Do the ladies prefer the single guys? Not as a sexual partner, but as a person?

So the majority of guys who hobby are married, I think we can all agree. I've seen the subject discussed before, but I'm curious as to everyone's thoughts, especially the ladies:

How do providers feel about their married clients? I know, I know, they'll take the money and do the deed, but do they think lesser of them as men? I've seen providers say that they don't care, but then turn around and say if anyone cheated on them, they'd kill them. Then don't they really care, think the married guy is a bad person for cheating on his wife? Do the ladies prefer the single guys? Not as a sexual partner, but as a person?

I think that is between the man and his wife.  Personally, I believe in open relationships and as long as  people are honest with each other that's cool.  I have dated someone in the past that thought what I did was very hot and the thought of me wi with other men was a turn on to him.  We both loved watching the other being pleased by a different partner.   I am not judgmental and whatwver works for someone may not work for someone else.  

Hope everyone enjoys this beautiful day.

I am sure some providers hate all men ( we are dogs) some like men but think lowly of married/committed men "hobbying", and some just look at us as work that helps pay the bill and are happy to meet us what ever our disposition.

I'm sure it's the same the other way too .. some men (me included) look at providers who perform a business function, some think they are immoral and avoid them and some think lowly of them but still avail their services.  

hence to each his/her own.  Long ago I stopped worrying about the judgement others pass on me, and as long as I can rationalize my behavior to myself, I am fine with it.  That being said I have often wondered about exactly what you asked (I guess in an academic sense) but I doubt anyone will give a true answerer, specially on a forum like this.  Any provider that says she thinks married hobbiests are pigs would be dissing off a good chuck of her clientele and that would make her a pretty bad business person ;)

Don't get caught and do no harm. If you need something more than what your wife can give, see a professional and keep the feelings out of it. Have your fun, go home to your wife and be a good husband. I've heard the way some if y'all speak to your wives on the phone when she calls during an appointment (aww), and some of y'all divulge so many details of your excellent husbandry (really, a trip to Italy for your wife's birthday?!) and I think to myself, "Why couldn't have my ex-husband been like that to me? Why did I get the loyal but lazy abusive asshole?"

Most of my clients are married, and I sleep fine and have no problem with the woman in the mirror. I'm not religious anymore, so my morals no longer come from a book of rules. Love one another and don't hurt each other. That doesn't mean don't do things that MAY hurt someone IF you get caught.  

Adultery is considered wrong to most people. And, I do consider sex with a provider adultery. I don't consider adultery wrong if doing it never results in someone being hurt.

I've met a number of married men who are still married because divorce is so expensive and can take years with assets, kids and a backlog of court cases.  My uncontested divorce (many, many moons ago) took 3 months to be heard.  Technically they have a spouse but some may not live with them or live as roommates.  (In my neck of the woods, the military helps facilitate that at times.) Makes no difference to me whether they are truly cheating or in divorce limbo but I can sympathize with their situation.

Posted By: ThePrivateAssistant
I've met a number of married men who are still married because divorce is so expensive and can take years with assets, kids and a backlog of court cases.  My uncontested divorce (many, many moons ago) took 3 months to be heard.  Technically they have a spouse but some may not live with them or live as roommates.  (In my neck of the woods, the military helps facilitate that at times.) Makes no difference to me whether they are truly cheating or in divorce limbo but I can sympathize with their situation.  
I can't help but think the world would be a better place if it was marriage that took forever to complete and divorce could be completed much sooner.

Maybe then so many people wouldn't get married only to find one excuse or another to get divorced later..

I don't judge any married guy at all because many of the providers around me are married as well and work and have sex with guys. I think the time you spend with each other is  supposed to be like a fantasy. Everything is supposed to go right and be fun. No drama. No life problems. Just pure fun and excitement.  I actually prefer married men because they know what they want they always have a great time, they come and really let loose in that hour and then go back to their life at home. Just like a lot of the girls in the business have their own relationships and things going on in their life that they get back to once they are done with their busy day.  

So we can all say. How do clients feel about providers who are married and their husbands know they are an upscale provider spending their time with men Mon-Fri..  

That's just my opinion on this subject!

:)  

Arianna

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