I just want to offer the perspective of someone who was sugar baby for a long time: As the popularity of sugar daddying has gone up, the quality, naturally, has gone down. More and more people are trying to get hotter girls for less and less money, and they're also just not great people. There's a needle in the haystack, but overall, I'd never go back. To many men on there are trying to get my time for next to nothing. If I offer quality I expect quality. This used to be easier to find
I'm not sure what your problem is with escorts, and why you consider these sugar babies better than escorts because they're not "prostituting themselves." Let's be very clear. Yes they are. You just found a cheaper way to do the same thing. Escorts don't want a man some day? Some do, some don't. Your advice is to try something different because, Oh god, we have a shelf life? This is ignorant. I wish you all the best with your pursuits, but realize that not all men and women feel the way you do. We don't all have hours to spend at a time with a woman, nor do a lot of women feel that that is a good use of their time. To each their own.hi Everyone, as I hit 1,000 reads-the highest I could find, I wanted to update the pricing -- this just in the last week.
Just agreed to an overnight with 2 21 year olds- smoking hot- 1k for the main one and 500 for second+ plus I'm getting a suite and massages/nice dinner for all 3 of us- I put them in the category just under a swimsuit model, although both of them are "models"-
and then I had several nice girls in their early 20's- once again very pretty, thin with head turning figures, but not necessarily "smokin hot"- but MUCH better than most of the pics I have seen on Eros-which are probably photo shopped-- agree to 500 for a 3-4 hour date, including oral, and one could actually host/ I went to 700 with a totally hot one/ these girls are nice and if they aren't spending time with me, they would be at the gym, walking in central park, complaining to their friends about how it is impossible to find a man in NYC, they would not be prostituting themselves on the web and all of these girls will hopefully one day find a great guy and settle down. I don't know why any male on this site who is spending even 1k/month doesn't switch to sugar dating and you will have a much better time. -there is a floor of course, it just isn't nice to offer less than 500 in my opinion and you have to spend some time on the phone and be normal looking, normal acting. As for escorts, you are in a business which is losing pricing power- and you have a shelf life- use your time and money and looks now and find something else which will hold you better.
I just want to offer the perspective of someone who was sugar baby for a long time: As the popularity of sugar daddying has gone up, the quality, naturally, has gone down. More and more people are trying to get hotter girls for less and less money, and they're also just not great people. There's a needle in the haystack, but overall, I'd never go back. To many men on there are trying to get my time for next to nothing. If I offer quality I expect quality. This used to be easier to find
I'm not sure what your problem is with escorts, and why you consider these sugar babies better than escorts because they're not "prostituting themselves." Let's be very clear. Yes they are. You just found a cheaper way to do the same thing. Escorts don't want a man some day? Some do, some don't.
Your advice is to try something different because, Oh god, we have a shelf life? This is ignorant.
I wish you all the best with your pursuits, but realize that not all men and women feel the way you do. We don't all have hours to spend at a time with a woman, nor do a lot of women feel that that is a good use of their time.
To each their own.
Not everyone here needs an overnight. Most guys here are time-constrained and want something near them. All negotiation which needs to be done in SD/SB are time consuming and for many annoying. There are absolutely nothing which settles the price, you can pay much less or much more, it's all to up to circumstances and pure luck. I guess, you are none what I describe, so it fascinates and excites you. When you walk in the store you see prices. Nothing similar is existant in SD/SB arrangements, so it can't be classified as business and exchange. Go to dating site, what makes it any different from from SB? Or just talk to girls in IT department, maybe one will fall for you and get one for free? Xo
Sugar babe are also not always cheaper. Things add up groceries cellphone car etc.
I have done both sugar babe and escort arrangements. Escort is a much better deal. You don't have to deal with the drama.
Otherwise I can't seem to figure out the point of his posts.
I hobby with some regularity (4 or 5 times per month). I spend time with several wonderful providers who are in high demand because they are the best at what they do. Occasionally, if a touring provider or someone local catches my eye, I will screen and schedule with them and often add them to my list of friends. I also use the services of an agency when I need a quick scratch to my itch.
These are ladies in their early 20's to mid-40s, with a median age of ~28.
Beyond the great sex and hobby-friendship I have with these beautiful women, these providers provide me with discretion and a level of secure interaction that is consistent with my needs.
I don't have the time to invest in phone calls, texts (I am text free in my communications with my provider friends - texts are a risk to me given my life situation), and public meet ups (all of my activities are BCD). I don't have to post my photo on a public site or even provide it via email. None of the ladies I see are worried about their next rent/car/utility payment, so there is less risk of shit going bad if I decide to no longer see them. While I'd like to think my provider friends enjoy my company, they will not go hungry without my business nor will they get too emotionally attached. I am sure that in most instances, SBs handle everything well and in a relatively risk-free manner. However, I am equally certain that there is a higher instance of issues that might put me at risk in the sugar world than in hobby-land.
Also, I am unable to take advantage of one of the true benefits of sugar dating: additional BCD and social time for the equivalent of a 1 hour provider donation in a given market. Most of my appointments are 90 mins. to 2 hours. I can't do overnights or nights on the town with my lady friends. Bummer, but that's the reality.
I have followed with great interest your posts and those of others on the "sugarboard" and might, under the right circumstances, try it some day, but the SD/SB option doesn't currently work for my lifestyle.
I'm sure there are other reasons that mongers might choose to remain hobbyists. Those are mine.
Hey, if it's workin' for you, Dude, keep on keepin' on!
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It sucked big time.
I clearly stated what I wanted in my profile (thin, pretty, 18-29, white or east asian only), and at least least 60% of the unsolicited messages I got were from heavyset black women in their 30s and 40s. And a good portion of the other 40% were heavyset white women in their 30s and 40s.
A real waste of time, that site
I posted this before, but the rates that a well reviewed lady from TER gets, $500+ an hour, $2k+ an overnight, have nothing to do with SB's.
The main benefits of a SB are as follows...
1- Cheaper rates (these girls will accept $200-300 for a 1-2 hour meeting, or $400-600 for an overnight). If I'm paying more, I'd rather just drop $400-600 an hour for a top rated lady off TER. There's no guarantee a SB will have any talent in the bedroom, and there are all types of risks.
2- The transaction can truly feel less "business oriented". If you have a monthly arrangement, you won't have to pay to take a SB to dinner, etc. For some guys it will feel more genuine. That being said, if I take a SB out to dinner she might not really dress up, or put the effort in that I'd get from a 5 star provider.
The risks are as follows...
1- As I mentioned, it's a gamble. You might not get what you want/expect from a SB.
2- You need to put a huge amount of time into an arrangement. You can't just book an overnight or 1-2 hour rendezvous and expect much from it. If you do this without a Meet and Greet first you're almost always just throwing money away.
3- There are major risks if you're not single. A SB will likely want to know much more about you, etc, and can screw with your personal life if you have a SO.
All in all, I don't really understand why people on TER are discussing SB's. The contrasts are truly night and day. Having a 1 time date with a SB, and not a monthly arrangement is like rolling the dice on Backpage, albeit with a smaller chance of LE involvement
There is a place for everyone in this industry. There is NO such thing as losing pricing power. Didn't you get the memo...Sooner or later the same SBs that you think you're getting over on, will be on this end. Granted there's a few SBs that are Naive. But most are whip smart, and have the likes of 3 of you, on heavy rotation!