I think men just do this on a whim and got to be in the mood (horny) providers always want advance scheduling which I understand they want that but that's not what me need, we get an urgent need and want it when we want it
Once I provide it no one seems to be interested. Is it just an excuse?
I don't think it's an excuse.. but i've noticed New York men much more than guys in other areas are quite busy and have a lot of things come up randomly..
I'm basically a 90% incall provider..and only very occasionally offer outcalls.. i'd keep trying for a bit! A decent sized market of men are married or can't host for a number of reasons..so I think having an incall is crucial!
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Even if you're within the five boroughs, many guys don't necessarily live in Manhattan; Bronx/Brooklyn/queens/SI have some gorgeous neighborhoods, but either 1) there are no providers in said 'hood, or 2) those in Manhattan refuse to go outside of Manhattan. Yes the outer boroughs have some rough areas, but there are some gorgeous, picturesque ones as well...albeit often surrounded by these less savory ones
Can't speak for others but I would not do outcalls. In fact, I imagine a provider that solely does outcalls will also in general see a lot less men compared to if she were doing incall primarily. But that may be part of the reason for doing outcalls only.
I almost always do outcall only and see VERY VERY low volume 3 clients a month is my average right now. I offer an incall once a month for those who do not want to spend the extra money getting a place, or loyal clients who have sprinted for the location on previous occasions. However, I get plenty of emails asking for an incall location. This to them seems to be the make or break of seeing me. The rare occasions I sprint for a hotel I never hear back from these clients who are "dying to see me". I guess I'm confused by this constant line. Are clients just saying it to have a reason to correspond with me?
I think men just do this on a whim and got to be in the mood (horny) providers always want advance scheduling which I understand they want that but that's not what me need, we get an urgent need and want it when we want it
If your coming into the city from Jersey CT or LI it's got to be an extra sixty bucks easy just to get to the city. If you drive in it's 15 to get thru the tunnel plus gas and where are you parking. If you take the train than you might need to take a taxi to get to 75th and 2nd Ave(making up a location on the upper east side but you get my point). Most of these clients need the provider to get a place or find a place but most don't want to spend the extra money for an incall fee which I am starting to see more and more of. With that said if the provider is outcall only she would never have the opportunity to see me and everyone like me who comes in from the tri state area,
In all the times I have visited, every one of my appointments has been incall. Even dinner dates.
I live in the NY area and I have never done an outcall either.
I would guess that if a provider has been providing only outcall then she is seeing 2 types of guys: tourists who have their own hotel rooms and bachelors who have their own apartments.
In both cases, these types of customers have more control over their freetime than the rest of us hobbyists in NY who are married and live with our wives
do you get a hotel room for just a day? so realistically you can book from 3:30 - noon (2 if you have loyalty or tip the housekeeping)? thats less than 24 hours. and if you tell someone the day of or two weeks earlier, well.. its about timing.
if you want to broaden to seeing more guys a month and you want to combine that with incall... personally i would think posting in your ads something like
incall available every other wednesday - saturday
upcoming dates
wed may 25 - saturday may 28
june 8 - june 11
i cant imagine that wont do the trick... when i lived in new york i always had an incall available. i also always gave extra time in between dates because i felt that men were notoriously late due to work meetings and subways/cab traffic.
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I have contacted you re: incall. For me, outcall only is usually a dealbreaker. My schedule is always crazy, and I definitely don't want to spend time arranging for a room since I can see other ladies who provide that service. Makes sense if you don't want to hassle with that either.
As for your situation, the times you have offered incall on a limited basis may not mesh with other folks' schedule. Simple as that most likely.
I think there are some good suggestions in this thread.