makes YOU happy
Hugs and kisses
TL
I tried.
I got a great job with great people. Everything should be great. But I miss it. I miss the companionship. I miss the excitement. I miss dressing up and wearing sexy lingerie. I miss the SEX!!! I thought I was ready. Im not.
Im having this moral dilemma because I feel like I should happy about the shift into normalcy,
(whatever that is) but Im not even a little happy. So, do I stick it out in the real world or do I just accept the fact that this is me, this is what I love an do it my way?
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makes YOU happy
Hugs and kisses
TL
You just answered your own question.
Why make yourself miserable?
I got a great job with great people. Everything should be great. But I miss it. I miss the companionship. I miss the excitement. I miss dressing up and wearing sexy lingerie. I miss the SEX!!! I thought I was ready. Im not.
Im having this moral dilemma because I feel like I should happy about the shift into normalcy,
(whatever that is) but Im not even a little happy. So, do I stick it out in the real world or do I just accept the fact that this is me, this is what I love an do it my way?
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Try a bit of both. I am guessing your civ job is probably 9ish to 5ish Monday through Friday. If that is the case play on the weekends and maybe even Friday nights. Go kinda UTR mask face pictures or loose your internet presence and see only folks you already know or are recommend to you by other ladies you know and trust. Hopefully that might give "the best of both worlds).
Another option is I know of a couple ladies who are now mostly civ but play for agencies. Now, I don't think all agencies are up for this but there are a couple that are doing this including dealing with the ladies limited availability.
Just a couple of thoughts. Take them for what they are worth. Be assured that even though it has been a while since I have seen you, you are not forgotten.
See guys you know, so you will never mix business with pleasure. The extra money won't hurt and you still get to dress up.
You have to look a this in the long run, What are you going to have as an income when, your provider career is over?
If you already have a massive retirement savings, then your all set, but what if you don't.
Real job have the benefits of health care, retirement plans and other things. Providing can pay the bills but not much in the benefits dept. Besides good luck trying to explain to SS or some other Government agency what you have been doing the past years.
Also the prince charming story, very very really works out either.
Just my thoughts on i
What is normal? The only normal thing you should do is make yourself happy first. Normal is overrated.
Normal is a setting on my washing machine.
I suggest you stick with your new job for a while, and provide on a part time basis. That may give you a better balance; give it time; don't rush it-- you can always leave the job if it becomes intolerable.
Start a really big savings account! Good luck to you.
A couple of years ago I was outed by another provider, to family, friends, and my ex. It was devastating and I had to go deep UTR, but I also needed to get back into the civie work world to explain income.
In being able to blend the two, I found a much healthier lifestyle. No longer was I dependent on the accolades of this business for judging my self worth, or not being able to talk about accomplishments, lol, I couldnt exactly tell friemds, oh yea, today was a great day....got an excellent review....but now I can discuss my everyday life with others, as my whole life is no longer a mystery. Lol, just a little bit of it. I think it made me a more well rounded person and more interesting, not just to others, but myself as well.
I would say, if you can, try to blend the two.....it really does make for a fantastic and healthier life.
Good luck in your decision!
XOX,
Callie
MissCallieYork, this is going to be thread drift, but your post reminded me of something I've wondered about for some time.
A couple of the providers I've seen are at the high end of the price range and, near as I can tell, don't do anything else and are very busy. They're both very conspicuous in their spending, having expensive clothes, cars and other things. Neither strikes me as the types who could be that successful in mainstream jobs.
How does a provider like these two explain the expensive lifestyle to friends and family? Or don't friends and family notice or care?
Just curious. Nothing more.
With an alias like Springer im almost afraid to answer . Lol.
I honestly dont know. Im a single parent so ive never had the luxury of decadent free for all spending....but if they're higher end im sure the people in their circle dont ask.
I hope that your troubles are behind you and wish you well. I wasn't aware that you came back until today. I see that you still like to write Welcome back
Aww, thank you Terrilynn! Youve always been such a kind hearted and beautiful lady on this board and I so appreciate your warm welcome!
And I thank you so much for the warm welcome back and the well wishes. That means a lot to me, especially coming from you Panthera12. LOL, you know me too well....I do still love to write. And yes, things are so much better, thank you,
Many big hugs,
Callie
Look at yourself in the mirror everyday. If you ain't smiling, it ain't right.
I'm not saying internal conflict isn't there. It is for me and most people I assume. But at some point you have to be able to say "I'm happy with who I am and how I address life..."
So whatever you do, be sure you can smile in the mirror. Everything else has a way of working out if you are comfortable in your own skin.
Do both. Be exclusive to your favorites and soldier on.
Good luck to you.
Something Extra Sexy about a TER gal you might encounter in the civilian world !!
I got a great job with great people. Everything should be great. But I miss it. I miss the companionship. I miss the excitement. I miss dressing up and wearing sexy lingerie. I miss the SEX!!! I thought I was ready. Im not.
Im having this moral dilemma because I feel like I should happy about the shift into normalcy,
(whatever that is) but Im not even a little happy. So, do I stick it out in the real world or do I just accept the fact that this is me, this is what I love an do it my way?
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Thank you VERY much. I appreciate the words of wisdom.
Its been a good day. For the first time in awhile.
HAPPY!! HAPPY!! HAPPY!!
Retiring cold turkey is a hard pill to swallow. I tried it and went through withdrawal. Easing out while seeing close friends is a good alternative.
Like F69 said, "no one likes a quitter!"
So with leaving cold turkey, I'm concerned that loyal gents might feel abandoned. The hobby is an escape for some who already feel abandoned elsewhere, would hate to feed that feeling of neglect.
I agree with the others that have suggested to provide part time. I work 40 hours in a day job and provide two days a week. I've never been happier in my life. It takes good planning and organization. It also takes understanding on the gentlemen's part. But, I've found with the gents I've seen so far, they do understand I have to get to bed at a decent hour, so it's good to start the date early. Also, my regular commute is 45 minutes, so I always get my incall closer to work, pack my uniform and just spend the night. Or, if the gent is staying or lives closer to your job, you can offer to spend the night. He's happy because he gets OTC and you're happy because your commute is shorter and you can drink as much as you want because you're not driving home. It sucks sleeping alone anyway lol. And, the great thing about providing only part time is that you hardly have to put any effort into advertising.
I love it, and I bet you will too, Shawnie. Variety is the spice of life.