...Since you didn't actually meet you can't review it. Had you actually seen her even if you left or she did whether a session took place or not you could review and report the situation. TER won't allow a review of a NoCallNoShow.
Hey everybody, I've never really posted here, but I had a weird experience with a provider (who I will not name) tonight and I was hoping to get some insight.
I wanted to see someone tonight, and I had been looking to see a seemingly great provider, universally well reviewed with about 20+ great reviews. I called, she texted back, she checked my work reference rather than provider references since it was late in the evening, and we set an 8pm appointment.
I drove to the address she gave me, told her I was nearby, she gave me the gate code, and then when I was finding a spot she texted and said, here's the apartment number, just ring the doorbell, I'm waiting for you baby. So literally 3 minutes later I rang the bell, no answer. Stood there for a few minutes, rang the bell again, no answer. Texted her to let her know I was at the door just in case the bell wasn't working, no answer. Texted her to tell her I was going to get a jacket from my car, no answer. Waited outside, knocked and rang the doorbell again, no answer. About 25-30 minutes had passed at this point, so I texted and said, I'm going to my car and will be heading out, let me know if you get this. Asked her if I had done something wrong. Eventually I just left. About 45 minutes total had gone by.
So she vanished in the span of less than 5 minutes. Still hasn't texted back and I'm home now.
Any idea what happened here? She seems to have glowing reviews and was really cool and sweet during the scheduling. Maybe she looked through the peephole and I looked like LE? I'm a pretty average guy in my 30s but it's possible. Maybe I know her in real life? Maybe she had an emergency?
So now I'm just wondering what the hell happened. I sure would like to know, mostly just out of curiosity.
I doubt I'll hear from her!
I say try to contact her one time tomorrow and then give her 24 hours to get ahold of you with a reasonable explanation and then post her name. Even if it is her first time doing this other guys have the right to know. You don't know there could be 3 or 4 other guys out there who also decided to let it slide. My experience sorta like this was I had a confirmed appointment with a well reviewed lady who I had seen previously. After a more than 4 hour drive I was in the general area and tried to contact her with no luck. After three more attempts I was just getting ready to leave when she pulled up to a stop light with a guy and stopped about twenty feet away from me. I saw her very clearly and there was no mistaking who she was. I grabbed my phone and called. She raised her phone and looked at it before lowering it. When they drove away it was awfully tempting to chase them down, but number one I would never do that and number two maybe she had a good excuse. I tried to contact her the next day and got no response. The next day she called me and told me they had taken her mother to the hospital three hours before I saw her and she never left for over 12 hours. I told her I saw her and was going to let other guys on TER know and she started cussing me out. That didn't help her much. After I posted two other guys PMed me saying she had done similar things to them. If I had known that I wouldn't have scheduled with her. Maybe I was lucky to see her the first time without being NCNS. Sorry this is so long I got worked up again.
-- Modified on 4/15/2014 1:58:03 PM
I wouldn't sweat it...this happens to everyone. It is the nature of this business...maybe she was spooked, maybe she wasn't really there or even ready. It could be that she had a favorite client contact her minutes before you rang the bell.
I've had plans with established providers who had me wait in the hotel lobby for more time that I was comfortable. Only to call me later apologize and blame it on car trouble.
The important thing is to chalk up the trip to an exciting drive, make new plans or alternate plans. Whomever this provider is, I'm sure there is someone next on your list who will fit in just fine.
Don't take the no show personally.
Good luck.
Marnash54
Thanks! If she got spooked, I'm perfectly ok with that. I'd like to think I'm sympathetic to what providers go through.
She really did seem like she had the perfect combo of things I wanted to try (everything basically), an awesome attitude, and the right age, build, etc.
Oh well ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
-- Modified on 4/15/2014 6:41:29 PM
Not responding is no excuse, spooked or not! I understand safety, but not rude behavior to let you drive to the complex then space out!
This is why you should see girls from agencies instead of indies.
You avoid bullshit and unreliable behavior if you stay away from indies.
Right. Then your info ends up where?
You avoid bullshit and unreliable behavior if you stay away from indies.
Marnash is spot on ...hobby long enough and it happens to all of us.
Then I will be able to tell you what happened.
1. During scheduling did you ever talk to this provider on the phone?
2. I don't know your age or race, but did the provider know prior to you heading to her apartment?
1. No. She has plenty of great reviews and this seemed to be her standard system.
2. No. I'm mid-30s, caucasian, wearing slacks and a button down (my usual Corporate America business casual outfit). Not overweight, not bad looking, if that makes a difference. I look younger than I am, but not too young.
Once she looked through the peep hole an noticed you were young she declined to see you. Some providers don't see guys under 40.
Or she doubled booked you, double booking is when another client comes along with more money, she flakes on you and sees the other client.
Either way you need to out her, wasting your time like that is unacceptable, if a guy had done something like that we'd get grilled on the boards or blacklisted.
-- Modified on 4/15/2014 1:48:58 PM
agree, she could have said look I am sorry for wasting you time, but I am no longer comfortable with this or she could have led. When a go straight up no shows with a girl he gets black balled pretty good so why is it acceptable for a girl to do this.
I mean seriously she sent the apt number, if she wants to feel more comfortable with her clients she needs to get on the phone with them then instead of just emails and text. It is not professional and is a waste of time to the client for girls to do this.
I would send her a text and say \I hope you're ok, but you stood me up and I feel this should be reviewed.
So review her as a no show
Agreed. I'm going to take SK11's suggestion and give her another shot to text me back tomorrow, and then review or post her name.
...Since you didn't actually meet you can't review it. Had you actually seen her even if you left or she did whether a session took place or not you could review and report the situation. TER won't allow a review of a NoCallNoShow.
ever drive to see a provider you've never seen before without talking to them on the phone... this way you get a feel if you click or not.
Sorry your time got wasted.
TER doesn't let you write reviews for ladies you don't get to see. It could have happened a lot.
The lady's need to be accountable for their actions just as guys should be. But here's where the double standard comes into play: if a lady NCNSs a hobbyist , the hobbyist doesn't have much recourse , BUT if a lady is stood up by a guy , that guy can be potentially blacklisted......That's a double standard in my book.
you only have 4 reviews from 2003; did not that come up ? I know you said she checked your work reference ... see I know some providers that I have seen did read the recent reviews I wrote in recent times (of me seeing them) mostly to get to my expectations etc. I am assuming since this was a quickly done appointment, she might have been looking you up minutes before you rang the bell and reviews only from 2003 spooked her ...
I am just conjecturing and I am sympathetic to your trouble 
just my 2c.
No, I didn't give her my TER name, mostly because those reviews really are old. I did offer provider references, though. I have seen a few providers in the last few months and have had good experiences, but I was too lazy to review them and now I can't review them because it's been too long according to TER.
Anyway we ended up using my work reference because it was easier. Next time I'll give my provider references.
I saw the ad for a lady I had seen several times, advertising in Chicago, where I was visiting. I called and she could only see me at 11P. My experiences with her had been mind-boggling, so I booked, even though it was late for my old age.
I was staying in the West suburbs and she was downtown. It took me about 50 minutes to get to her hotel and I arrived at 10:40 or so. I called her from the bar to tell her I was here early and to let me know when she was ready, thinking 10-15 minutes. Her response was to tell me that she wasn't sure I was coming and that she'd have to "get ready." So, I ordered a drink and watched Sports Center for awhile. 20 minutes came and went--no call. At 11:10, I called again and got a voice mail. 11:20, same thing.
So, I figure she had fallen asleep or something and left the hotel to drive the 50 minutes back to my hotel. During that drive, my cell phone rang twice but there was no one on the other end. I was very disappointed and slightly pissed, but passed the experience off as "rub of the green."
The next day, the "lady" had posted how I had NC/NSed her and cost her "several hundred dollars," saying that she had called me "many times" without response, without mentioning our first conversation. I tried to communicate with her to reconcile her version of the encounter with the truth but she would not return three voicemail messages.
And, of course, I am the goat and she has missed no opportunity to try to poison other ladies in her area. Oh, well. . . . Sometimes the screwing you get is not worth the screwing you got.
Just chalk it up to experience and hobby on
Dude, you spend way too much time letting her play you like mouse. If I were you, I would have rung the door bell may be three times, texted her once telling her I am going to my car and I am going to wait for her reply for 5 minutes and if i didn’t receive text five minutes, I would have found a nice little place to get a drink or called someone else or make an appointment for the next day.
She probably gave you a # to an un occupied apartment and watched you.
NCNS means just that. Wasting time to find out what happened is more wasted time. Just move on, there plenty of providers in ATL. One reason I prefer agencies and reputed providers.
That her friends and family were having her intervention at that exact time! I have no doubt she would have been an absolute hot fuck.
Lol
Shades of Kimberly of Norcross. It happens sometimes for no particular reason.
-- Modified on 4/16/2014 12:08:18 AM
Have not heard that name(Kimberly) in a long, long time. Wow. Stopped me "dead in my tracks". Don't want to get off the subject. Thanks for reminding me.
you had to knock, call, knock, call, knock.......open!
Bam!
what a girl!
Dang! Now I know the proper technique! Earlier this month I was treated to a whole new kind of sucks...standing at the door knocking with no answer. But I guess I used the wrong approach. I went knock, knock, call, and leave. And became asshole of the century for leaving! Good times!
or at least was my experience. once in and is was pedal to the metal
for the hour (s) lol
Last time I saw her she was on her knees in front of me giving me head and slowly raking her long fingernails up and down the inside of my thighs. Thought I was gonna lose my mind!
You have been given many. First, I hope the lady is okay. IMO, I would contact her(call, text, email) and, in the least threatening manner, ask her to please explain. I might mention "outing her" as a way to get her to answer. But I would probably not do so and chalk it up to, "it has happened to most all of us". Drama almost guaranteed if you do reveal her name.
Ladies think their time is more valuable than ours and think nothing of inconveniencing us. Hate to sound harsh, but it's true. It's happened to me on more ocaasions than I can remember. One in particular drove me nuts doing this kind of stuff, but she was so hot and the sex was off the charts so I put up with it for quite a while.
that "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned," or a crazy one who thinks she was scorned. I'd be careful "outting" her just because you don't know how she'll react.
I had a problem with one a few years back who thought I screwed her over and she called some girls I knew quite well and told them a bunch of BS that she claimed I said about them. I think she perhaps called my work as well but I never could get confirmation of that fact. I should have known she was nuts when she told me she was Mary Magdelene in a previous life. LOL! Whenever I think of her I hear Patsy Cline in my head singing, "Crazy."
left after 10 minutes, gone home and "rubbed one out", opened an amarone and celebrate that I saved $300.
I have some slightly autistic tendencies, including speaking in an overly precise monotone. Occasionally girls bail at the last minute thinking I'm 5-0. I've found for me the best thing is to establish a relationship with an agency.
If I go for independents I always make sure that I have plenty of time and a list of girls that I like so if one drops me I just move to the next.