when we establish standards and referential scales on physical feelings that are quite fleeting.  It is of course rather common and I suppose natural that we do it.  We may assign an 'ATF' label on a provider who continuously got better and better after each meet.  This scaling usually contains an element of time in that it is assigned after a couple of sessions with one provider.  At its roots are a synthesis of wonderful memories from different sessions.  We likely recall it as a single melded scenario when we then compare it with an actual single experience with a first time provider.  Then what happens if the first time experience is better than the ATF recall session?  We then ask ourselves, what was different?, what was better?, was my standard too low beforehand?  On the other hand what if  a new ATF session does not live up to the old memories as you suggest?  You likely ask yourself the same set of questions.

At the end of the day there is not a right or wrong answer.  It is a combination of probably many, many factors: the old YMMV...it is always there, you are not the same performer each time, she is not the same each time, it is possible to get 'routine' with a repeat provider, 'strange' is exciting, how were you/her feeling?, what outside interference was on your /her mind?, etc., etc.

So with this being said the best option may be to mix it up.  Enjoy the new every now and then  and relish a renewal with the familiar.  It's all good and and it's all so unpredictable.  But damn isn't it fun?        







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Over 30+ years of hobbying, I have given this some thought.  Here's what has worked for me:

I tend to see about 4-6 providers regularly approximately once every two to three months.  Most I have been seeing for at least two years, some over 15 years now.

The experience achieves a certain plateau after some time.  Obviously, I can't have a quantum leap every time or I'd be dead.  Instead, there are variations on a theme, and these variations become something like a melody that stays with you after the date, and it is often in this retrospection that the greatest satisfaction from the hobby comes.

I still keep my eyes and ears open for the opportunities to meet new ATF's and I also see other great providers in other cities when I travel.

Along the line, some providers retire, move or otherwise drift away, and it's good to have a new experiences.

This keeps my interest peaked and has worked well for me.

Re:Too often to one well?

Dear mrskins,
I agree with your fellow posters. Mix it up! Unfortunately this is not an exact science, but an intersubjective endeavor of the most delicate kind.
It's very hard to quantify or rate a sexual experience - although the TER format certainly does an admirable job by including the qualitative aspect in the written review. Still, there are two parties to this action. Who knows what circulates in the minds of the providers in question? We humans are excellent at picking up and processing non-verbal cues...and then we ascribe them to the unconscious. The dynamics can be ever so subtle; we feel something is off [or on, for that matter] but a rock solid explanation may elude us. So yes, YMMV, in TER parlance.

Now what does this mean in practical terms: I think you should follow your fancy as it strikes you in the moment. Don't make up any rules, because you're either bound to break them [could be fun, in a paradoxical intention kinda way] or you'll be really, really bored. Try to be as spontaneous as possible when you do the choosing.

Personally, I think you should give your proverbial genes as much room to spread as possible. ATF's are good, but they seem more trouble than they are worth sometimes...at least if you read this board...sheesh!

Have fun with it,
the Love Goddess

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this is a hobby not a marriage move on. It's like a wife of many years just doing her duty and trying to get it over with.