If a girl is an escort she should be paid for her time, whatever activities are involved whether it's non stop sex or just eating dinner. But these are SBs, not Escorts, as they insist on reminding us, right? So the rules are different. Supposedly we are both interested in each other at least enough to find out if there's chemistry. That's one reason to meet for coffee or a meal. The other is the total lack of screening. We both deserve to check each other out before any risky business. If a girl is so non motivated that she thinks you should pay her for that first date in a public place, you are off to a very bad start. Say no, politely, state your reasons, give her a chance to change her mind gracefully without losing face. But if she still nsists on $ to meet for lunch, say no and move on!
Help me out here guys... when sorting through profiles the ones that are along the lines of "if you're just seeking sex move on because I'm not that kind of girl"
So does it mean that they will not do sex or just want to slowly move towards sex after getting a bunch of money and gifts first?
For the record I generally move on but there are a few that peak my interest to illicit a response from. For the ones That do I always say something like are you open to dancing or intimacy? The ones that say no I thank them for their time and move on.
How have you guys tackled this issue?
Does that mean no sex or strictly fwb?
1) Move on if you are easily put off.
2) Just like the question you asked no sex or FWB? Great opening line. Telling your confused and want to understand what they really want. etc, etc., Its an opening...
3) Ignore the statement and just contact her and see where it goes.
Some of the girls are in fact looking to make money just by going on dates, so they want to be with you as arm candy in restaurants or events but won't be really FWB cause no intimacy means no benefit being a SD IMHO.
So if it says on their profile then probably no intimacy at least for a few weeks which is a lot on money to spend if you're just expecting her to slowly respond to what you want from her. However, there are some who will say no intimacy after they see your pictures in which case they are looking for probably a different kind of look in a person. But in the DC market, there is plenty of fish so move on.
I avoid profiles that say platonic or "not that kind of girl", etc... This is the type of delusional SB that wants you to pay her to watch her eat. You want the girls that implicitly state that they understand the Sugar dynamic of money for sex/intimacy. Most girls profiles won't explicitly state this but you can drill down on the girls (pardon the pun) who understand how SA works by reading between the lines.
Overall I think your approach is good by asking if you're not sure. There are also a few girls for me that are pretty hot that say "not a call girl but definitely a fun date" that are giving out mixed messages or are maybe giving themselves an out if they don't like you. The more quickly you can establish a rapport with the girl and make her feel comfortable the quicker you will be in her pants. I think if you want to give these girls a shot, by the 2nd date you should know if you're being led on or if she's into you. Whether you want to invest the time I guess is personal case-by-case decision.
I constantly get POT SB's asking me for $$$ for a first date with out any possible "intimacy" as they state... IMHO I can almost see the Honey Pot scam coming on... Am I wrong? I feel I should never pay for the M&G 1st date well that is a matter of contractual obligations... Am I wrong?
Some of them can be talked off the ledge, with others it's not impossible, but not worth the effort to even try. NEXT!!!
Personally, just like with hookers, I do NOT pay for "time and companionship" I pay for NSA sex. The same goes for SB's, "no intimacy" equals "no allowance" in my book.
If a girl is an escort she should be paid for her time, whatever activities are involved whether it's non stop sex or just eating dinner. But these are SBs, not Escorts, as they insist on reminding us, right? So the rules are different. Supposedly we are both interested in each other at least enough to find out if there's chemistry. That's one reason to meet for coffee or a meal. The other is the total lack of screening. We both deserve to check each other out before any risky business. If a girl is so non motivated that she thinks you should pay her for that first date in a public place, you are off to a very bad start. Say no, politely, state your reasons, give her a chance to change her mind gracefully without losing face. But if she still nsists on $ to meet for lunch, say no and move on!
there's hardly any point in wasting time on the ones who say they want a platonic relationship, or they are not prostitutes, or any other statement that is sex negative. The opposite extreme is much better! Just yesterday I had a date BCD with a cute local SB who I'd been messaging for just 3 days. I suggested we meet for coffee. She told me why waste time on restaurants, let's meet in private and go to bed. So we did! Great girl, geat attitude. When we were done screwing we talked about this activity and she was surprised to learn that some SBs on SA state they want a platonic arrangement, no sex. We both felt they were on the wrong website for sure. Sugar has two parts: sex and money. If they clearly want one and not the other, move on and seek those with a more realistic attitude. They are out there, even in a very small market like mine.
Chatted with a lady about meeting for a trip. After a few days she let it be known she wants $$ to skype sex with her. No thanks.
The other lady to avoid is the looking for love type. Seriously. Do they not know that this isnt match.com. Jeez.
You just have to make yourself "unlovable" In our cases that's easy, just let her know your TER handle when she starts getting too clingy and voila, problem solved. lol
The $$$ for Skype sex type doesn't even merit discussing, NEXT
I always assume the profiles with blurbs about "looking for the certain someone to love and build a family with" are scammers and catfishers.
When the context or content of the profile is diametrically opposed to the main purpose of the site, it probably means the profile was a cut & paste from another site and/or the poster does not speak English and is using some boilerplate text provided to them.