For a negotiating monger like myself, I always look forward to those.
I wonder how do men feel abut providers they've seen before contacting them out of the blue? Whether it be announcing Soecials, to wonder why they haven't got together, or just to check on them and say hello. I use to think that men didn't like that at all considering some are married and you just don't want to contact them at the wrong time. But it seems as if it's a very common thing for women to do that. I wanna know your opinion(s)
Those ladies I have an ongoing relationship with can contact me anytime. They know this because I told them. This is reciprocal...they don't mind if I contact them between meetings for similar purposes. Communications of this nature tend to build the relationship, and facilitate future meetings. In other words, it's good client relationships with those clients you wish to continue doing business with.
Being single, I don't have a SO to worry at present so being contacted isn't really an issue for me. For those that do have a SO that you're aware of, you may want to consider using email versus texts/calls.
With that being said, I would suggest to you that if you have seen them on more than one occasion, I don't view it as a problem. I wouldn't reach out to them if you've only seen them once.
I have given an OK for a few to contact me to let me know in advance when they are going to be available. Two are local to my area, two are touring ladies whom I've had a fabulous time with enjoy the chance to meet while they are in town. None of them blow up my phone or send numerous emails.
A text or call doesn't work, but I always appreciate a well timed email!
Lol yeah you and I just can't seem to get our timing right....one day it will happen and it will be magical 💋
To the other posters, thanks for your input. I've always been the type to just wait until he contacts me because I would never want to impose. Sometimes you just never know if it's the right time to reach out to someone or not. Though I think sometimes guys fear to reach out to me due to my busy work schedule or sometimes I'm traveling.
Always feel free. I can't wait until we can finally make things work!
Totally late to the party (was on a hobby hiatus for a few months), but love getting an email from a provider.
Despite this whole hobby being "NSA" kinds of relationships, they are, still, relationships. There are a handful of providers I will see multiple times (spaced out for financial/UTR reasons...getting caught would but the kibosh on my hobbying ASAP!). I'll get the odd email from them here and there, and it's nice.
Obviously, our relationship is a transactional one ($ for time), but there's undoubtedly a human/emotional/psychological aspect to what we all do. I can't speak for anyone other than myself, but having a connection like that, beyond the physical, makes the session that much...."more" I'm at a loss for the right words at the moment, but I think you get the idea.
For myself, a phone call or text just won't work, but an email is great. (perhaps set aside a few minutes to chat, planned via email?
In cities that I tour. I try to send everyone an email or PM to let them know my tour dates about a week ahead of time.
I had e-mails this week from two different ladies.
One was from someone I had never met (or contacted) saying that she would be in town and asking about meeting. She had gotten my e-mail from someone else I had seen only once. I politely declined and said that I did not appreciate having my e-mail shared without my permission.
The second e-mail from someone who I have seen several times and have enjoyed spending time with. We occasionally exchange e-mails about getting together and I was happy to know she was going to be close by and wanted to get together. I was happy to hear from her and sent a positive reply that I would love to try and meet.
Essentially, I love hearing from those ladies I know well. Some often e-mail to let me know they are going to heading someplace and e-mail saying they would like to stop in Philly just to see me. I'm thrilled when that happens and often we do end up meeting. Such was the case just yesterday.
I definitely do not mind providers contacting me only if we clicked during our meeting. I had one provider that we continue to email off & on which was fine ( it builds on the relationship more then just the sex part ). I sometime would get the urge to see her again when she emails me but in the email she never hint to a meeting at all ( IMO she would seem desperate if she hint/want to meet unless it was OTC of course LOL). Email would be best, but since we all have hobby emails, don't be surprised if you do not get a reply right away (we don't check our hobby emails everyday, at least I don't).
On the other hand, I had one provider - young college girl that emailed then text me that she was in-town and she would love to meet. I was not into her after our first meeting so I answered that "I was busy and don't think that we can meet while you are here this time". She actually texted me on the phone telling me that this was her last weekend here before she goes back to school. Then I got another text a day later saying " she wanted to ask me questions re my work - she was trying to get into the same career that I was in. I gave her some pointers in our first meeting (which school to go to, what would be a good company to start your career with? what you can expect the first couple of years in the field, etc). I texted back that you can email me or we can meet for coffee re your questions if you don't want to put it in writing. I never got a reply after that. I am naturally a friendly and talkative guy. But with what happen with this girl, it kind of got me thinking that I should STFU or at least be very careful what I divulge next time I meet someone especially in a session.
For a negotiating monger like myself, I always look forward to those.
I welcome e-mails from providers I've seen before where we enjoyed our time together.
I don't think a lady would e-mail me unless we shared a little chemistry which is common for me.
A reminder of a good time spent together is a good way to have me possibly set up a subsequent date.
That reminds me - Maria maybe we should get together again sometime.
I check my private email every few days. Just don't expect a prompt response.
Phone or text? No thanks.
It just has to be from providers I know already or their friends.
If it's someone I've seen more than once and have a dialogue with via text/email/twitter, etc. No problem, it's even welcome. However, if it's from a one off, no thanks. I'm not shy, you'll know if it's the right move or not.
I like contacting gentlemen I know when I come to Ny - I don't advertise much , UTR , and I enjoy getting to know someone .
I would never send a text unless I know the gentleman said ok to text - but I send emails when I know I'll be in town .
Xoxox
Vanessa F.
Sounds like I am not adding much to the dialogue, but even if it is just to be one more indication that lots of guys are open to being emailed.
Personally, I don't even mind being contacted by someone I don't know, but agree that the better course of action if someone I do know wants to introduce me to a friend is for that person to contact me first. You can feel free to drop me a line some time if you are so inclined
Single like myself, I welcome the seduction. My all-time favorite text, "Hey [nick name], come on over for a rib bye and check out a new hair cut on my pussy [fresh steaks and freshly shaven work of art pictures attached]." lol