I understand all the terms like bbbj, cim, greek russian. But what about more specific things like if cim is a constant on someones review is cof? Is it ok to ask if a provider is willing to do bbbj for more money? Or what if u like to be a little aggressive sexually, ex. hair pulling or slappin (butt not face, and not hard pulling) It's not much fun being told "no" or "don't do that" midway thru something is there a way to ask these things before "starting?"
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To be safe, I doubt many providers will discuss specifics on the phone, much less by e-mail. You'll just have to extrapolate between their websites and the reviews, then ask her when you see her in person - BEFORE YOU START THE SESSION.
When contacting her beforehand, maybe you should specify that you want to talk about things before you get started. It might kill the spontaneity, but if you're that worried about being disappointed, I don't know what else to recommend.
If you can't figure out the menu before your session by reading her reviews, you will have to "go with the flow."
If a lady has numerous reviews, you should be able to get a general idea of what is/isn't available. If one guy gave her a facial, and another received cim, that gives an indication that it's possible.
I've also had a lady ask me (after screening me and being comfortable) if there was anything special I'd be interested in. Unfortunately, I was kinda new and mostly stammered before saying "not really"
just be polite and also be prepared to hear "no."
Also remember that "no" means "no." Drop the subject or you'll both be unhappy.
A good provider is always up for finding ways that both of you can be happy, so follow her lead.
Also, if you are polite and gentlemanly about things, you never know but when she gets to know you after a few sessions, the "no" could turn into a "yes".
I think the best route is to do your research and check your reviews, certainly do not discuss any specifics prior to seeing her. During your initial appt. in the first few minutes she will probably ask you what you like, then is the time to tell and/or ask her.
I know everyone else is saying to rely on reviews and don't be explicit, but sometimes they may not have reviews or the profile doesn't cover some act you find important.
So I actually will "risk" offending the provider and ask as delicately as possible in an email. The worst they can do is NOT RESPOND but surprisingly many will. I've had a number say they won't kiss, let alone DFK, for instance, so if that is important to me I pass. Others have asked what the acronyms mean ( acting naive ) and still others have said they do all the things I asked about and ended up being good providers despite no reviews or inexplicit reviews.
So I agree that if u can tell it is on the table by many reviewers mentioning it then do not ask, but I think it is well worth risking offending some stuck up provider by asking in an email. If they are that easily offended or suspicious then they probably wouldn't be very cooperative in a session anyway - IMHO. Not that I am that experienced but several of my favs were very okay about email questions as long as you use acronyms and explain it is a must for your enjoyment factor.
JMHO
It's even less fun being abused or assaulted by a client.