Thanks.... 
My Bday is Sunday. Does anyone truly do a Bday special? or freebee? I've heard if from girls in other cities but never from anyone in MPLS... just wondering if it's normal to? Not to? ETC..
Thoughts? by the way if anyone posts a photos to say happy bday I won't be upset
don't ask what my bday wish is unless you really want to know...
I imagine the freebie is attached to your right or left arm, your preference
Thoughts? by the way if anyone posts a photos to say happy bday I won't be upset
don't ask what my bday wish is unless you really want to know...
I have seen a top rated provider for 18 months, on a weekly basis. Although she has said she has strong feelings and really "appreciates me, it is totally a one way relationship. Birthdays, Christmases, anniversaries come and go without any tokens of appreciation - not even something as simple as a card.
She is a great lady, and her ratings demonstrate her popularity. Even with other providers I have seen over the years, giving a premium for special occasions doesn't happen.
BTW - what does "long term arrangement" meam?
Generally it means anything from a discount on the rate for a session so long as the client sees the provider frequently enough to something that's basically a sugardaddy-sugarbaby relationship.
Like you, I've seen a provider on a regular basis for a long time. I give her cards and gifts (nothing extravagant) on occasions like her birthday, V-Day, and Christmas. I don't give gifts to get something in return, but it so happens she's never given me a gift, or even a card. I used to wonder about that, until recently I read an article about gratitude and how self-reliant people can tend to not show gratitude. And she's certainly self-reliant! Plus she actually HAS given me gifts over the years: gifts of her time. And I think that's the best gift anyone can give, to give of themselves. Especially when the giver is as busy as this woman is.
to suitors I have seen regularly for years. I don't agree with the notion that self-reliant people tend to not show gratitude. Anyone who knows me is aware that I am very self-reliant and independent but also thoughtful and generous when it comes to showing my appreciation to loyal friends. It may simply be sending ecards on a special occasion or just to say "hello." It has also been the gift of extra time, a packet of home-baked cookies, cigars or small gifts symbolic of an interest or life event. One gentleman I knew for years with whom I traveled received a silver engraved flask and monogrammed cigar case. One received a silk tie with matching pocket square and cufflinks. Sometimes it's been as simple as a little cake and there have also been many bottles of wine shared. Typically that appreciation is extended to those I have gotten to know very well over time who have demonstrated their interest and loyalty. As someone who has worked in the personal services industry for years this comes naturally and I receive great pleasure from showing my gratitude to those who have been so good and kind to me.
xo
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It's not an absolute, just a tendency as found in a recent study (see link). It's not to say there aren't self-reliant people who show gratitude. I also am self-reliant but try to have an attitude of gratitude about life in general. For example, I'm grateful for all of the wonderful women I've met in the hobby--whether many times or only once or twice.
xo
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I'm grateful for the many wonderful gentlemen I've met as well - if only once or twice. The original topic was in reference to extending special gifts of time or discounts. I enjoy giving little gifts but reserve them for loyal friends I've known for a very long time. Always an attitude of gratitude!
Hmm, that study seemed kind of subjective. Their supposition seemed to be that people who were autonomous were defective. I bet the authors were politically"progressive."
Self-reliance may impact how giving people are in private life, but when it comes to business it's really neither here nor there. I hardly think all the salesmen who show up at pitches with gift baskets and what-not lack self-reliance. Their personal motivation is drowned in the conventions of their field and what's expected of them.
If providers don't push sales like that, it's because of the peculiar conventions of their field. Probably almost nothing to do with what you're talking about.
If she does have these "strong feelings" for you than I would think you would get somewhat special treatment or more so than other guys. That is what strong feelings are.
I don't know about birthday "freebies"... when you think about it, if a provider were to offer a freebie on clients' birthdays, they'd take quite a hit in their income.
As for birthday discounts... that does pop up in ads from time to time. In fact there's a recent ad from a visiting provider offering a birthday discount. Unfortunately for you, she's not coming until May. I found a few, not many, other offers for client birthday discounts over the past 3 years in Minnesota ads. But I found several special offers in honor of the provider's birthday. Again, when you think about the economics, it makes more sense for providers to offer birthday discounts once a year vs for every client. There's also the privacy issue. I suppose providers who offer a client birthday discount would need some proof, like a drivers license, of the client's birthday.
(FYI... providers aren't supposed to post photos in threads like this--only in their ads and in designated photo threads. So don't feel bad that no one posted a Happy Birthday photo.)
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Thanks....
Seriously you want someone who has never met you give you a freebie for your Birthday? Now don't go saying that's not what you meant as you posted this thread asking who does the such ie meaning you have never met them.
You don't see the same girl twice (per your words)... Lol .... And the fact I wasn't available this weekend..
Hope you had a fab HBD!!!