Especially because of the discrete nature of the business. Most of us are trying to hide this life from our friends, family, SOs, ect. I wouldn't be surprised if some women cancel appointments or stop replying all together just to keep up appearances. For example a provider has a boyfriend that doesn't know what she does. A client emails her for an appointment and nothing's going on so she agrees to a time. All the sudden her boyfriend texts her and asks if she wants to go out for dinner. She says yes because she doesn't want him to become suspicious and cancels with the client at the last minute. Unprofessional, yes I know but that's the nature of the beast and that's why I don't even bother with dating.
I usually utilize an agency and had seen a few indies. It seems to me that indies really is lacking in terms of communication. For example, I emailed a couple of indies and both emailed back rather late with very vague replies. When I message back to confirm, nothing. Then when I finally message again that due to lack of confirmation I had to cancel, one replied quite curt back. I own a small business, and if a potential client inquire about a transaction, I would be on it like white on rice. Perhaps because I'm booking a few days in advance hence the nonchalant attitude? Then why does all providers stressed that they prefer advanced booking? In these days where I've seen young ladies literally jump through rings of fire to update their twitter/FB statuses, one would think they can be better in communicating with clients. Just ranting...
you would have more success "commicating."
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Recently. A constant game of tag with email (over 32 emails since June!) with late or noncommital replies. Every time I was ready to give up she'd contact me and we'd do the dance again. She diean't book via telephone, only email. Finally I asked her to tell me flat out yes or no and laid out every possible time I was available during the times she advertised. All she had to was pick a date and time or tell me to go screw off. If the gal didn't have such glowing reviews I would have moved on long ago. Finally finalized a date and time with her coming up. Then she emails me again to change it to an hour later! I agreed and hopefully she won't change it again, because at this point I'm ready to say screw it and walk away. Wish me luck.
Common courtesy. It happens in both ends of the spectrum (gentlemen and women) but I would say if it has a rocky start then I would reconsider the meeting. Understandably, we all have a busy life and obligations to tend to (families, school etc.) but sending an email takes 5-10 minutes. I do have standard business practices in place, I just wish people on both sides would take this occupation seriously..
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So clients are answered promptly and courteously ..
Lots of ladies have hectic schedules ,, some only have minutes in between this work , civvie work , school, family, posting ads, marketing themselves, appts and other engagements , and are uncomfortable going into specifics with clients that havent been screened and screening/verification takes time ..
I know there are gentlemen that dont like working through assistants but mine is my right hand and works especially hard to see that all my clients are taken care of on the admin side so I can put more focus on the personal side and the time I spend with them ..
~Melaniee x
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Maybe after the date actually happens. It still might turn out OK if nothing changes by tomorrow. If she's as good as her billing I wont care how many emails it took.
She emailed me less than 10 minutes ago and cancelled. I'm done with her.
Listen I understand scheduling conflicts. I get it. I understand wariness due to LE concerns on here on LI. But she screened me as OK. She haggled over times, dates, etc. kept pushing it back week after week. Every time I thought it was set she changed it. Now a cancellation 2-1/2 hrs before the appt that's been set for a week.
Maybe it's me IDK. I bought into the hype that others on this board have expressed about this provider and was willing to be dicked around because of it, now I'm just pissed off. Yet to be a gentleman I still will not mention her name because that would make me as much a dick as she is. Please excuse me for venting here.
Cooperate with the lady regarding her screening requirements, and you will be fine. Most will ask for some personal info, and it's best to provide that to indicate that your inquiry is real. Simple, really...
Um actually she told me that my screening was fine and I was good to go. She just flaked every single time I tried to set a date and time. When we finally set a date and time she kept pushing it later, first by weeks, then days, then an hour, then canceled with no explanation.
It ain't gonna happen, and it's time to cut your losses, and move on. Unless you know her from previous meetings, you should have a one strike policy regarding flakes. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Yeah, kinda why, even though I'm pissed at her, I'm more pissed at myself for being led down a path to nowhere receiving nothing. I shoulda bailed a long time ago. Ah well, I have an appointment Monday with someone else whom it's a breeze to book though I must travel all the way into the city to see her. Damn the wasteland that is Long Island!
Had my own interesting story last week. Texted an indy (her preferred manner of communication), PM'ed on TER my references, set up a time a day in advance. The afternoon of our meeting, I texted confirmation and she responded with the approximate address. Asked if special requests should be discussed now or in person. Her text back to me was, "Let's talk in person, can't wait to see you".
A few minutes before our appointment I texted her from the corner to get address, no response, waited 10 minutes, texted again. Nothing. Waited 5 more minutes, called; went to voice mail. Never heard back, can't figure it out at all. She is highly reviewed and advertised on TER... it's not cool to waste anyones time.
Especially because of the discrete nature of the business. Most of us are trying to hide this life from our friends, family, SOs, ect. I wouldn't be surprised if some women cancel appointments or stop replying all together just to keep up appearances. For example a provider has a boyfriend that doesn't know what she does. A client emails her for an appointment and nothing's going on so she agrees to a time. All the sudden her boyfriend texts her and asks if she wants to go out for dinner. She says yes because she doesn't want him to become suspicious and cancels with the client at the last minute. Unprofessional, yes I know but that's the nature of the beast and that's why I don't even bother with dating.
At the end of the day, various circumstances play out and sometimes we honestly get plain side tracked. I can totally understand that it's not professional, and that first impressions really are important. I know for me, when I give myself a vacation...twitter/FB statuses are the extent of my work. Just last week...in needing a vaca so bad, I forgot to put up an auto response saying "I'm away, I'll be back after the weekend." Unfortunately, my silence was not taken well (understandably) by some. I'm regretful to have upset anyone! In the end we're all human, and sometimes errors are made. Just a little perspective I guess. We aren't intentionally trying to make things harder on anyone 
I hope you were able to find an alternative option!