Bucket list item #1). Have amazing sex with my wife!
It's been almost 20 years since illness robbed her of desire. After 15 years, I finally decided to find fulfillment and satisfaction in the wonderful world of the hobby. I have enjoyed that so much ( thank you ladies!) and Wow - have I learned worlds about myself and the joys and pleasures of sex that I never knew previously. And neither had my wife because we were each other's first and only partners. SO ..... I want my wife to benefit from what I have learned and find amazing pleasure in her body and in an amazingly pleasurable sexual intimacy that she too has never known. I'm prepared for the inevitable question, "OMG - where did you ever learn this stuff?
Everything else that I set out to do I have done ( and much much more!).
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...I am afraid if I had a bucket around I'd just be apt to kick it. Not ready for that yet! But there are things on my list I still things on my list I would like to do.
What is on your hobbyist list of things to do?
Bucket list item #1). Have amazing sex with my wife!
It's been almost 20 years since illness robbed her of desire. After 15 years, I finally decided to find fulfillment and satisfaction in the wonderful world of the hobby. I have enjoyed that so much ( thank you ladies!) and Wow - have I learned worlds about myself and the joys and pleasures of sex that I never knew previously. And neither had my wife because we were each other's first and only partners. SO ..... I want my wife to benefit from what I have learned and find amazing pleasure in her body and in an amazingly pleasurable sexual intimacy that she too has never known. I'm prepared for the inevitable question, "OMG - where did you ever learn this stuff?
Everything else that I set out to do I have done ( and much much more!).
-- Modified on 4/26/2016 4:39:09 PM
She doesn't need to have "desire". She doesn't even need a sexy thought. She will have to start by masturbating and connecting her brain with her blossom. It is a learned technique of totally going into the body and receiving pleasure. With a lot of ladies that's easier said than done, because I have found many ladies have challenges with their body image and the idea of masturbating.
her vagina is likely atrophied and coitus would be painful. If the problem is only tissue thinning then sometimes hormones can help but they can have unacceptable side effects.
That is a lame excuse older ladies hold to because the "desire" is gone. It just becomes easier to not have sex, because of some irritation.
Later in life, the Way to have Sex Changes. It is not about "coitus" so much as it is all about cunniligus.
She will learn exactly what feels good to her, when she masturbates, with lube, and then learn to tell You exactly what she needs. Guys will learn to Listen more and the ladies will learn to Speak Up more for what they want to feel good.
The idea of "Sex" changes past the age of 60 for ladies. It is not about having babies or getting the man. It's about her Pure Pleasure. She most certainly can have an Orgasm, as long as she still has a Clitoris and a brain to connect it to. The sensitive skin and dropped uterus need not hold her back from her Pleasure and WellBeing.
There are things she can change in her diet too, to promote fabulous orgasms. (that's a whole other chapter)
I find I have to go into "BENEFITS" selling, when getting ladies over 60 back into the Orgasm game.
Only when they make THEIR Health and WellBeing a PRIORITY will they learn to have orgasms in this different phase of life.
... which is to have a threesome with my wife and my ATF, in which my ATF gives my wife her expert attention and then my wife and I make love in many and various positions while my ATF adds verbal and physical encouragement.
I realize this is more a fantasy than a bucket list item. I guess it's on the list because if my wife agreed to do it, I'd probably die from the shock.
I hope you get to check your #1 off your list someday!
P.S. I do occasionally get to use what I've learned from providers with my wife. Once I asked her if she liked something new I tried with her: yoni massage. She said it was ok and asked where I learned it. I told her it's amazing what one can find on the Internet. Which was true--that's where I found some instructional videos. But I didn't tell her where I'd practiced it.
maybe a short P4P vacation - anywhere, I am curious about most places - with one of my favorites.
But to tell you the truth, I am pretty satisfied over here in RI, happily enjoying my side of the hobby. I am fortunate to have some really wonderful men in my life.
Oooooohhh, now I am all horny thinking about it! Having all of them at once is one of my fantasies. (not a bucket list item though
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I have a mini bucket list for real life, but nothing for the hobby. I've done everything I've ever wanted to do here. Although, occasionally I'll see a pic in the photo section, or I'll read a highly intelligent post, and I'll surprisingly be turned on. But in this day of 'upscale', 'high end', 'elite' 1k per hour ladies, I'll be kicking that bucket before checking off any list.
still, there are corners to turn and events to further explore...
would love to have a wild outdoor session...private, no exhibitionism thank you.
participate in a swingers party once again. Sure was naïve in my previous experiences
same thing with a husband and wife threesome ( non-professional)
on my, the list is longer than I thought