They will always say, "Are you free now?"or "Come over now." When I tell them I am busy at work or have other plans, but would like to meet some other time. Radio silence for several days or even weeks. Then they will send me the same message again. I finally just stopped responding. I think you are onto something.
What the hell is that? Just got hammered with new messages since not being on SA for about 7 weeks and 3 of the 27 are looking for "online only" relationships? My guess is send dirty pictures for money or maybe they are a cam girl?
Any thoughts?
Online Only= No Sex= NO FUCKING WAY
I treat them like I do the messages and "favorites" that are from hundreds or thousands of miles away and I simply move on with out even responding.
This is easy - DON'T!
She may:
- Offer live cam to cam chat through Skype - FOR MONEY
- Offer pictures of her in various states of naked or performing sex acts - FOR MONEY
- Offer to let you bring her to visit you if you pay air/train/etc. - FOR MONEY
- Offer to marry you (and help her immigrate from another country) - FOR MONEY
- Ask for MONEY for clothes/tuition/food/rent/child care/parent care/shopping/etc. This money will NOT be used for the stated purpose. It WILL be spent on her BF/GF/drug habit/partying/etc.
She will not:
- Ever have sex with you
- Tell you her real name, address
- Let you know she is scamming at least 30 other guys
You get the idea...
Think of these the same way you do profiles that say "platonic only", only MUCH, MUCH worse
There are some delusional POT SBs who may have "heard" that there are dirty old men willing to pay them for nekid photos or those who think that they will be "escorting" established gentlemen to dinners, events and functions. The POT SBs who fall within this category will learn the pace of speed in those Sugarlanes very, very fast!
but in her case it was completely different. She doesn't live too far from me, plenty close enough to meet. She is really nervous about meeting and she kind of pops in and out of the site, sometimes going several weeks without ever logging in.
We have spoken on and off for a few months now, we have had some tentative plans to get together "someday" but never anything actually set. She messaged me this morning, just to say hey, and we've exchanged a few messages today. I of course asked her if she was ready to get together yet and that's when she asked me if I was willing to have an "online relationship" until she was ready to finally meet.
Normally, I would have simply told her to either "shit or get off the pot" but instead I told her I wasn't interested in an "online relationship" that consisted of her sending naughty pics or her being some kind of "cam girl" but I did tell her I didn't mind chatting with her from time to time until she was ready. Obviously I am not going to give her any money, and who knows she might be one of those gems when and if we finally get together.
BTW she is REALLY REALLY cute, and just my type. So in this rare case I don't really mind wasting some time on her, if that's all it turns out to be. lol
I think you have identified the single exception case.
If I'm have preliminary discussion with a new, overly cautious, or shy POT SB I will offer to chat by Skype - for no money - specifically to let her get to know me better (which I read as meaning "make sure I am not a creep and seem reasonably pleasant to talk to").
I've offered it twice and in both cases, the POT SB opted to meet face to face. I think allowing her to take next steps are her own pace (within reasonable limits) and not appearing to rush asap into BCD helps them feel more confident that I'm serious about forming a LTA.
and it's the reason to keep quite a few POT SB's in the pipeline, Nothing will turn off a civvie, POT SB or even a hooker than "desperation" No woman wants a desperate guy and nothing makes a guy less desperate than getting a lot of pussy.
That's the reason a lot of whore mongers and SD's find that after a few years of doing this they have a lot more luck with civvies. When you honestly don't care if that hot chick you just met at the bar is going to fuck you tonight, she can tell. That's the beauty about this world and the hooker world, when you know full well that you can get laid anytime you want to, you won't be falling all over yourself trying to impress civvies, and that is when they start trying to impress you instead. lol
The guys that want just online action are the same dufuses that like phone sex aka Anthony Weiner. I have gotten three SB's today that want to set something up NOW and come over to my house. I said how about lunch or dinner tomorrow to survey the landscape. The result....crickets.... no effin way would I bring someone over sight unseen. Looks like the pro's/semi pro's are out in full force.
They need Christmas cash!
I've also had several that say "Can you meet today?" and if you say I'm not free or can we schedule for tomorrow or later this week, you never hear from them again... WTF?!?!
I guess I get that they want cash now, but wont they still need it in a day or two days from now once I'm available? Like excuse the fuck out of me if I can't drop everything right now and rush out to probably get stood up by you anyways. SMDH.
all the time and it is not limited to an immediate meet. One SB refused any further dealings when I don't have time to text with her on Thanksgiving Day. Another cut me off when I couldn't meet her for dinner on a weekend. I don't think it is a money issue as much as a sense of rejection. We do live in the same city so maybe it is a local phenomenon
I'll respectfully offer an alternative explanation for this behavior.
I think there is a small, but persistent number of POT SB's that are acting like UTR pro's. They will message multiple guys at one time asking for "right now" meets. As soon as one bites, they put the others on hold and then cycle back to the ones who showed interest but couldn't clear their schedules at the time.
This theory fits well with my experiences, where I have received follow up asks to meet for days, or even weeks after the initial contact. These follow ups are almost always minimal "Hey Daddy, can we meet today? I'm so horny." In addition these seem to arrive at all hours of the day. The last I received was at 7:15 am on Tuesday!
Thoughts?
They will always say, "Are you free now?"or "Come over now." When I tell them I am busy at work or have other plans, but would like to meet some other time. Radio silence for several days or even weeks. Then they will send me the same message again. I finally just stopped responding. I think you are onto something.
which obviously are sex and money. Some of these naive women simply don't understand this reality.