My heart was thumping my first time. That was a LONG time ago. You are in for some amazing times ahead. Just get the first one behind you!!!!!
I've been on this thing for a week now and I've found quite a few interesting women, but am too nervous to call any of them! How do you guys battle the nervousness?!
make sure you have her name written down.
Make sure you have a pen and paper handy.
Have her website pulled up and realize you are talking with a totally hot woman you may get to spend time with!
If that fails, go to an AMP, get your jerky tugged and keep going back until they know you by name.
Then try the steps above and join us in hobby heaven.
Best of Luck, just make the call.
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had email address first, it helps, good luck
After a couple of e-mails you won't be so nervous when you actually talk to her.
Hey Onevim,
We were all nervous the first time, and I was 58 for my first time, prob'ly a lot older than you. Make the call, and let nature take its course. My first time wasn't as wonderful as I had hoped, but I didn't let that stop me. Bottom line is, what a wonderful hobby it is.
HAVE FUN!!!!
Swim
Be honest with her. When she answers say:" Hi
my name is *** and I live in ***. I am new to this hobby and I would like
to get together with you." or something like
that. I researched for a while and figured that
the first statement you make on your initial phone
call is very important and I gave her as much
information as I could in that first statement.
I called my first provider on my lunch break at
work. I had decided that I was tired of thinking
about it, I was going to go through with and answer all of her questions for screening. I lucked out and she did not ask me any questions at
all, only what time was best to meet.
only get one chance to make a first impression.
My heart was thumping my first time. That was a LONG time ago. You are in for some amazing times ahead. Just get the first one behind you!!!!!
as I recall, I did need a wee bit of bottled courage to bring myself to do it.
Try some and see.
Take a quick introspective as to exactly what you fear.
Is it LE?
Is it fear of being ripped off?
STDs?
The review system pretty much alleviates the first two, and the professionalism along with the ubiquitous safe sex practices of the well reviewed women here makes the third all but a moot concern.
Most other concerns IMO fall into personal fears in meeting strangers/women, and/or the logistics and subterfuge of keeping things stealth from family, friends etc.
These are your own personal challenges to overcome.
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Don't think so much, it's just sex, not a space shuttle launch. Have some fun!
my SO and everything after that becomes easy. Just make the call, first outta the box, tell her you are a virgin (to the hobby).
If there's a reputable agency that has some well-reviewed women, call and tell them that you're a newbie and kind of nervous. Chances are they'll have a lady who'll be great for your nerves.
If you're a VIP member, try chatting with a couple of older hands in your area to see if they have specific recommendations.
Let me throw in here. I'm 55, sucessful; spoken to crowds; but was shaking like a leaf in a Novemeber storm when it came to dialing the phone. Then the drive to meet her. I felt like the first thing I should do is provide emergency contact information because I may fall ill in her company.
Well, as soon as the door opened, the nerves settled; the conversation ensued and all was well. Then the sex began and I still cherish the thought of that experience. No wonder these women love what they do, to touch a man so completely. I didn't know it but I stumbled on one of the best providers in the Denver area.
Anyway, try it out. It will probably be worth it.