What endeavor in this world doesn't have disappointment? Whether its p4p or IRL, nothing goes to expectations 100% of the time. If it is only "happen to you a few times", my guess is you're doing better than most.
My question to you is, is that all you did prior to seeing her was "check out her website and photos?" You don't mention reading her reviews, pm'ing her guys, engaging a in a little email chat with her before the session, etc Possible you didn't do all your homework before you met the hooker you reference?Just curious---have you fellow hobbyists encountered this situation before? Specifically--you check out her website and photos thinking it's going to be an awesome experience then when you meet her personally it's a complete 180 turn from your expectations going in?
Thankfully I've only had this happen to me a few times but when it does happen it's such a big-time struggle!! When it happens I can't just bail-out on the date and not only insult the provider but risk damaging my future credibility--so I have to somehow BS my way through it! Don't know about you guys but what I wind up doing is trying to engage in good conversation and maybe get a nice massage worked in while telling her that somehow my biorhythms that day are totally off-kilter and I can't perform!! Man in those situations the minutes can seem like HOURS LOL!!
And I have NO DOUBT that you ladies out there probably experience this 100 TIMES more often than we do. Whenever I think about that it really elevates my respect for the women who do this kind of work. No matter WHAT you run into regarding a client, you HAVE to somehow find a way to satisfy their needs--in other words--"the show must go on!!"
Ask yourself gentlemen---if the roles were reversed and you were doing this as your job would you be able to somehow find a way to be sexually satisfying when you are TOTALLY not "feeling it" with your partner--and would you be able to handle the possibility that this situation could possibly come up at ANY TIME?!! Now I know people will respond to the effect that--"Well that's what's screening is for." But screening is not going to paint a complete picture of someone. You really don't know until you meet someone in person what the chemistry is going to be like!
What endeavor in this world doesn't have disappointment? Whether its p4p or IRL, nothing goes to expectations 100% of the time. If it is only "happen to you a few times", my guess is you're doing better than most.
My question to you is, is that all you did prior to seeing her was "check out her website and photos?"
You don't mention reading her reviews, pm'ing her guys, engaging a in a little email chat with her before the session, etc
Possible you didn't do all your homework before you met the hooker you reference?
Actually---you raise excellent points that I should have addressed in my initial post. Yes, I do try to research as thoroughly as possible (reviews, etc) before making a booking. And I'm not saying that this should never happen and woe is me, etc---I'm just interested to know what guys do when they encounter this situation because everyone WILL encounter it--such is the world we live in!! I just thought it would be a topic that would generate some interesting responses--nothing more--nothing less!!
If I am not feeling it because I was misled, IOW I get there and she is forty pounds heavier and twenty years older than advertised then yes, i do turn around and walk right out without leaving anything more than a few well chosen words.
Now OTOH, if I am just not feeling it through no real fault of the woman, she looks reasonably like her pics, but something just doesn't click, then I feel some compensation is involved, but I will NEVER go through with a session just to spare her feelings, any more than I am going to suffer through a bad meal just to spare the waiters feelings.
I will just add that the amount of my "cancellation fee" will depend on how much time I spend with her before bailing, and how much, if any of the blame I feel lies with her. So the negotiated fee could run anywhere from half of her asking fee, down to as low as twenty bucks for cab fare, or as I said earlier not a single red cent if I feel I was lied to.
I bet if at least 75% started using real photos that didn't get more photoshopping then a major magazine shoot, half these girls who go back to backpage status based on looks.
I guess women empowerment, self-image and being proud to use REAL photos are only directed at major corporation who sell the idea of beauty and not to FALSE advertise 
I know sucks for you, where you gave up all your personal info and employment info to meet a lady only to find out she looks like some made-up trailer girl and you can't do a thing about it because she will blacklist you so you suck it up and deal with it. You can't even write a proper review without living in fear 
But Thank God to America for ball-less men, without these men how would some of these ladies make a penny 
Even your post has political correctness as not to offend certain ladies...
But in all regards you are paying her to like the troll or gross individual you probably are ( no disrespect ), and that means she has to tolerate you.
However you are NOT paying to tolerate her and her unattractiveness, otherwise she should be paying you ( I think you totally miss the whole point of your own post trying to be "nice" and "understanding"...
Save the nice and understanding for someone who you really love and care about and understand that this is still a business transaction regardless of how your head may think about it.
I hear you loud and clear---and I'm in agreement with you. But this is what I'm trying to get at---HAVING to be "NICE" every single day without exception in order to provide the services we ask for has got to be pretty damn tough at times!! This isn't about political correctness, it's about acknowledging that this is a rough business--and the great providers have the ability to make their clients feel special even if they're feeling like shit!! I raised this discussion to point out I have a VERY tough time in this situation and it hasn't happened to me all that often--yet I bet it happens for a provider every damn week. Honestly, there's no way I could do it on a consistent basis!!
I guess in the end what I'm trying to say is that good providers work for their money--it ain't all frivolous big-money fun and games!!
Yeah, its SO tough being nice to somebody for $$$$$ an hour. And their WORK is SO hard too. Gimme a fkin break dude.
The manginas around here have them WORK SO HARD as they force them to suck down champagne, go out to upscale dinners, see Broadway shows, etc.
Christ, half the time these broads have a Hitachi attached to their cooch!
Oh the agony of ANOTHER orgasm while at "WORK". Oh the humanity of it all!
Maybe we can stop sending our money to all those poor kids in Africa or the wounded vets or those sad dogs and cats on that ad with Sarah McLaughlin and instead set up a fund for all the hookers out there that need a new pair of Loubatins
Well.......do you really believe that every single woman in the profession lives a pampered champagne swilling, upscale life as you describe it? Do you think that all the guys who see them are GQ model looking dudes with money to burn? I don't think so!!
There was a great book that was written many years back called "Brothel"--which was a profile of the late, great Mustang Ranch in Nevada. The journalist/sociologist who wrote this was given free access to the entire place and was able to observe all the "intimate" details. She vividly described one guy who came every week---he was a grossly overweight pocket protector wearing nerd with ZERO personality, looks, or social skills. Yet the provider he visited constantly told him how "sexy" he was, how she couldn't wait for him to see her, etc. Of COURSE it's an act---but a guy like that in all honesty aint getting laid ANYWHERE else--this was the one place where he could at least get some form of female companionship.
I just wonder how many providers have dudes like I just described that they have to entertain. Probably a lot more than you think. And there is NO WAY if the situation were reversed could I put on an act and perform with a sloppy, obnoxious, overweight chick with zero social graces! I could never do it!!
they spend their entire life lying to each other lying to men
and lying to themselves I am sure that hooker has no problem lying to that dude
and she does want to see him its easy money
a sloppy, obnoxious, overweight chick with zero social graces! I could never do it!!
you just described most broads
imagine the pathetic dudes that live with them
and have to do just that
most of the country!
I would rather bang a hooker for lunch and get a table for one in the evening.
There is no obligation for either party. That's the risk in this biz, either party can get stood up/turned away/change their mind at any time. When you get there, if you don't like what you see, you turn around and leave. You don't think she would turn you away in a heartbeat if she got a bad vibe from you? I'm saying bad vibe because most hookers don't care about looks or weight. If she comes to you, you should reimburse her for gas or taxi.
You definitely shouldn't pretend to not be able to perform and pay for a hooker massage. Please, grow a sack. That's the problem these days. Men have been so whipped and beaten down by women in general that they have lost their balls. This is just one example, but I'm speaking more on a grander scale
The provider may very well say something to the effect of: "I cleared the time on my schedule to accommodate this person and acted professionally--and then when he shows he just turns around and leaves." Something like that could potentially do BIG-TIME damage to your reputation---it's amazing how the news spreads like wildfire on something like this--particularly in our underground community. So there's a lot more to this issue than just "growing a sack!!"
I guess my philosophy is if I have to grin and bear it once in a great while when things aren't clicking in order to sustain my reputation as a stand-up reliable client I'll do so. Maybe if this type of thing happened a lot I'd feel differently.