does it help when a provider White list's a hobbist, I know it's frustrating for both parties.
Has only been around for about 8 or 9 months. I think it got off to a slow start but alot of providers are beginning to use them as referrals. I think one reason for the slow start is alot of hobbyists are reluctant to give out there TER handles when scheduling with a new provider.
that the goal was to get to the point were you used only your handle and perhaps your first name
There is alot more to screening than to just see if you have a couple of references, so with many reputable providers you will always have to give your full name as well as other info.
I use the White List and my TER handle for getting verified with new ladies. I use the same handle on a couple of websites and it works great for me.
I have had trouble getting White Listed from some ladies, not because they didn't want to, but becaue they don't understand how to do it.
I have had better luck getting verified by ladies on Date-Check because their system is apparently much easier for the ladies to use. Not all ladies are set up properly on TER and it makes White Listing difficult.
I prefer White Listing here on TER because of the cache not only of the site, but of the ladies represented here.
I am including a link for White List FAQs: http://www.theeroticreview.com/info_policies/whiteListFAQ.asp#G
Best of Luck and Good Hobbying
Personally, I do not even ask... seems more like you are trying to stroke yourself than anything else.
My experience has been that once I got a few solid white list references it got significantly easier to make appointments.
Yes, I do use my TER handle in contacting TER ladies. A quick viewing of the boards and my reviews will give her a helluva lot better idea who I am than a 30 second phone call to my job. And as you can see, it has not disuaded me from leaving a neg when called for.
Has nothing to do with ego, just convenience...
avoid having to stroke myself too often...LOL
I got my first two White List referrals without asking, but now I ask because it has really made booking appts. so much easier,especially when traveling.
But to each their own. With 58 reviews obviously what you are doing works for you, so as they said in the 70's keep on truckin'
And Have A Great Day!
spooked a provider during this process, should I let it go, initiate contact again with her, I do not want to alienate anyone?
did not remember me, so we went with the work number, name etc, a couple of emails back and forth and then it stop. My only conclusion is she suspected I was not who I said I was, and I completely understand her her side of all this.
If she was unable to verify you to her satisfaction, she should have politely said so. I would send her one polite note asking if she completed her screening and if she does not reply, just move on. There are plenty of other ladies out there.