First, ask him to share with you what his sexual fantasies are, or perhaps, if he is reticent, you tell him yours.
You never know sometimes what is going to turn you on until you find it. Remember, the brain is the greatest sexual organ of all, so make good use of it. By the way, the other advice on here is excellent too
I am a young Israeli provider on Long Island and NYC
My client base is probably 40% guys over 60.
Some have the stamina of young guys and do very well with me, some have issues due to health or meds that setback their performance greatly.
My goal is say or do things that will make my clients feel most comfortable.
I've noticed, also, It is the guys that put pressure on themselves that have a harder time with performance.
I am looking for suggestions on any type of approach that the gentlemen on this page prefer in the event of that day where things are not "working." How could the date be salvaged at this point?
Assuming that you mean "no orgasmo" on his part, then a sensual body rub may be the ticket, or suggesting something "out of the box" just for fun, without expectations on anyone's part...
Wasn't there a thread about prostate stimulation? Or how about teaching him to stimulate you with toy or the tip of a finger?
So many enjoyable games, none of which center on him spurting... 😎😎😎😎😎
I'm sure if your clients are having problems with their erections....They know it!!!
Just let them savor you. It's what I would do if I could not satisfy you with intercourse.
That's why DATY was invented....RIGHT???
Just let them make love with you...not to you!
This has happened to me a few times since hitting north of 60 years old. Addressing it in the open and showing your understanding and appreciation for the opportunity to spend time together is good. Also assurance we are not the only one with such performance problems. As you mention, the more pressure that is self-imposed makes the problem worse
I just had to say goodby to two of my favorite providers. They are both moving away. I am a very mature gent 75 on my last birthday so I know what you are talking about. These two providers didn't say all the normal stuff (oh what a big cock you have, you can fuck better than most 40 year olds, ect) That's all bullshit, I'm 75 and know what I am packin' and I know that I can't fuck as well as any 40 year old. As you get older you have to face the facts. The facts are that I most likely enjoy sex more than the 40 year olds, I can make it last for a full hour before I climax, not that I want to, it's just that I can't cum any quicker than that. Sometimes I can't cum at all but I still enjoy the encounter almost as much. These are the facts for me but I will still go see the ladies as long as they will have me.
Just let them take the lead and do what they want. maybe it's only to talk to a beautiful young lady. I know one beautiful young lady that would make me happy if she would just spend an hour being naked around me. So far I haven't had to settle for that but I can see it coming in the near future, and that will be OK too.
This is a great way to spend my social security check each month. I worked a lifetime for it and this is what I want to spend it on. Have fun out there.
This was after about being here 3 hrx. When she sees me it isn't a "typical" escort session because we have a more personal relationship, but I digress. I am seldom able to climax except by oral methods. So she gives me a very good massage,then we do is cuddle, kiss, I nibble, lick and suck on her sensitive nipples and work my way down for some intense DATY (assisted by a small vibrator that she likes. After she has come a couple of times it is time for me. She is out of this world with BBJB with CIM.The moral of this story is that there are intimate and pleasurable things you can do to build up to a brief but explosive orgasm. It pays to build a relationship with clients so they will repeat. Encourage them by your sensitivity to their problem and the soluti
Ps. I also felt I needed to brag a bit about a really great session I just had who is 50 years younger than me.lo
I think you should be bragging about that.
that happened to me once (ok, ok, more than once, but in this specific instance):
i was with a brand new date, once i had never had a session with before (we had met at a meet & greet and had previously been in email contact working towards getting together).
it was great, she was beautiful, i was having the time of my life.
but...
as we lay on the bed the old magic dragon just wasn't getting into his full attentive position.
the great thing this lady did, without commenting without saying a word, without anything at all, she lay back on her back on the bed, spread her legs and began masturbating.
she writhed very erotically, and eventually came to a big O. it was a joyous sight to behold.
i have since seen her more than any other provider i have seen. she is one of my atfs. and the old magic dragon has gotten much much better at doing his job with her (just saw her last week, she loved riding the dragon).
irst of all, put yourself in the position of the gentleman. Say for instance, something happened to women at the age of 55 that prevented them from having sex. This might sound funny, but imagine if your pussy closed off at that age. That means you couldn't have sex anymore. Not the knock down drag out roll in the hay kind of sex. You couldn't even use a toy. What if you were the type of woman who only experienced orgasm vaginally, not via the clitoris. What if you enjoyed the lifestyle of a provider, the money, meeting interesting people, and traveling. Now that's in jeopardy. What about your S.O.? How would you feel?
That's what we're going through. We're not happy about it. Sometimes the meds work, but most times they don't, or they give you massive headaches. You so much still want to hobby, but you have so many doubts now, you simply don't bother sending that email. So when you're in such a situation, try to think about what you'd feel like if the reverse were true. What would you want a gentleman to say to you? What would you hope they put in your reviews? Go from there.
One more thing. Here are some things you shouldn't say. Hurry up. What’s the problem? Don’t you like me? Next time bring your A game. Can I start the shower? I’m not doing my job if you don’t get off. That won't happen next time
stimulation can lead to a fantastic orgasm. A female condom works most times as well although I still prefer an oral climax.
A sensual massage can be great as well as her letting the guy use some of her toys on her.
The guy needs to do all he can to be both mentally and physically prepared; meaning plenty of rest, fluids, abstaining from self-pleasure, maintaining a sensible diet at least 48 hours prior (no fried foods), etc.
I'll trade trying to maintain the erection longer over early cumming. Sometimes this means at the end I'll have difficulty cumming. An erection just allows more opportunities for variety. Cumming, at least to me, is a bit too brief of an experience to be the driving factor.
Obviously there are erection issues which some face worse than others. But direct and vigorous stimulation of the cock and balls is always enjoyable, erect or not. So rather than saying anything, seized the opportunity when the situation presents itself.
and I wish I had a one size fits all answer for you. But I don't. One thing I can say is what not to do. Don't tell the guy it's no big deal, I don't mind, don't worry about it. To him, it is a big deal. When I've had problems achieving or maintaining an erection I do like to watch her masturbate and I do like her to touch and massage my genital. It often has the desired effect.
Good discussion as an almost 70 year old (69 is there something to that number), I have always experienced some issues of getting and maintaining an erection; ed drugs do help considerably, but anxiety always enters into it. Taking things nice and slow are key words here and not focussing on the end game. It is pleasurable to enjoy being with a naked or close to naked female and not only receiving but also giving pleasure. Getting hard is still exciting but not rushing to an orgasm. I have greatly enjoyed FBSM, coupled with prostate stimulation as well as oral sex. There's something about sexual intercourse which can be daunting especially for one who suffers from some anxiety and as we age the body can provide us with anxiety. So my watchwords are relax, go slow, enjoy mutual pleasuring and let what happens take place.
It's weird.. getting off comes and goes (pun intended).. I'm 66.. Lately pretty much I can get off once via sex but not via a BBBJ.. the second time it helps a lot of there is something like an Hitachi around that I use, and I find that it sends me over the edge if a provider gets into a little light anal play and BLS.. so have a Hitachi and encourage the gent to use it while you help him out a bit.. everything gets less stimulating after a while.. so it's good to change things up a bit..
First, ask him to share with you what his sexual fantasies are, or perhaps, if he is reticent, you tell him yours.
You never know sometimes what is going to turn you on until you find it.
Remember, the brain is the greatest sexual organ of all, so make good use of it.
By the way, the other advice on here is excellent too
I known times when a I know my lover is enjoying giving me great head when she hums and or moans, slurps and says how great it tastes that I soon cannot hold back from unloading. especially true if he finger slips in and rubs my prostate. Ka-Bam.
coming on here and posing a question like this. Of course, the over 60 board was the appropriate spot for such a query. But it showed some smarts to come up with such an insightful question after the beating you took on the local thread for the story about your plight with the taser episode. You are a trooper, to say the least.
Props also to the guys in this thread for the class they always exhibit, especially compared to some of the other forums.
When I feel nothing is going to happen I focus on her. Something slow and sensual since that's what I respond to best. I'll suggest giving her a massage, daty or just laying next to each other talking, petting and kissing until ready.
You will not find many providers of you age on my dance card/ This issue here for me is that too many of he younger providers are use do the 60 second wonders. They are hot and know it and wether on purpose or not give off the sense of doing a favor rather than living the experience/
At my age I now enter a session and as soon as appropriate tell the provider that things may or may it happen even with drugs and to not take it personal. If nenough dugs will it getup with enough not may get off. Once the pressure is off we an enjoyable lot of mutual give and take and let happe what does
Some times a hand job will work when nothing else will .