Just some tips for newbies that I've picked up through experience and listening to other people:
1. Check out the newbie board; lots of good info there
2. Get the VIP membership so you can see the review details and have access to the PM system
3. Spend some time learning how to use the search functions for both reviews and the discussion board so you can identify ladies you would be interested in seeing based on the criteria that matter most to you (ex: looks, menu, rates, etc.)
4. Figure out what kind of verification the ladies you would like to see require and how you can meet those requirements. Some ladies are very particular. Others are more flexible. It's OK to contact them about it if you are not sure; just remember to be discreet. Any explicit questions will likely get you disconnect or otherwise ignored.
5. Some ladies advertise here or on other sites that they are newbie friendly; keep an eye out for that.
6. Consider joining a site such as P411 that pre-screens potential clients. Some escorts will accept membership in such sites as satisfactory verification.
7. If you are still puzzled by something after having done research, please feel free to ask questions. I think for the most part we are willing to help out so long as we think you are not just freeloading on what others have learned.
8. Develop a bit of a thick skin; some people are going to be jerks regardless.
9. If an ad or offer looks TGTBT, it's probably TGTBT.
10. If you find yourself in any situation that doesn't feel quite right, trust your instincts and walk away.
11. As a newcomer, stick with well-reviewed ladies. It's harder when you are inexperienced to figure out who the legit providers are from the fakes and scammers when they don't have reviews.
12. Google is very useful. Searching on a phone number or other info from an ad in Google can sometimes save you a lot of grief. Google Image Search is another very useful tool to search for other places where pictures in an ad are being used.
13. To help uncover ads that are using someone else pics Google Image Search and Tineye are useful tools. Much better to find out ahead of time that the girl you are thinking of calling is using the pics from some porn star or model or that the pics have been used in ads from one side of the country to the other.
14. Get an anonymous hobby email that is not through your work, school, or anything connected to your real life (yahoo, hotmail, gmail, etc.) and use it for all your hobby email activity and for nothing else. Be sure you include nothing that identifies who you really are when you create it.
15. Get a prepaid phone that you use for nothing else other than hobby phone calls and pay cash for it and whatever refill minutes you buy.
Posted By: twinsfan3333
Last time I was on this broad I got ripped up about being le blah blah blah. Shit blew up and I have bad anxiety so I left the hobby before I ever got into it. I saw someone back in 2008 and I'm young so at that time I was 18 hardly making any money. Went to college and again worried about school n still not making any money saw a provider in 2013. Again I have bad anxiety and I prefer to be alone rather than have a gf. I'm now out of college with no degree just bartending wanting to see a provider.
I'm curious you guys gonna rip me up or accept me
I have been a long time follower always check the ads and boards there is a few girls I like I love shill Friday's always make me want to come out
I turn 26 this weekend and have been wanting to see someone. I can do any requirement they want but I don't have a lot of references.
I'm still inexperienced in the adult game so I'm kinda looking for someone to teach me/ give lessons plus have follow ups so I improve my confidence in the real world
A few things I would do/wish I knew when I was new.
All of the above..newbie board, etc.
You have to narrow down what you like. With VIP, that will be easier.
Reputable providers - do some research. Don't fall for a BP ad, they should have a page, or P411.
Introduce yourself and put some effort into initial contact. They are ladies.
Pick a good time for you: ask for day/time/length, incall/outcall, etc. - Or have a few options ready. Don't be vague.
Have your references or info ready.
I don't know about being anxious, but these lovely ladies in MN accommodate almost anything. Maybe you, and you alone, can read in reviews who has a setting or attitude you like? Experienced providers have probably heard it before, so don't be ashamed.
Communicate well, but don't over-communicate
Good or Bad, don't write a review right off of emotion. Wait a couple of days, let it all sink in.
Enjoy the hobby, don't get caught up in it!
(I'll get my *alias* ripped for this! So you aren't alone.
Posted By: twinsfan3333
Last time I was on this broad I got ripped up about being le blah blah blah. Shit blew up and I have bad anxiety so I left the hobby before I ever got into it. I saw someone back in 2008 and I'm young so at that time I was 18 hardly making any money. Went to college and again worried about school n still not making any money saw a provider in 2013. Again I have bad anxiety and I prefer to be alone rather than have a gf. I'm now out of college with no degree just bartending wanting to see a provider.
I'm curious you guys gonna rip me up or accept me
I have been a long time follower always check the ads and boards there is a few girls I like I love shill Friday's always make me want to come out
I turn 26 this weekend and have been wanting to see someone. I can do any requirement they want but I don't have a lot of references.
I'm still inexperienced in the adult game so I'm kinda looking for someone to teach me/ give lessons plus have follow ups so I improve my confidence in the real world[/
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What does "shit blew up" mean? You got negative responses? Why would that make you leave the hobby, anxious or otherwise? This board is not the hobby. The hobby is you and the lady.
Some people take shit personal! Especially from the likes of you and butthole! Instead of just chalking it up to just being the way it is!
Posted By: darmody
What does "shit blew up" mean? You got negative responses? Why would that make you leave the hobby, anxious or otherwise? This board is not the hobby. The hobby is you and the lady.
Years ago I originally asked if anyone had info on a certain provider. I didn't have vip and the thread got 30plus responders mostly negative. You are right though this broad isn't the hobby but a very useful tool.
Along with the newbie reference above.
I would just contact the ladies or agencys that advertise on here or have good reviews. Then ask them what they need for verification and have all your info ready.
I got my start with a couple of agencies. One no long posts or has reviews on the site. But they are newbie friendly. If you have questions feel free to PM who those agencies are.
But about the anxiety.... communicate with the provider or agency your concerns and most of the time these ladies will take good care of you.
good luck
Most everyone went into their first session with anxiety about something. Getting caught, not performing, saying something wrong, etc.... Here are the givens: you will get touched; you will be accepted for who you are, no matter what; you will enjoy yourself if you can allow yourself; it will end faster than you expected; you will feel awkward afterwards because your brain and emotions are tying to sort out what just happened; you may feel regret or shame; you will likely want to do it again.
Humans need touch and connection to be fulfilled. The hobby provides a semblance of the real thing. You'll be fine and the worst part will be all the stuff you make up about the experience and any judgements you make about yourself. Be compassionate with yourself and you'll have a much better experience. If you can make it work, I really recommend Happiness for you.
Good recommendation. Her or any Top 10 will rock your world, and help you with real
Life confidence. Five minutes in, you'll forget it's P4P. Not a bad place to start.
Posted By: jchan113
Most everyone went into their first session with anxiety about something. Getting caught, not performing, saying something wrong, etc.... Here are the givens: you will get touched; you will be accepted for who you are, no matter what; you will enjoy yourself if you can allow yourself; it will end faster than you expected; you will feel awkward afterwards because your brain and emotions are tying to sort out what just happened; you may feel regret or shame; you will likely want to do it again.
Humans need touch and connection to be fulfilled. The hobby provides a semblance of the real thing. You'll be fine and the worst part will be all the stuff you make up about the experience and any judgements you make about yourself. Be compassionate with yourself and you'll have a much better experience. If you can make it work, I really recommend Happiness for you.
I miss you Wongy baby! Come back and let's do another MMF with you suckin' my thick sludge. Deal?
-e-
Posted By: jchan113
Most everyone went into their first session with anxiety about something. Getting caught, not performing, saying something wrong, etc.... Here are the givens: you will get touched; you will be accepted for who you are, no matter what; you will enjoy yourself if you can allow yourself; it will end faster than you expected; you will feel awkward afterwards because your brain and emotions are tying to sort out what just happened; you may feel regret or shame; you will likely want to do it again.
Humans need touch and connection to be fulfilled. The hobby provides a semblance of the real thing. You'll be fine and the worst part will be all the stuff you make up about the experience and any judgements you make about yourself. Be compassionate with yourself and you'll have a much better experience. If you can make it work, I really recommend Happiness for you.
Don't overthink this stuff. Contact a well reviewed lady. Meet
Just use that in the hobby world...
Signing up for p411/Ter/ other hobby venues is a great way for a beginning newbie.. There are newbie friendly providers you may want to search for... Hobbying isn't a hard thing, just be nice, fun, respectful & love sex!!
My 0.02 cent!!!
Happy hobbying!!
Gem
