are you kidding. like 75% of CL has complaints. use TER and use someone with at least 5-7 reviews and good scores, from people who review often.
Well, tomorrow I booked with a local provider who is not reviewed here.
My question is, what should raise red flags and what situations should I walk out on? Such as questions or key words she may use? What should I avoid saying at all costs?
Also, how do you bring up the donation and actually leave the donation?
Well, the first in my mind is that she's not reviewed here. If you're new, chances are that your spidey senses aren't fully developed. But since you're going to do it anyway, make sure that she looks EXACTLY like the picture, and doesn'trush you for the money. Those are both red flags to me, but they're only that. Lots of times, it's just a coincidence and you could still have fun...
Good luck
I can not find reviews anywhere, plus I got her # on CL. She has listings going on for 4 days so far, plus its an outcall. Should I just cancel out of safety?
Ok, first big red flag, its a CL ad and no reviews anywhere. Now, she just might be legitimate, and new to the business, but as a newbie yourself, let someone with more experience and wisdom go and scout the unfamiliar territory for you. Even before you see her, there ARE red flags you can identify just from doing some research on her.
First off, what about her pics? Do they have a professional appearance to them? Use a little logic here. If she has pics that have a professional polish, but has no reviews, and no website of her own, something doesn't add up. If she's smart enough to pay for professional pics, why isn't she bright enough to have a website?
Lets assume the pics are your typical grainy, can barely see any detail, background is clearly a cheap hotel pic that is common on CL. What does this tell you about her? She doesn't appear to have invested much time, thought, or effort into her "business". The likely reason is that she's looking at dollar signs, and you are the donor. She doesn't care if you repeat, in fact she expects that you won't, but she's happy while she counts the money, and the less effort she has to put forth, the better. If she intends to put effort into her time with you, having put some effort into her ads will be the first clue.
Outcall only sounds like a great idea. That reduces your concerns about LE involvement, but again, lets think this through. You know absolutely nothing about her. I am assuming that if you are seeing her as an outcall that she will be coming to your home? Do you want a completely strange woman showing up on your doorstep, neighbors agog while she stands there in neon pink hot pants, great hoop earrings, and 6" platform heels? If she turns out to be a complete flake, do you want her to know and remember your address? If she gets busted at some point, do you want her to have your information, including your address?
This is just some food for thought. My best suggestion is to stop, think, and use TER as a resource to find well reviewed ladies with excellent reputations until you have enough experience to go out and scout the new ladies yourself without putting yourself at risk.
Whatever you decide, good luck and have fun - and be sure to write a review!
I have Scoutted several laidies on the ter and as soon as i find one i like i will see a review of them that will conferm that or tell me to look at some one ells. for instance i had settled on a lady who would perform the task i wanted. i read a review ware she had given a "(tuma)" which is fine for some people but for me i did not want to pay for some LFK or DFK with this youg lady any more. so i moved on and have fond ev en more canidates.
I used to advertise on Craigs List (and I'm a newbie provider myself), but stopped because of recent incidents.
If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't use CL at all. Best to stick with TER. That way, you know that you're getting a good quality provider.
It's polite to have the donation ready in an unsealed envelope and to place it on a table/dresser within a few minutes of your arrival.
Thanks.
What's got me worried are the lack of reviews everywhere plus I got her # on CL. It will be an outcall though. Should I cancel?
im a dork, i just count it out. i dont bother with the envelopes lol. feels too weird in an envelope, never once did that. wastes paper too :o
I hope like hell you did not get jammed up - personally I avoid CL like the plague, stick with only well reviewed ladies on TER or providers who have been recommended to me thru the hobby itself.
I would say seeing someone who is not reviewed should be done by an "old salt" who has been in the hobby for a while... "taking one for the team" is not all it is cracked up to be.
Get there a bit early and drive around the place. If you see a lot of Crown Vic's parked around, keep on driving.
Yes, I'm still here. I think I'll stick with ter girls for now and cancel this. Thanks for the advice everyone.
Do not use an unreviewed provider, advertising on Craig's List as your first time encounter. Not smart. Craig's List is not worth the effort for a newbie. Trust an independent, well reviewed TER provider. You will have much less stress and anxiety leading up to the meeting and a much better session. And, to make your situation worse, you are doing outcall, so she now knows where you live.
In terms of the donation, just have it in an envelope, in plain view. Do not mention it. If she asks about it, just look over to where it is, but say nothing.
Thanks for the advice fellas, I've been learning a lot reading on this site. It's cancelled right now, and I"ll be looking for reputable providers from now on.
it is better to pay a bit more for verified provider than to risk a session with non-performer, or worse an LE bust where bail and fine would cost you considerably more $$$.
are you kidding. like 75% of CL has complaints. use TER and use someone with at least 5-7 reviews and good scores, from people who review often.
Thanks again for helping keep me safe. This is exactly what I am doing right now, 6+ reviews with good scores from reviewers w/ multiple reviews.
"use TER and use someone with at least 5-7 reviews and good scores, from people who review often."
This is exactly what I'm doing right now. Thanks for the great info!
I'm a provider and one of my friends had her picture stolen from her site and put on CL with a different phone number.
Definitely not to be trusted.