with a lady, something felt awkward - it can happen even after you have been doing this for years - often it could just be you, her, whatever. Chalk it up to experience - but do not refuse to see her again if you think it was just a fluke. I have had a couple of awkward meetings with ladies, only to find on subsequent sessions we really hit it off and the "ok" session was not the norm.
Hey all. I recently had my first experience in the hobby here and it turned out to be kind of akward. I think I was just very nervous. Has anyone else been excited about their first time and not had a great experience only to have much better experiences afterwards? The provider was very well reviewed, but perhaps not exactly my type. I think I went into the experience expecting something totally different. I guess I expected to relax and enjoy it more and feel somehow closer to the provider than I did. I enjoyed it, but it left me feeling a little strange. Anyone else have similar experiences? I am wondering if it was just not a great experience or if the hobby really might not be for me. Any help is greatly appreciated.
You're not always going to connect with the provider you meet, so don't be discouraged. I've been at this for a few months and have had that happen once, and all other experiences were more wonderful than the next. Read a lot of reviews before choosing your next provider and relax!
Like many others, this post that really hit home. My first time wasn't exactly awkward, it was more like confusing. I walked into the hotel room feeling very nervous, like you did. To give an explanation for it, I just told the girl that it was my first time using a service. She was very understanding about it, agreed to "take the lead" when I asked her to, and gave me some words of encouragement. All in all, I enjoyed my first venture into the hobby, and have been going back ever since.
As for your question about whether or not the hobby is for you, here's something the said provider told me: "one day, you're going to look back on your first appointment and laugh". It's amazing how right she was. Soon enough, it's going to true for you.
might have been the provider. i know my first time in the hobby was strange too because of the fact that i didnt click much with the first provider i saw.
since then, ive had a few really memorable sessions.
theres really no reason to be nervous either. remember these ladies have seen it all and probably find it kind of cute when a first timer comes along.
come to think of it, i still get nervous and ive seen around 10 sessions so far lol
I was nervous the first time as well, fortunately my provider put me at ease very quickly. Since that time I have tried to look for the provider reviews that seem to provide that comfort level even tho I am not entirely new anymore. My providers have been like good friends and great lovers...keep it up...soon you will have many ATFs...
with a lady, something felt awkward - it can happen even after you have been doing this for years - often it could just be you, her, whatever. Chalk it up to experience - but do not refuse to see her again if you think it was just a fluke. I have had a couple of awkward meetings with ladies, only to find on subsequent sessions we really hit it off and the "ok" session was not the norm.
My first time was extremely awkward. I was responding to an add in a sex magazine advertising a voluptuous provider. I had to call from a particualar pay phone (nervous about that) which was in view of the place (as the phone person said, is that you in the leather jacket...freaking me out more, as I was being watched). I show up at the door and the madam introduces me to two very skinny women. I say, I was hoping for someone a little heavier. Next thing I know, the madam states, "Oh, God he wants me" (she was heavier for sure) and in seconds she is leading me into the bedroom. She says she usually does only S&M (had the equipment in the room to prove it) but since I was cute (read, had money) she would fuck me. After telling me to strip,and lie on my back, she took total control. A quick blow job was followed by her putting the condom on and mounting me CG...It happened so fast. At least it worked out okay...not great, but you learn
Read the reviews and do your homework. When you find someone you can click with it will be wonderful. I would look for an experienced lady.
I really appreciate all the feedback. I kind of feel like it is just my general unshakable nerves with the ladies to begin with. I have a very hard time relaxing myself in these situations no matter how confident I might be. I think what made it awkward was that I almost went into it in order to have a comfortable experience and to work on confidence, but when it turned out to not be what I expected it made it much more uncomfortable. Anyway, I'm feeling better already and am starting to look forward to the next encounter. I just have to find the right girl...it doesn't help that I am extremely picky. Thanks again to everyone, you have all been a huge help.
I wanted to have some experience before I met the chosen one. The first experience was not bad but the second one is now my ATF whom I see at least weekly.
2 or 3 more encounters close together.
1 a day is good, 2 a day is much better
When you were learning how to ride a bike you still had to go thru that learning curve too.
One a day would be good, but I work 11 hours a day and I need to borrow some cash. Anyone willing to donate? LOL, thanks again for all the feedback everyone. I will hopefully go for round two sometime in the next few weeks.
Be sure to post a review.
I did. Rejected due to provider being delisted between the time I made the appointment and when I saw her. Oh well.