I can appreciate your situation.  Its similar to when you wanted to get your first credit card or loan as a youth.  You wanted to extablish credit, and the first thing they required was that you have credit.

Some providers will see gentlemen without references.  I believe, however, this is the exception.

There are a few verification services out there that might help you.  Locally, in Chicago, RS2K is the premiere service.  But, DateCheck, is nationwide.

You can start by getting verified by one of these services.

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You may find this thread from page 2 here to be of interest and answer some of your questions also:

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=22117&boardID=33&page=2

Here are a few more links to some other comments on similar questions

You can find similar posts by searching the board for previous posts. By utilizing the "Search message" tab located third from the right at the top of the forum and placing the word "reference" in the square that appears on your screen when you click this tab (*second box from the top with the words "search for" next to the square. You can leave all of the other boxes empty but place 999 in the first box on the left next to the words "day range- from"  

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=33&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&Search=reference&SearchType=1&Author=Tori%20Of%20ATL&DayFrom=930&DayTo=0&MessageID=21522&frmSearch=1

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=33&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&Search=reference&SearchType=1&Author=Tori%20Of%20ATL&DayFrom=930&DayTo=0&MessageID=21215&frmSearch=1


Happy hobbying and best wishes in finding what you are seeking......  

Know your provider (*and her reputation*)  kisses ~Tori


**sorry about the modify, typo**

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