I wrote back in december about my problem with escorts not returning my emails. I still have that problem somewhat, but I have a worst problem. Providers accepting and making an appointment with me and not showing up; both incalls and outcalls. Is the just the nature of the beast or what could it be HOW?
It is hard to say without knowing any particulars. We have probably all experienced NC/NS, but you seem to have real issues. Maybe it is in your approach?, your selection?, impossible to speculate with no details.
Are you shopping on Craig's List or are you sticking with proven ladies with TER reviews?
If you are polite & watching your etiquette, I would say 'its just the nature of the beast'. This happened to me quite often when I first started (This January). First two appointments were no shows!! Nervous as all get out + 'ready to go' only to get stood up. Talk about a low day. Thought I was on some kind of sh** list. Things will work out in time. Part of the learning experience. Dont take it personally!
One of my pet peeves which has happened to me a lot in the beginning was them being late. I can't stand this as there are times when I need a quickie(literally) and need to be somewhere else.
Usually now, I know when they say "I'll be there in 5 minutes", it usually means 20-30 minutes.
Never been stood up but I would imagine that would bite, especially if you had to wait a long time with no show on top of that.
I've recently seen some correspondence that a friend of mine has gotten from prospective clients, and it's amazing that anyone sees them. Usually, those emails raise a red flag, and the least little thing clinches the deal that she won't see you.
It's important to remember not to profess your love to someone you've never met. They tend to think it's creepy.
Not saying it's the problem in your situation, but you may want to examine the process from the beginning, and see if anything you did may have steamrolled into you causing the no-show.
Seems that something about your e-mail/phone demeanor is spooking a large percentage of providers.
I'd be the first to recommend posting the NC/NS transgressions on your regional board; but with your self admitted "history" of provider response problems; a close examination of your MO is more in order.
FreedomRider thank for your response. I have been seeing the same provider for a while, and she has decide to move on to a different career. I spoke to her about my problem in finding a suitable replacement. She offer to reveiw my emails before I sent them out. " Yes she was a real honey like that" She found it hard to believe the amount of no responses and no shows. I'm a simple man that likes one good provider. Most of the provider in my area are not around long enough to get 4 reviews and they are gone.
in Reno, with CL girls, about 1 in 5 is worth a call, and about half will not show up when promised. The TER girls tend to jump in and out of the business frequently, omly about half of them on page 1 are still providing at any given time. Most will arrive on time, but I still get stood up occasionally. I guess Reno isn't the only place with this problem!
there is something wrong in your approach. In the many years of hobbying I have had, I can count the number of NC/NS on one hand - and two of those were really do to things totally beyond the control of the lady, and they took the initiative to make up for the issue - going well above and beyond.
Make sure you are not bringing anything to the table that may be construed as material for LE setup. Above all be courteous and do not come off like a nervous nelly - if you are sending out vibes like you are nervous, that is easily picked up on and translates to the provider as a red flag.
Wow, sgandolf's post really hit home. When I first started hobbying, I really did sound very nervous when I called. That's probably why so many providers NC/NSed on me (one even gave me fake directions). The girls probably thought: "that guy sounds nervous; I'm not seeing him." It's no different than civvie girls rejecting a guy who sounds nervous when asking them out. In which case, why bother hobbying, if you're still going to get rejected?
As a result, I ended up switching over to agencies, where I was treated *much* better. I'm more comfortable with a third party doing the scheduling, and the girl simply coming to see me, as opposed to having to negotiate a time slot with the provider directly. Agency operators, from my experience, actually seem relieved when a caller sounds nervous. After all, LE would usually sound calm and collected, as they look forward to filling their quota.
I still can't figure one thing out. Why would a nervous caller set off a red flag for a provider? From my experience, it only was the case with indies. As I said above, wouldn't nervousness be a good thing in this case?
Some ladies fear newbies, because of how they may act. Will they become a stalker, fall in love, be violent? Someone with lots of references is pretty much a known commodity. Personally, I prefer initial contact via email, but I'd like to talk to her before we meet. The butterflies are part of the experience.