that the simple answer is...keep your mouth shut! Keeping in mind that said activity is against the law, why would anyone leaving the hobby talk about it?? I understand they may have reasons...but if they can't find other (private) avenues to express themselves I think that being frowned upon would be pretty much expected.
If I were engaged in an illegal activity, say a bookie, con man, dealer, etc (not to compare the hobby to any one of these specifically) and decided to quit...I'd just keep quiet! Make up a cover story to account for the time missing on my resume (not that I'd be listing an illegal activity there anyway!)
and move on.
Why some people can't just keep quiet, at least publically, is beyond me.
Discretion always--especially when we know people outside
it's a good caution to all that if you can't deal with the fallout maybe you shouldn't be partaking. lots to think about. great post!
There was a porn star who used the stage name Traci Lords. She was able to make the transition to "legitimate" acting, but had a very difficult time being accepted. She lamented the fact that Tim Allen, a convicted drug dealer, was able to be accepted as an actor/comedian. She who engaged in a legal activity, was ostracized.
A local executive lost a high paying career because he was busted in a police sting.
People's attitudes regarding the hobby are unlikely to change anytime soon. I have two rules regarding the hobby: (1) Never out any provider for any reason, ever. (2) Avoid any provider who outs a hobbyist
that the simple answer is...keep your mouth shut! Keeping in mind that said activity is against the law, why would anyone leaving the hobby talk about it?? I understand they may have reasons...but if they can't find other (private) avenues to express themselves I think that being frowned upon would be pretty much expected.
If I were engaged in an illegal activity, say a bookie, con man, dealer, etc (not to compare the hobby to any one of these specifically) and decided to quit...I'd just keep quiet! Make up a cover story to account for the time missing on my resume (not that I'd be listing an illegal activity there anyway!)
and move on.
Why some people can't just keep quiet, at least publically, is beyond me.
I thought the same thing?
that the simple answer is...keep your mouth shut! Keeping in mind that said activity is against the law, why would anyone leaving the hobby talk about it?? I understand they may have reasons...but if they can't find other (private) avenues to express themselves I think that being frowned upon would be pretty much expected.
If I were engaged in an illegal activity, say a bookie, con man, dealer, etc (not to compare the hobby to any one of these specifically) and decided to quit...I'd just keep quiet! Make up a cover story to account for the time missing on my resume (not that I'd be listing an illegal activity there anyway!)
and move on.
Why some people can't just keep quiet, at least publically, is beyond me.
A few months ago on the GD board, a provider posted a vent about how a douchebag co-worker had outed her to her boss, and she was fired. Unfortunately, she didn't name the company, but if she had, I wouldn't be doing any business with that particular company. For instance, let's say a local restaurant fired a server because they found that she was one of our local ladies, I would no longer patronize that restaurant, and I would let everyone I knew know why. OTOH, if a local business was going out of their way to employ former sex workers, drug dealers, etc., I would go out of my way to spend money there and to spread the word to others to support that particular business. I should add that this concept applies to a lot of issues in our society and government. Do your research and know where your products came from and who benefits from your patronage. Find out what these companies do with the money that you spend on their products and how they treat their workers.
A vote with a dollar can have far more impact than your vote for a political candidate.