and glad I could provide some fodder for you to bust his balls.
As a "somewhat" newbie I was wondering about proper time and protocol to inquire or confirm things like language upgrades. While some providers advertise and I feel comfortable specifying requests/requirements up front, others do not, but reviews indicate they are available. I do not want to have a provider worried I am LE by trying to get them to discuss too early, but niether do I want to be informed in the middle of a session. I don't like bait and switch, but want to clarify ASAP. I do not want to miss out on an opportunity for additional pleasures just because I don't know how to ask.
Really not until after you have left the envelope and had some time to chat and get comfortable with the gal.
If this seems a bit unfair, so be it. She is the one sweating out whether you are a cop or not.
My experience has been that if reviews and/or profiles indicate something like BBBJ or CIM are availiable, then they are what I've gotten.
For the few times that hasn't happen, I have to just chalk it up to learning. That's the breaks.
Remember the rule of YMMV (Your mileage may vary)
The more comfortable she feels with you and the nicer you appear to be (not to mention smell good, well groomed, etc.) the more likely you are to get the goodies.
I agree with Mr. Fisher. You should only mention specifics after you are there and she can assess that you are not a cop. Never broach any specifics in an introductory E-mail or phone call. I have found that most providers, once you are in the bedroom and things are moving along, will ask what you like. At that time you can ask for a BBBJ, or Asian, or whatever else you may want. If they say no, then your out of luck. Chances are that you prob. will not want to see that provider again. If you study the reviews, however, most likely you will know what is allowed and what is not. You will find the right provider for you.
Bait and switch is something completely different..this is when you show up expecting provider to look like X and she looks like Y (or if your really unlucky, Z).
Relax and good luck.
There's one guy on the Boston board who continually claims to be having anal sex with providers who, for some reason, only seem to do it with him...OK, seriously, with many ladies some services will almost always be YMMV. Comfort level and hygiene can play a huge part in what you get from a gal in certain areas. If a certain activity is a deal breaker for you you are probably destines to suffer some disappointing sessions over the life of your hobbying career. Some things are just a roll of the dice until you are in the throws of passion with the lady in question.
That's why you check multiple reviews (3 or 4) of a provider and verify the reviewer is not a one review and done hobbyist. You can also PM a couple of reviewers to get additional assistance.
Maybe he's got a teenie weenie, so the girls don't notice.
LOL, that's a good one acidom. I remember to post that the next time the little man in question starts bragging about his anal exploits again.
One of the keys to using the reviews to our advantage is the process of cross referencing both the reviewed ladies and the reviewers as well. One great review does not make a great provider just as a bad one or two shouldn't ruin her reputation. Consistency (either positive or negative) and the credibility of the reviewers in question are a deciding factor for me.
and glad I could provide some fodder for you to bust his balls.
Advice understood and appreciated. This specifcally refers to providers who have advertised services in the past but due to legal climate or agency change no longer provide a full "schedule of services" up front. I just want to make sure I ask in the best way possible so everyone is happy. I also want to avoid assuming I have an "all inclusive" when upgrades apply. Running back out to the car for more cash in the middle of a session is not conducive to the best experience.
If the answer is no, the lady (if she is a true lady) will let you know politely. If the answer is yes, it will be just as if she were your girlfriend doing her best to keep you happy.